You might say that for most of our existence we have sought great knowledge from books. Religious and political books are highly esteemed and many of them focus on effective ways to manage a family, find meaning in life, and deal with many of life’s most common problems.
The truth is, most books you read are great resources of knowledge and most of them have been thoroughly researched. A lot of time and effort goes into writing a book and when an author(s) writes passionately about a subject, it’s a tremendous joy to read along.
Not only is saying there is “one best book” dishonest, but it might even start a war! (At least, depending on what you think the “best” of something is) It’s hard to say what book is better than another book.
What we quickly discover is that some authors speak to us on a much more profound level than others. Some authors may rush a book out and not put much thought into it. Some authors are great at what they do, but what they do might not be your cup of tea.
I’d like to think the Best Book is a book that speaks to you. A book where the author is easy to relate to and has a voice that is easy to read. Because let’s face it, a book is a lot longer than a meme! A book can be hundreds of pages so the writer has to be someone easy to follow.
I decided to list a few of the best books on relationships out there that I feel could be described as the best.
1. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Book by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver
What was fascinating about this book is how science-based it is, discovering what statistics prove about lifelong marriage and the principles that actually keep couples together. Not only is it a good read but it also has questionnaires and exercises to try.
2. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray
This book is an old one but a classic. One of the books that helped me to see that there is no universal truth when it comes to dating, since men and women have entirely different perspectives. This one is actually based on lessons learned in couples counseling.
3. From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship by Sherry Argov
A great read and a classic since it really deconstructs dating and the concept of strong women, and how men might perceive them. This one teaches not only empowerment but how men think and why they do sometimes fall for the wrong woman because of their nature.
4. He’s Just Not That into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
Popularized by the show Sex and the City, this was written for women as a means to explain how men think and why they don’t seem to like women “enough”. This was a bit of tough love and focused on getting women to understand “time wasters” in relationships.
5. Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man Book by Steve Harvey
If you want a voice that’s funny and gentle (sort of like Cosby used to be before well uh…) check out Steve Harvey’s relationship book. Harvey explains love, intimacy and what commitment means. He also gives some time discussing differences in dating as you age. A fun read.
6. DEL-Lesbian Couples: A Guide to Creating Healthy Relationships by D. Merilee Clunis and G. Dorsey Green
I know this goes beyond my audience but I found the idea of feminine energy dating feminine energy quite fascinating, since I focus on male and female energy and the concept was new to me. To understand how the other side works, is indeed a great read if you’re interested in the psychological aspect.
7. More Than Two Book by Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux
I don’t want to be too much of a square when it comes to modern dating, so yes, I found this book interesting, as it explores the idea of consent among non-monogamous couples. It’s difficult to understand at times, but I figure, a lot of younger people are into that lifestyle and so it’s good to read up on their perspective of consent and boundary.
8. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, by Esther Perel
A great book for understanding “erotic intelligence” and especially good for married couples who want a more exciting sex life, but seem to fall into a rut after a while. It’s very important to keep the desire alive and not settle on a sexless marriage, figuring that’s the “normal” thing to do.
9. The Forever Woman: Make Him See You as the Woman He Wants Forever by ME, Matthew Coast
Finally, let’s plug my own book for no other reason than…since you like my blog, I think you’re going to love this book! This book explores the concept of a “Forever Relationship”, one that lasts a lifetime and even beyond. What are the qualities that really bring a couple together naturally? What do some couples have that others don’t? How do you find your forever partner after so many disappointments? This is what I knew people wanted to read and so that’s what I wrote about, using my lifetime of experience in counseling, self-help, and dating coaching as experience.
In conclusion, what matters is that you’re looking for answers in the right places. Do an author search and read the description of the book (and maybe even a sample chapter) to see if the voice is easy to read and relate to. Look up the reviews and the summary and see if it’s something that’s going to speak to you personally.
Books are where we find answers. It’s usually not on a YouTube quick-fix video or a cheat sheet of tips online. Books work better because as authors we can go into far greater detail. You want more complex answers, pick up a good book!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…
I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…
When you click the link this link right here <<
I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
And how to attract the man you want…
Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…
No matter how painful things have been in your past…
You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…
Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…
If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…