If you’ve ever been friend-zoned by a guy you like before, then you know how frustrating it is to have strong feelings but to be neglected, ignored and passed over. It can be frustrating when guys don’t ask you out on a date. And while we’d all like to believe that some guys are just really shy and want you to make the first move…
I have to be realistic here and say, you know, it could be something else.
Maybe he the guy just doesn’t think of you as a woman he’s interested in romantically. Maybe he sees you as friends. Or maybe he isn’t ready to date.
If that’s the case, then all you’re thinking about right now is confessing how you feel and hopefully then asking the boy him out. Right?
First of all, yes, it is about time that you get this “thing between you two” out of the way. It’s miserable to live with an unspoken love. At some point, you just want to know how the guy he feels rather than miss a dating opportunity because of fear. You want to go on a simple date like getting food or a drink. So you may be wondering how to ask a guy out on a date.
Steps to Ask a Guy Out on a Date Over Text or In-Person
In this article, we’ll discuss how to ask a guy out. But I ask you this: before you make your feelings known and risk embarrassing yourself (if he says he’s not interested in you) please take to heart these six seduction tips when you ask a guy out on a date. These will make the big “Confession” so much more alluring and help you find out if the guy is open to a date before you even ask the question. Following these dating tips will prepare you for asking a guy out. Remember, even though these dating tips this will certainly help, these are not tips on how to ask a guy to be your boyfriend.
1. Don’t just blurt your feelings out to the guy. That’s not sexy, not attractive. It’s a weakness, which is not what the guy wants to see or hear from you.
Your friend is almost guaranteed to freak out when you just tell him how you feel and directly ask him out on a date. Guys are not really used to the “direct approach”. Male psychology likes to know what to expect.
What you want to do instead is TEST THE SEXUAL CHEMISTRY in a more subtle and fun way. Your goal is to get him looking at you in a different way—as something more than just a friend and someone he wants to date. Spend time together, flirt, and subtly find ways to show your interest before asking a guy out. Guys appreciate this slow build up and are more likely to respond positively when you ask them out on a date.
2. Compliment the guy casually before asking him out.
Compliments are no big deal, but chances are, you’ve avoided telling him anything positive because you weren’t sure how he would react. Stop worrying about it. Find ways to Jjust give him a casual physical compliment. Guys love compliments from women and easily read into them. It’s a great way to test the water before asking him out.
Don’t make it too over-the-top. Keep it natural and make it seem almost impulsive, as if you’re impressed with how cute he looks. Find ways to casually mention his great qualities. If you are talking with a guy you met online, you can always text him a compliment or two. This is the first way you SHOW him how you feel, instead of trying to explain it before you ask him out.
3. Don’t let him razz you like a little sister…start acting like a woman, one he doesn’t yet DESERVE.
Men do enjoy “little sister-ing” some of their female friends and this sometimes involves a physical “smacking” kind of relationship. You know, tapping you on the shoulder, holding hands, arms around you…
Put a stop to that. You need to send a subtle message that friends don’t deserve that intimacy. That’s reserved for a man who’s romantically interested. If the guy wants that closeness, make him date you first. Make him ask you out on a date. Avoid his friendship gestures while using touching to stimulate his sexual desire. Make your touches softer, more lingering, and with gentle grazes of your body to his. He will consider it unusual…and get an incline of attraction when he spends time with you.
Also, change the way you look at him. Before you looked at him as an adoring (and crushing) friend. Learn to look deeper, into his soul, and make him feel a connection. BUT just when he thinks you’re starting to stare at him, avert your eyes and go about your business. Your goal is to make him feel intense moments of connection that makes him realize that you are more than friends, but not actually CONFIRM anything he feels. This is a great way to make the guy want to date you.
Now the sexual tension is activated, without a single word. You’re letting him wonder… “Is there something going on between us?” That’s exactly where you want to be when you ask him out on a date.
4. Make the guy curious by taunting him with a feeling rather than confessing to him your heart.
Rather than make him uncomfortable with the truth, try playing with this feeling between the two of you. Flirt with him more frequently, but keep it mindless and funny. Use double entendres if it feels natural—just to see him laugh nervously.
Now here’s the tricky part. Make him feel sexually attracted to you by giving him just a HINT of naughty talk, so that he wants to go out on a date with you. Don’t discuss anything between the two of you. Simply give him a glimpse into your sexy nightlife (through text, online messaging, or phone). Casually mention sex in passing, or how you think another man is attractive. Stimulate his jealousy without seeming too obvious about it and your desire to go out.
Put your sexy voice on, but keep the volume down towards “soft and suggestive” rather than throaty and sexy. Subtle is always better in this case.
In this instance, you’re toying with his attraction to you. You’re basically making a negative (you’re in love with him and feeling hopeless) into a POSITIVE (it’s fun to flirt with him and see what he does). This will increase his desire to go out and asking him on a date will become natural.
5. Be the opposite of a controlling would-be girlfriend. Instead, be the strong, independent woman who’s OUT OF HIS LEAGUE.
This means you are not possessive of him. You don’t care if he’s dating other women. You encourage him to go do his thing while you do yours. Let him feel free when he spends time with you. This part is very important because you must be able to keep this attitude regardless of whether he wants to date you or not. If you can’t allow him his independence, you may also ruin the friendship you currently have. Strong, independent women are often irresistible, and guys naturally want to go out with them.
6. Be a BETTER friend and don’t worry so much about confession.
Yes, it seems ironic that I’m telling you the best way to turn your guy friend into a lover is to AVOID confessing your crush like it’s a dirty secret. Directly asking a guy out is not the best approach instead, to actually SEDUCE him into making a move on you, the best approach is to become better friends.
I’m telling you what works. If you approach a guy in weakness, he won’t respond the way you think he should. But if you carry yourself as strong, confident and possibly interested, he will take you seriously, especially when you ask him out. He may even ask you out before you do.
Concentrate on being a better friend. Support him and ask him about his hobbies, personal interests, and career goals. Be there when he asks you for a favor. Spend time with him, among mutual friends and let him become “addicted” to your calming presence in his life.
Give him the gift of missing you and as often as possible, be BUSY and do not wait around for him. Train him to see that he really does have to try to get your attention. He has to put forth the effort. And you will reward him for that effort, confirming the evidence that HE HAS FEELINGS FOR YOU TOO. It’s not one-sided. It’s a mutual connection taking place!
Hopefully, this article is helpful to letting you has helped you know how to ask a guy out. After following these six simple tips, asking out a guy becomes easy. Guys can’t resist women who make them feel loved and wanted. Find ways to naturally be part of his life, and soon enough, you’ll be ready to ask a guy out. And you never know, the guy may even ask you out first!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Guys Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But it only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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