If only your ex really understood what you want.
His attitude would change instantly.
If he knew what you really wanted, he would stop ignoring your texts.
If he understood your motivation, he would be the one initiating contact.
If he could see how you really feel about him, he would realize you’re the one.
If you could just erase the past and start fresh, he would fall in love with you all over again.
In this short article, we’re going to look at each of these “problems,” so you can see how to use them to your advantage. Because each one is an opportunity in disguise.
Hi, my name is James, and I’m excited to share a method to help you reawaken the passion your ex once felt for you.
(If you’re short on time, you can follow this link to skip straight to the solution now. Or, stick with me as I walk you through a few easy steps to reawaken trust, desire, and excitement between you and your ex.)
Some people were meant to be together.
I believe this firmly. Not because of some mystic belief in destiny, but because of the way some people bring out the best in each other.
Now, I get it. You and your ex may have gone through some rough patches where it didn’t feel like you were bringing out the best in each other.
And maybe that’s even part of why he pulled away. But I bet those rough patches did not define your relationship.
I bet your relationship unlocked something beautiful in your emotional world and his. And I don’t blame you for wanting to reawaken that passion so you can start building your shared story as a couple again.
If that’s something you want, then this article for you. Because I’m about to give you a huge advantage as you interact with your ex from this point forward.
Here’s what I’m going to do. It sounds simple, but please don’t dismiss it at face value. I’m going to change your mentality. I’m going to change the way you see the challenge before you.
If you install this new mentality, everything will look different from now on.
You’ll begin to see opportunities where you did not see them before. The new lens will reveal all kinds of hidden paths to reach his heart. Ready to get started? Okay, here we go.
Let’s start with the first opportunity…
If he knew what you really wanted, he would stop ignoring your texts.
What does he think you want?
He probably thinks you want to convince him of something.
Maybe he thinks you want to convince him to give things another try.
Or maybe he thinks you want to convince him that the breakup was all his fault. Maybe he thinks you want to convince him that you could still be friends.
Whatever the case, if he’s ignoring your messages, he doesn’t understand what you really want.
Because if you really love him, you want nothing more than to make him happy. You’re offering a gift of infinite value.
You’re not begging for anything. Rather, you’re offering something. Because you’re able to see all the beauty and potential your future relationship holds.
That’s the first mentality I want you to hold onto. You’re not asking him to do you a favor. Afterall, you’re the one who has something valuable to give.
If he understood your motivation, he would be the one initiating contact.
Is your motivation to trap him?
Are you dead set on making him feel guilty? Do you hope to get in the way so he never breaks free from the past?
If not, you should be aware there’s a good chance he fears one or more of these motivations when he sees your number pop up on his phone.
And it’s not because you’ve done anything wrong.
Rather, it’s because he’s avoiding negative emotions. And that’s just human nature.
People are wired to avoid pain. Especially when there’s uncertainty involved. Why let you back into his life when he’s focused on the possibility that it will just invite more pain?
Here’s the mentality shift for this one…
You don’t need to get back into his life. You just like him the way he is, right now.
He doesn’t need to change anything or do anything. You’re just one of the people in this world who genuinely appreciates the man he is.
If he understood that motivation, he would be the one initiating contact.
If he could see how you really feel about him, he would realize you’re the one.
There’s this former monk by the name of Dandapani who says “energy is like water.”
He points out that watering a garden encourages the growth of plants, both flowers and weeds. The water can’t tell the difference between flowers and weeds.
In that sense, he says the energy of your thought is like water. Because whatever you focus on will grow, good or bad.
When the energy of your thought focuses on negative things, it causes negative emotional and physical changes.
In contrast, when you focus on what’s good, you bring more happiness, success, and ease into your life.
Now, if you’re feeling stuck when it comes to your ex, it’s only natural that you might accidentally let your focus dwell on the problems.
Without realizing it, you may be letting the energy of your mind dwell on problems, or just snap to problem-solving mode whenever you reach out to your guy.
So here’s the new mentality I want you to absorb…
There are no problems between you and your guy.
Let the energy of your mind flow toward anything that is beautiful, good, pleasant, fun, or happy whenever you think about him, message him, or interact with him. He will sense the difference.
If you could just erase the past and start fresh, he would fall in love with you all over again.
Okay, this one’s a little bit different.
We both know you can’t technically erase the past. But I’ve discovered an interesting method that comes pretty close—at least when it comes to his emotional world.
I call it the movie trailer method. And if you follow this link to my short video explanation, you’ll see why.
It’s a method I designed after years of working with clients who want to change the automatic emotional reaction a person has to them.
It only takes a bit of leverage to nudge a boulder toward the edge of a cliff. Then gravity takes over and does the rest of the work for you.
With the movie trailer method, you’re nudging his emotions, which will do the rest of the work for you once they start working in favor of your relationship.
To learn how you can put this method to work for yourself, or simply tuck it away for future use, follow this link to learn about my method.
I hope these ideas have moved you toward a more resourceful and empowered state of mind.
For those of you who want to continue learning about this method, I’ll see you on my website where I am currently hosting a video about this topic.
yes all you said about me is true …thank you so much…..god bless you always…but i don’t know how to contact him…cos i don’t have any communication to him..i hope he will be back…
thanks…
I think my ex will never come back to me because he wedded other lady I still feel pain in my heart I love him so much we have a son but he doesn’t even love our son, do u think I can win him back
What do you do when your very recent ex is moving forward with getting his own apartment but says he’s still in love with me but wants to be friends as he thinks we lost our friendship? I want us to work this out but under different roofs. There are children involved in the situation, mine are not his biologically but he’s the only man they have ever known as their dad.
I want to give this a try
To make everything work again please help
I’m ready to get started
My ex and I are currently trying to make a go of it. Or maybe I should say I am trying and he is along for the ride. He is NOT putting any effort into this at all. We are living under the same roof right now.. (circumstances require this) He doesn’t text me right back but he expects me to. He doesn’t tell me where he’s going or what he’s doing. He just gets in his truck and leaves. And he won’t tell me where he’s been. But then the next day he is all lovey dovey and says he’s going to start making the effort but I still see no change. What am I to do? Give up? I don’t want to give up. This has been a 19 year relationship and he has my soul.
Dear Michele,
I lost the love of my life last year as well. We were together for 21 years. I felt that he didn’t love anymore and I met with a guy I had known forty years ago. I have learned that the more I just focus on what I am doing and how I want my life the more attention my ex gives to me. I’m not going to rush things, just take it day to day. Best to you! Sally
He want me only when he wants me it sucks. Wha am I going to do
I don’t understand where I stand.
One minute we are talking about moving in together, the next, he says, he has a lot going on in life, at the moment he wants to keep to himself.
He will read my texts but doesn’t reply.
What have I done wrong, I have ensured him I’m there for him.
It’s killing me
i cannot get my ex out of my mind i miss him so much
I was with my ex 27 years. he turned 50 last year. got a 29 year old pregnant & left going to her. she had been known to mess with all men. without help; probably will lose my house! just can´t make it alone. who ever you are, please; wish me well, or pray for me.
me, again. I forgot to say; no matter what he does, I still love the fool!
I want my ex lover back .He misunderstood what happened in my relationship I am a single woman .I just want him back before I make the mistake of my life .To move with a controlling money
He’s not my ex but ex fwb we just have a magic ed soul connection and I just miss everything about him I miss the ed passion we had but I’m feeling I need to let him go again and no 4th bother him cause I don’t want to lose him forever I just want him to be happy and I won’t move on cause if I can’t have him I’d rather have no-one for now anyway I won’t wait forever but a while wouldn’t hurt
I have had a lot of anger issues, I have promised to stop though I have had not, it’s killing me I love him dearly, I have been to my doctor I have new medication it should work within 2wks it’s already been 1wk I feel like I can’t last much longer. He did invite me over his place 2 nights ago to get my glasses and a few other items I needed I left without any issues 1hr later, I texted him the following day as I was leaving town he replied thanks drive safe be happy be well I’m confused
My ex and I were together 13 years before he divorced me he has the narcissist and it seems like he’s been mad at me ever since for marrying him I would like to have him back but he puts out the hate and anger vibe what can I do about this to change his mind
I lost the love of my life 14 years ago. He never spoke to me or anything. He always spoke to my son who isn’t his and asks how I am. He added me on fb which I was shocked. I saw him and he saw it was me and still came to my car.
Can I win him back I love him so much