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5 Signs He Wants to Date You Exclusively

5 Signs He Wants to Date You Exclusively

One of the questions I’m most often asked by women who have questions about men is, “How can I tell the difference between a man that wants a serious relationship vs. a man that just wants sex?”

My answer is usually along the lines of “Well, most men want sex at first. That’s why you have to be smarter than him and make him wait, giving him the chance to meet the real you.”

But I do believe there really are two “types” of men looking for sex. And depending on what type of guy he is, you’re either going to have a volatile relationship or a fairly good one built on attraction, chasing, falling in love and the whole nine yards.

Type 1: He wants sex with you because you’re convenient.

Type 2: He wants sex with you because you’re interesting and unique.

Immediately we have two very different types of attraction and really, two very different types of relationships. One is obviously going to be more compatible than the other.

Because the guy who wants sex because it’s convenient is hoping to bed you, take what he wants from you and move on. If you challenge him and make him wait, he’s either going to fake interest in you until he gets what he wants, or he’s going to just walk away figuring it’s too much hassle.

Sure, there is always the possibility that the man who just wants sex (like, from anybody anytime anywhere!) could fall in love with you.

But compared to the guy who actually thinks you’re unique? One of a kind? Amazing? Not just sexy and beautiful but smart, mysterious, and one who “fits” him?

That’s the kind of sex you want. That’s the kind of attraction you want. And in the end, that’s the kind of relationship you want.

Sure, the Type 1 guy may see you as “unique” but in the end, does he really care if it’s you or just a willing F-buddy? No, he wants convenience. If you want a more intense and romantic relationship then you’re looking to attract a man who actually thinks you’re amazing, worth fighting for, and worth chasing.

And yeah the sex is better when you’re with a guy who actually appreciates YOU for YOU.

Here are five ways to tell if he’s actually attracted to you and interested in dating you EXCLUSIVELY—and all because he realizes you’re special even in a sea of single people.

1. He not only likes spending time with you…he actually plans dates.

He’s always up for hanging out. In fact, he’s so committed to you he actually commits to a date and plans it out. This is completely different than if you were to have to learn how to ask out a guy because of his reluctance to ask. He’s trying to be a regular part of your life, going one step beyond other guys who keep it casual. Men are usually more spontaneous in the early dating stages. They will never invest any serious time in dating or planning unless they’re ready to be your boyfriend.

2. He’s not just unafraid…he’s eager for you to meet his parents, siblings and friends.

The one true sign of a “booty call guy” is that he NEVER wants you mingling with his people. He’s scared of what you might say and he’s scared of what they will think of you. But when he’s falling for you, he’s actually very eager for you to meet the VIPs of his life. He’s proud of you. He wants his parents to meet you and ask them what they think. And even though his friends will razz him a little bit, deep down he knows they will be happy for him. He’s thrilled about making you part of his life!

3. Topics become increasingly deep and spiritual.

The more interested he is in you exclusively, the deeper your conversations will become. Sex really only makes for shallow conversations. “Like” gets you a little more interesting discussions, usually his “favorite topics”. But when he really likes you and may even love you, you’ll notice a major shift in conversation. He wants to know you on a much deeper level. You both start to talk about life, values, morals and highly personal topics. It’s a more intense way of connecting together. You’re testing your compatibility as a couple. Once he sees what a match you are, he’s thinking that he wants to go exclusive because he’s afraid of losing you and all that work he put into the relationship.

4. He always checks with you before making plans in the present or in the future.

The best way to know if a guy wants to go exclusive? If he actually bothers to check with you before planning his day, his year and the rest of his life. The very definition of a casual relationship is one without planning, no commitments or pressure. But when a guy is falling for you, HE takes the initiative. He plans not only dates, but all of his big plans. Career moves, his residence, his family and friends…all of these considerations are run by you because he plans his future around you. He’s already taking care of you and thinking of your feelings. He won’t do that to anyone but “the one” who’s worthy.

5. He has a moment of truth.

At this point in the relationship your nervous fellow will go one of two directions. Either he will come out and admit that he has strong feelings for you or he will hint around that he wants a more intense and exclusive relationship. He will talk about his desire to settle down and get serious about someone…and yes, he’ll be gauging your reaction just to make sure you’re not weirded out by the idea. By now he will also be more communicative about his feelings and his caring about you as a friend. He will also ask your advice and opinion on every thing, because he’s slowly getting used to idea of becoming exclusive.

By the time you finally do become boyfriend and girlfriend, he will already have taken a few steps forward to make your relationship feel more committed. He will also become progressively happier and full of joy when he’s around you. Guys can’t hide love very well, can they? They love to chase the women they love and “catching you” is the best reward of all.

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

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My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

Click this link to watch my video right now <<

 

6 thoughts on “5 Signs He Wants to Date You Exclusively”

  1. Isabell JOHNSON

    I’m with a friend and he has stopped having sex with me for 1year and 6 months and I told him that I love him and he says that he doesn’t love me but he has feelings for me deep inside and I care for his mother she can’t do things for herself so I care for her he still hugs and kisses me before he goes to work and to sleep at night that’s all he does so what should I do I care for him a lot

    1. First of all, you should move out. Wait, don’t get upset….read this first and then decide. It seems that he is identifying you too much with his mother. I am sure he gives his mom a hug and a kiss everyday as well? He does the same to you. He loves his mother very much and I don’t remember if you said that he used to tell you that he loved you? He does care about you, but he can’t tell the difference between his mother and now a younger version of his mother.
      Are you working or is he providing for you and his mother? Does his mother need care 24/7?
      If so, is he willing to pay someone to care for her or is his thinking that he is paying you by letting you sleep with him and providing for you even though sex is not involved? If he is willing to pay you actual money, move into an extra bedroom and be his mom’s caretaker. If he isn’t willing to pay you, move to your own place or in with a friend. He needs to separate you from his mother and start pursuing you again. The old saying about you don’t realize what you had until it’s not there anymore? He needs to see what a difference you made in his life. The other thing going on here is: if you are seriously thinking about getting married what is your marriage life going to be like? Living together is a trial run of marriage. You don’t seem to be very happy with how things have developed, so maybe while you are out of his house or his room, you should contemplate how your future with him might become and what you are willing to endure.
      You have been with him for almost 7 years and he hasn’t asked you to marry him? Why did you move in with him and what was the original thing that attracted you to him?
      You need to move outside of his comfort zone! Do you plan on waiting for another ten years? Seriously, you are being used and you aren’t really getting anything out of this relationship. You are waiting for him to change? Well, he changed….he went from being charming, sweet, attentive and having sex with you to just sleeping with you and hugs and kisses. Obviously, you want more, because otherwise you wouldn’t have written in. So make him see what he has lost by not making things so easy and accessible! If he doesn’t chase you and make a way to make you happy, then you have your answer. Good luck!

    1. If you’re not happy now, unless something changes, you probably won’t be happy in 7 more years, either. You want him to change but he will only change if and when HE wants to. The only person you control is yourself. Trust your inner voice. You fear he is using you because he most likely is using you. I agree with the advice to move out and get control of your own life again. Seven years of not being happy is no reason to think maybe you should hang in for more. Ask yourself if a friend of yours told you this story, how much self-respect would you think she has?

  2. very true, I’m undergoing the same thing you just mentioned about a man who is interested in chasing a woman.
    This area is very interesting especially when he wants a long term relationship.
    it is real and it’s happening outside there in love Relationship.
    l find it exactly what most men are looking in a Relationship.
    l think l will take it seriously from the 5 signs that he is truly in love.

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