Have you ever heard someone say, “You’re a very unique person…”
Or even “You march to the beat of a different drum.”
Or even the very flattering, “You’re a genius. You’re too smart for most people.”
Those are all great compliments and you should always take them as such.
It doesn’t take much to be ordinary. Ordinary, average, “just your typical Cali girl”…these are not good descriptions.
They might even be veiled put-downs. We take pride in being unique. We take pride in being different. It makes a person interesting. It gives us charisma, or maybe even special talents that other people don’t have.
But with a unique personality comes a challenge: fitting in with people that are very different.
One of the things you may notice, when it comes to relationships, is that you might have difficulty finding someone compatible. Why does this happen? Shouldn’t someone smarter, or more gifted, like you actually draw more people to them?
No, that’s usually not how it works at all.
When you’re unique, you stand out from a crowd. Some people may be immediately attracted to you, because you’re different. Others, however, may be put off by your presence. Why? Because you’re different. Your individuality threatens them. They might even be jealous because of your advantages in life, or your talents.
It’s usually not about YOU – it’s more about them.
But is being different a problem when it comes to romance? Of course it can be.
You Need to Be Loved on Your Own Terms
The problem is that if you’re unique, you have unique needs that really cannot be met by an “average population.” The average person doesn’t have those unique needs. They’re easier to please. They’re not looking for anything special. They settle very easily. They’re happier with whatever. It’s no coincidence they tend to have more lovers/partners, and are in and out of dysfunctional relationships.
When you have a unique personality you want more. You are not easily impressed. You usually have higher standards. You might have to wait for someone that actually matches those high standards.
But when you do meet, it’s very oftentimes a match made in heaven. This person gets you. He gets your sense of humor. He understands your perspective. He thinks your opinions, knowledge, and wisdom are fascinating to hear. That’s the kind of relationship worth waiting for!
At the same time, it’s not always a jealousy thing. Sometimes people just don’t “click” with other people. The chemistry is off. There are too many opposite qualities. Or maybe there are communication problems that contribute to the troubled relationship.
For instance, consider 10 reasons why gifted people usually struggle to find a partner.
1. A lot of guys might think you’re outside of their league.
They might need confirmation that you like them too. You are too pretty or too smart and that’s intimidating!
2. You are too much to handle intellectually and mentally.
Some people really are attracted to more simple qualities in relationship. When guys see you, and realize that they have never dealt with anyone like you before, they could freak out. They don’t have the confidence they need to deal with you, and you know what? Good for you.
3. You’re not attracted to “average”.
Average people really do sense this. If you are sort of attracted to someone, but not really into him? Guess what – he feels that too!
4. Your high confidence is intimidating to people, who do not share your confidence.
Not only do some guys lack confidence – but if they see that you have amazing confidence and a high value personality, they cannot handle you! You really need someone as strong as you are to prosper in a relationship.
5. You don’t NEED to be in love with someone (anyone).
You’d rather wait or be alone than settle for less than what you deserve. Many people cannot wait. They will settle for a guy, any guy, and that’s why there always “in” a relationship while sometimes you are alone. And deep down, you’re okay with that.
6. You know exactly what you want.
Many people in life have no idea what they want. Some guys have no idea what they should be looking for. They’re not happy. So they search, take chances, and make mistakes constantly. Doesn’t make them happy, just makes them always in a (it’s complicated) relationship.
You’ve outgrown that way of thinking!
7. Your habits, lifestyle, or choice of friends may be affecting the “quality” of guys you meet.
When you change your lifestyle for the better, very oftentimes, friends change too. Dating options change. You really will feel the difference as you transform into the woman you want to be, versus the girl you used to be.
8. You expect a lot – and you give a lot.
This intimidates men that cannot live up to your expectations. Maybe the guy has confidence and likes your confidence. But if deep down he suspects he can’t be faithful, or can’t amuse you, or devote full attention to you, then he may not reciprocate your feelings.
He is attracted to you, yes. But he knows he can’t work things out with you and the relationship would never last.
9. You are oftentimes very busy.
You may not even notice dating opportunities. But hey, your unavailability only makes you seem higher value to more successful guys!
10. Some guys just don’t “get” the hype about you.
It’s sad but true. Some people just don’t like other people, and for no logical reason. They don’t “get” the appeal. But hey, you know what? A lot of guys didn’t get Titanic either. Or The Notebook. Or Labyrinth or The Princess Bride.
But hey, they’re losers if they don’t get greatness! Be proud of who you are and your uniqueness in life.
In closing, remember that “waiting” is not the answer. You have high expectations and that’s good. But you can’t simply wait for destiny to call. You must get out there, mingle, meet new people, and give others the chance to appreciate you.
If you’re not naturally gregarious and don’t go to local social events, then consider joining a dating site. Some dating sites and apps have a high membership of people. Others, though, focus on quality matching. Some apps even have income minimum requirements, so that women can limit their selection to successful career-oriented men.
This is the productive way to handle it. Don’t wait for love to come along – you deserve better! Go and find what you’re looking for.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…
I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…
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I show you what this 5-word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
And how to attract the man you want…
Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…
No matter how painful things have been in your past…
You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…
Just click the link on your screen and watch the video right now…
If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…
