Let’s be honest – it’s really hard to stop caring about a person. It’s impossible to forget a person, especially if you crushed on that person or even had a relationship in the past.
And part of you is always wondering, “If only I could have done something differently. Maybe if I tried a different approach. Maybe if I had said the right thing or done things differently, maybe then we’d be together.”
Oh wait…maybe you shouldn’t have said that thing that one time! You remember!
See? This can go on forever.
Regrets. Mistakes. Misunderstandings.
But the point is, the relationship is over. In some cases, maybe the romance never even started. Something went wrong.
And the ONLY thing you can take away from this experience is that the two of you were not compatible. You tried your best and it didn’t work.
But you can’t beat yourself up by second-guessing everything you tried. The truth is, this guy had a chance to appreciate you, but did not. He could have seen your truth, your value, your great personality – he could have seen that if he wanted to.
Your inner qualities project outward and are stronger than “mistakes” that we all make in communication.
The truth is he didn’t want to try, he didn’t want to make it work.
As one final show of respect to him, and most of all to yourself, all you can do is let it go.
Along the same lines, in this discussion we’re going to talk about 10 reasons why it’s time to give up on that guy who’s just not that into you.
1. You’ve already wasted enough time in him and it’s time to cut your losses.
In business, cut your losses means you have to close the shop down once you realize it’s going to be unprofitable – before you suffer too much loss that you can’t recover.
Well, the same is true in relationships. You give and you give until it hurts. And you keep thinking if only you could just reach him, if only you could do the one thing and get him to like you.
But it’s just like in business. After you experience grief and loss, you must know when to quit. You have to stop believing in magic and start being kinder to yourself. Cut your losses emotionally, once you realize that this man is not really worth your time.
2. You deserve someone who likes you – not someone you have to win over.
How many hours, days, weeks, have you wasted on a guy that isn’t sure about you? A guy you have to persuade or butter up? Imagine if you could meet another great guy who actually appreciates the effort you put forth to be a good girlfriend, good wife, and good soul mate!
This relationship/crush is obviously not working and you’re wasting too much energy and emotion on it. It’s time to be good to yourself for a change.
3. You’re wasting all this effort on him rather than actively searching for the right kind of guy.
Guess what? All the pining you’re doing for a man that hasn’t even shown genuine commitment to you, is costing you opportunities. With better guys, guys that like you, successful guys, marriageable guys.
By being “taken” in a relationship where there is no real commitment, you’re missing out meeting a lot of new people. Who knows, maybe an opportunity or a blind date could be the best thing that ever happened to you!
4. Because you want to be the best version of you possible – not his version of you.
Ultimately, your goal in life is to be the best possible version of you. You want to live a good life, help people, and make a difference (and having a lot of fun too!).
Your goal in life is NOT to be some guy’s fantasy, or a man’s “perfect trophy wife.”
And not to sound harsh, but yeah, that is what some guys will want you to be. The more self-confidence you have, the more you realize this is your life. Not his. You want to be with a man who loves you for who you are.
5. You’ve learned enough from him.
Every relationship teaches us something, even the “disaster relationships.” That’s a good attitude to have because it helps you to stop thinking of these old relationships as “failures”. Instead, they are learning experiences. They shape you and help you become a better and wise person.
So by that logic, once you learn the “life lesson” of a doomed relationship, it’s time to let go. Right then, right as you learn. There’s no need to keep trying just to prove a point. You tried your best, learned a lot about yourself, and now you can only move forward.
6. If he really liked you, he would find a way to tell you.
Sadly, this is true. If a guy likes you, if there’s any potential at all, he will let you know. He will go out of his way to tell you, show you, or at least keep you as a “friend” in his life that he still texts, phones and video chats with.
But you deserve a full commitment, not a kinda/sorta thing. If he likes you, within a reasonable amount of time, expect him to tell you. If not, assume that he’s not that into you and has his heart tied up elsewhere.
7. You don’t like the way you feel when you interact with him.
Finally, remember that success in a relationship is defined by your personal level of happiness. Are you consistently happy? Do you love yourself and does your man help you to love yourself?
If your only real feeling is misery, disappointment, and a desperate need for hope – it’s time to admit you don’t like this version of you. You must change and evolve into a woman that you love.
As we’ve discussed, once a man fails in these areas, it’s simply time to let go. Don’t forget that a man owes you a great deal of respect. If a man loves you, or even likes you, then he will cherish your friendship. Once you see the signs that he doesn’t care anymore, or that he never cared to begin with, it’s time to let go.
You deserve better than that. And starting now, you’re going to have higher standards. That’s what will help you find a man worth loving for a lifetime.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…
I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…
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I show you what this 5-word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
And how to attract the man you want…
Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…
No matter how painful things have been in your past…
You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…
Just click the link on your screen and watch the video right now…
If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…
