Shy guys are like…well, maybe Miles from the film Sideways explains it best when he explains why he likes Pinot wine.
“It’s a hard grape to grow, as you know. It’s thin-skinned, temperamental. It’s not a survivor like Cabernet that can grow anywhere and thrive even when neglected. Pinot needs constant care and attention, you know? And, and only the most patient and nurturing of growers can do it, really. Only somebody who really takes the time… to understand Pinot’s potential…can then coax it into its fullest expression.”
That seems like a great way of describing introverted men. They’re guys who aren’t traditionally outgoing or charismatic but have a dignified and complex charm all their own. Shy guys tend to be deep thinkers, poetic in soul, and have a great sense of humor if only people listened to their muttered wisecracks.
Now that’s not to say that shy guys are never frustrating. Even though shy guys can and do eventually open up to new people, they can still be frustrating to deal with.
Why? Usually because they hold in emotion and keep their thoughts to themselves, whereas extroverted guys might be very outspoken about how they feel.
This is particularly true of shy guys during courtship. They are terrified of rejection, or of making a woman uncomfortable, or a number of other worst-case scenarios happening.
This is why shy guys avoid asking a girl out directly and why typically don’t flirt (or at least don’t do it very well). They come across as very platonic almost asexual friends.
Not to worry, if there is a shy guy you like, and who you suspect may like you, there are ways to decipher his flirting signals. First of all, understand that shy guys DO flirt and do show interest. They just usually speak a completely different love language than other men. Learning their signals and cues will help you to bond with him in a way that he enjoys and can actually excel.
Let’s list the most common things a shy guy does when he likes you. Some of these are of the blink-and-you-miss-it variety.
1. He stares at you.
Shy guys are awkward…and they just so happen to give the most awkward stares. Whether he smiles awkwardly, stares like he forgot what he was going to say, or quickly looks away when you notice him, this is all evidence that he’s looking at you and probably daydreaming about being your date.
During this coy process of looking and then looking away, he is dealing with his own subconscious resistance to the idea of wanting you, dating you, and expressing how he really feels. He is trying to work up the courage to say something and so he looks at the object of his affection.
2. He seems nervous or unusually clumsy in your presence.
Not only do shy guys get visibly nervous…awkward energy seems to surround them. Not only will his body language become tense and erratic, but he might drop things, knock things over, or perhaps bump into you trying to get to a safe place.
You are clearly the center of his attention and he notices you more than anyone else in the room. In fact, he’s so overly concerned with your beauty and charm, it takes all of his brainpower to maintain control over himself and not freak out. His goal is to get through this conversation without embarrassing himself!
3. Eventually…he does open up to you. And big time!
Even before he admits he’s interested in you, he unleashes his deepest darkest confessions! I know it seems like he’s just making conversation, because he’s probably telling you all these things in a monotone voice. But is he talking about his family? His upbringing? His views on the world and on life? That’s pretty heavy stuff!
This is how introverted people approaching dating – they focus on bonding first, flirting second. If he wants to converse with you and share more about himself, that’s a good sign that he’s interested.
Introverted guys don’t make a habit of opening up to everyone they meet. It takes someone special to bring that passion out!
4. He will be more active on social media than in person.
The introverted guy is actually far more assertive online. He’s the one liking all your pictures. Commenting on your posts, and sending direct messages – even if you can’t quite figure out the point behind them. It’s much easier for a shy guy to express his views when he’s not face-to-face and doesn’t have the pressure of flirting or going on a date.
5. He smiles and presents his “best face” to you.
Once a shy guy gets to know you and calms down a bit, he will start to “sell” himself in subtle ways, showing his best qualities. Do you notice him trying to make you laugh? Does he seem to brag about his hobbies, his art, or his job? Are you crazy or…does it seem like he’s trying to impress you?
Now you’re catching us! This is what shy guys when they feel strong attraction but are still too nervous to ask you out. What they’re actually waiting for is you to give them more positive and welcoming signals.
Let your shy guy know he’s not going to be rejected or humiliated just for expressing how he feels about you. Give him more positive signals and he will become bolder in his approach.
6. He pays extra close attention.
Not only does he cater to you (i.e. opening doors or doing little favors here and there) but he also REMEMBERS specific details you tell him. This is something no man does unless he’s married or at least very interested in a woman! (And sometimes even husbands forget, much to their chagrin) But when he’s into you he remembers the things that other men forget. He’s proving himself loyal and dedicated to being your boyfriend, if you so choose, even in the earliest part of the courtship.
Remember, shy guys do communicate. They simply flirt differently and avoid situations that make them uncomfortable. But if you get him in comfortable or familiar surroundings then he will take more chances and start to flirt in his own unique style.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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