Have you ever felt ignored, taken for granted, and maybe even snubbed by a guy you like? Of course it happens! Contrary to popular belief, not every guy is secretly in love with his friend. A lot of guys are actually just oblivious and not at all feeling what you’re feeling.
On the other hand, even if you’re dating a guy, that’s no guarantee that you have his FULL attention. Some guys can be pretty dense about signals and all the more so when you’re in a relationship and he’s not “in the house” so to speak. You know, guys tend to zone out frequently and sometimes getting his attention requires a bit of drama and flare.
In this discussion, we’re going to list seven ways to get his FULL attention, whether you’re dating or in a relationship. I think you’re going to like these suggestions because they work on an almost instinctive level!
1. Stop trying too hard to be desirable – instead, learn to be confident in your own skin.
Most women make the mistake of trying too hard to get a man’s attention. This either creates conflict or even awkwardness, as the guy sees the attention-seeking behavior, but is not sure what to do about it. A better idea is to focus on being confident, not overeager to please.
Men notice women anyway. So imagine how much attention you could get by simply projecting confidence and letting men come to you. Be confident in your own mind and skin, rather than trying to get their attention. Their attention will then start to gravitate towards you!
2. Try a little bit – and ditch the whole “I don’t care” act.
Another mistake women make is in the opposite direction, pretending that they don’t care at all. This unfortunately causes conflict and misunderstanding. A man might get his feelings hurt or simply conclude that you’re not into him. The desire to get his attention by being cold backfires.
Remember, the whole secret to hot/cold flirting is being HOT then cold. Being just cold won’t do anything. He becomes addicted to the HOT, the warm and enticing behavior that sends him signals. Stop pretending like you don’t care. You do and that’s okay.
3. Learn to put your heart in a conversation.
Putting your “heart” into a conversation is a wonderful skill and it does draw people to you. Most people tend to be nervous or shy around strangers, or even acquaintances sometimes. By learning to talk with “heart”, with emotion and genuine concern for other people, the
4. Give him encouraging signals in tone and body language.
It’s true – the best way to get an oblivious man’s attention is to flirt a little bit. Now that doesn’t mean you have to try so hard. Don’t think about seducing him or forcing him to stare at you. Think about more subtle behaviors like flirting, sending positive signals, gentle breaking the touch barrier and maintaining eye contact with a smile.
Another way to get his attention is to stare at him, leave his gaze, and then stare at him again, but this time letting him catch you. It’s sometimes enough to make a guy notice you and try to get closer, maybe even come up and say hi.
Other subtle ways to get a man’s attraction and attention is to play with your hands or hair, show cleavage or curves, and keep a relaxed posture. Even acting bored seems to get a man’s attention. Last but not least, act coy and blush in his presence, with a childish giggle. It’s a signal that you really like a guy and want more interaction.
5. Take notice when he says or does something that no one else notices.
When it comes to relationship, you do have to try a little bit harder to get a man’s attention beyond just sex. Instead of going for physical contact, you’re going for emotional connection. That means engaging him, mentally and intellectually.
The easiest way to do this is to start paying closer attention to what he says and what he talks about. Even looking at his internet tablet or phone (while he’s using it, no need to sneak around) can give you insight into what captures his interest.
Notice things about him that no one else notices and talk about those things. He will be amazed that someone noticed!
6. Learn his love language and become fluent in it!
Conflict resolution can oftentimes be helped by simply learning more about how a man communicates. If he speaks a certain love language, and you speak a completely different one, there’s conflict. You don’t understand each other when you’re trying to express love.
Compromise can help tremendously. Learning how a man expresses love and affection is the first step. Instead of talking, maybe he buys you gifts. Or he does something nice for you. Learn what his love language is so you can understand what he’s feeling and thinking. Encourage that behavior and then help him understand your love language.
7. Give him his independence!
Practically all men want a degree of independence in life. They don’t like being babied, bullied or mothered. In fact, that’s a sure way to drive a man away. Instead, learn to trust him and give him the space he needs. In the end, he will respect you for it, that you don’t micromanage his life and that you want him to be happy on his own. He wants to know that you’re on his side, and part of that involves trusting him to do his own thing.
Now that you know how to get his attention, it’s time to exert yourself and demand the attention from him that you deserve! Don’t be shy. If you want his undivided attention, you may have to fight for it, or at least take strong measures to make sure he sees you, hears you, and FEELS you.
Once you have a man’s attention, communicate what you need and want and – if you play your cards right – he will be like putty in your hands.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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I show you what this 5-word phrase is…
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If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
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