The more you learn about dating and the male mind, as a woman, the more you realize that if you want to get together with the guy you really want, you DO have to be more assertive. You have to be strategic. And most of all, you must have the self-confidence to go after what you want.
At the same time, you can’t be too aggressive or pushy, or else the guy starts to back away. That means that you have to learn the art of flirting, femininity, and what you might call ethical seduction. The art of being attractive, of being magnetic, to other people.
If you want to ATTRACT a man, beyond just a superficial glance, you have to understand what motivates him and what gets his attention. In this discussion, we’re going to discuss places that you can touch a guy to get his attention and awaken that gut-level attraction he can’t resist.
Best of all, these are not invasive touches. You’re not being shameless or bullying, or anything negative. These are all polite but flirting touches that let him know you’re interested.
1. Putting your fingers in his hair.
If you doubt the amazing touch of the human hand in your hair, just remember the last time you went to a stylist and got your hair washed for minutes on end. It’s relaxing, comforting…and to a guy, from a woman, it’s a big deal. The closer you can get to his scalp the better, but you also have to balance it with a platonic reason for touching his head.
For instance, combing his hair, or pulling on his hair in flirting. If you are good friends, try running your fingers through his hair or even starting at the neck and then going up. Even touching his beard will have the same effect. And don’t think it he’s bald this rule doesn’t apply. Most bald guys all secretly want girls to run their scalp for good luck!
2. Touch his forehead or the temple area of his head.
Men have a heightened awareness around the head area, whether that’s around the forehead, temple area, the lips or even the lower ears. Some people speculate that it’s the “third eye” chakra energy thing, and while I can’t attest to that, I do admit that when another person reaches to touch me on the head, it’s almost always in a spirit of “Oh, you poor dear.” It’s a feeling of sympathy, of comfort, and empathy.
So yes, that is what touching a man’s head or face does and it grabs his attention to feel this sudden bolt of warm energy.
3. Bow the belly button…(but above the danger zone!)
OK, let’s get into some sneaky but very effective touch techniques. One of the most sensitive areas of a man is right below the belly button and above the “danger zone.”
Naturally, you’re never going to just reach out and touch under the waist, even if you like him. Way too forward. But accidentally touching right below the belly, or just calmly saying excuse me as you tap that borderline area, will definitely get his attention.
Keep it innocent, sure. But rest assured, it’s almost impossible for a guy not to feel a spark when you’re so close to other things.
4. Slither over the base of the tailbone…or as close as you can get without weirding him out.
This is another risque move, but it works – provided you don’t push things too far. A very sensitive area is right over the base of the tailbone, and especially right on the crack of the butt. No, I’m NOT recommending you touch him there, because that will scare him to death.
But aim a little higher, towards the bottom spine. This is just close enough, where he won’t consider it an offense, but will definitely feel a spark of intimacy. This is another way to say excuse me, or see you later, while playing innocent. “I was just touching your back!” But of course, we know it’s a good play, right?
5. Touch his inner arm – rather than the inner thigh.
The inner thigh is, of course, a good move, but it’s too much. Think of every awkward movie scene you can remember where an aggressive woman is putting the moves on a guy and the guy takes a step back.
A much better idea: aim for his inner arm, like right around the biceps. If he’s muscular, that’s great because most guys are okay with people admiring their hard work. But even if he doesn’t have 24-inch pythons, it’s OK to touch him around the inner arm.
This says, “I trust you, I like being here with you, and I feel comfortable touching you as a friend.”
Most guys won’t object if a woman touches them in a safe spot – nowhere blatantly sexual but a place on the body that still tickles their senses. The inner arm is actually extremely sensitive because of softer and thinner skin. If you really want to let him know you desire him, make the stroke longer – start from his shoulder and then move down the arm to the soft part of the inner elbow.
6. Rub the palm of his hand or his inner wrist.
If that’s too femme fatale for you try this safer move: find an excuse to rub his palm or inner wrist. You can pretend you’re giving him a fortune or psychic reading, or BS him pretending that you’re a hand model connoisseur. Whatever excuse you find, a guy will get the message pretty quick. Not only that you like him, but that he really feels a connection whenever you touch.
In closing, remember that entering the “touch phase” is one of the most important in dating. It’s hard for sexual chemistry to start without having the courage and the encouragement to touch each other, even in platonic ways.
A man may want to touch you, but will avoid it until he gets a clear signal saying it’s OK to take that risk. It’s also quite possible that touching a guy on the exterior shoulder or arm is just “too safe” and only conveys platonic, almost familiar feelings.
If you want to move this relationship into high gear so to speak, think outside the safety zone and somewhere on his body where you know he’s going to think, “wait a minute…” and start to think you like him back.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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