This is the question on your mind and in your heart.
You want to give him space. You want to be a stronger woman and let him go.
But deep down, you want to know if this strategy is going to work. If you stop all communication with your ex and stop trying to win him over, will he come back?
Statistically speaking, it’s likely that this strategy will work. Great, that’s what you want to hear!
While on the subject though, let’s talk about the worst case scenario. Is it possible this plan will backfire? Anything’s possible.
The good news is that no matter what, this strategy will work BETTER than anything else you’ve tried or are thinking of trying.
Here’s what we know for sure: If you don’t leave him alone, and if you’re constantly trying to win him back, or apologize to him, or FORCE him to be with you again, it’s not going to work.
That’s the wrong momentum. That’s not magnetism, that’s resistance. The harder you try to keep him, the more his instincts will want to run away.
Why Does Leaving Him Alone Work?
Consider five reasons why leaving him alone works.
- He cannot miss you if you constantly volunteer to be in his life.
The problem with being the “good girlfriend” and trying to win him over is that by volunteering to be there for him, you never actually give him the opportunity to miss you. Overwhelming him with attention feels like the right thing to do…yet it’s the opposite of what you want him to feel.
You want him to miss you. You want him to desire you and to miss all the little things you used to do for him. He can only miss you if you leave. Soon enough, he will start to figure out that everything you did for him was a choice. Something he wasn’t entitled to, but something you felt inclined to do out of love. This is a major lesson that he has to learn. The more you try to hammer that lesson into his head, the less he “learns it” through experience.
Give him time and he will miss you.
- Leaving him, as he has asked you to do, shows respect.
If he has said, or indicated, that you should leave and stop smothering him with attention, it’s both smart and respectful that you follow through.
Being willing to leave shows that you listen. You understood his point-of-view. You heard his words and took them to heart. You showed respect by giving him exactly what he wanted, rather than trying to convince him he was wrong and that he needed more love and attention.
Resist the urge to baby him. Treat him like a full-grown man, one who knows what he wants, and is entitled to pursue his own happiness. Doing so shows that you value his opinion. You respect him. You love him enough to give him what he wants.
- Leaving him alone gives him back his feeling of independence.
Most men want independence in their lives. If they fall into the rut of a controlling relationship, they feel they lose some of that independence. But independence is what fuels a man’s ego and helps him to be ambitious and hard-working.
Denying him the independence he obviously wants is only making him fight harder to get what he wants. Men are stubborn. Once they decide they want something, they usually can’t be talked out of it. If you persist and deny him the independence he craves, it could cause a man to want to break up, cheat, or see you less often. Or at the very least, cause him to silently resent you. None of these scenarios end well.
- Leaving him alone gives you the opportunity to help yourself.
Rather than worrying about him during his leave of absence, make the best of it by focusing on yourself. Either work on self-improvement (challenge yourself to do better things and reach higher) or simply indulge yourself and enjoy YOUR INDEPENDENCE just the same.
This shows him that you’re not desperate to have him back and that he doesn’t have to worry about you. You’re not a project. You’re just as independent as he is.
It also helps you to build your self-confidence, which will only make you more attractive to him and other men who admire the same qualities.
- Letting him go satisfies his curiosity.
Understand that letting him go will only work to your advantage in the long run. Once he’s “free” he won’t have that curiosity anymore. He’ll start to appreciate your good qualities, while realizing most other women (or other “things”) don’t make him happy. A lot of men want what they can’t have, but later discover it wasn’t the happiness they thought it would be.
Allowing him to go off and reclaim his independence shows maturity and strength on your behalf. You might even discover that giving him “away” time will help improve him, and make him seem more like his old charming self again. Independent men work harder to chase the women they like. You fell in love with him as a single and independent man, right? Let him become that man again!
In conclusion, yes it is possible that this strategy won’t work. But here’s a thought to take home with you. At the end of the day, he will respect you more and care for you more, if you let him go. Give him his space and leave him alone for as long as he wants. Whether that’s a few days or even years, be open to the idea. Work on yourself. Don’t wait for him. Enjoy life and enjoy reinventing yourself.
Even if he doesn’t want to get back together right away, he will still be MORE OPEN to the idea because of your self-confident behavior. He will see you in a better light and start to have positive associations with your name and character. That’s a good thing. If and when he’s ready to try again, he will start to miss you. That’s when you can rebuild the relationship with new rules and in a more confident and loving frame of mind.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
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