Imagine being a guy and having this conversation:
“So does this girl like you?”
“I think so, bro. She touches me sometimes. Like on the shoulder.”
“Touches you on the shoulder?”
“Is that a signal?”
“I don’t know. She might just be really friendly.”
Indeed, what is “flirty touching” anyway?
We all know that friendly touching gestures do promote good friendships. They really make a person take notice and think, “Oh this person likes me.”
And that’s a good thing.
The problem is, if you’re a woman but don’t actually know HOW guys like to be touched then you might actually be sending confusing signals.
On the other hand, trying too hard is also a bad idea. If you just start randomly fondling a guy’s hand or face it might be weird! Or at least invasive. You could even trigger his “Eek!” response.
So yeah, it’s not exactly a science but there is an art to touching guys in a certain way, so that you make them want you. What you want to avoid is touching them in a strange way or an overdramatic way, which just makes things awkward.
In this discussion, we’re going to talk about the right ways to make him want you by way of touching. Your inclination to touch may not match his desire on how and where to be touched. Subtle differences matter.
Let’s start with the most obvious gestures and then explore some more seductive moves.
1. Pat him on the back, hand, or shoulder.
This is the most obvious gesture and still gets a guy’s attention. He gets this touch from everybody, but he always notices when an attractive woman touches him. If you feel safe in his presence, let him know!
2. Slap him playfully.
This is more obvious flirting since it brings out playful conflict. Bear in mind though, many women flirt antagonistically and it doesn’t necessarily mean sexual tension. This is another “feeling out” gesture that could be substituted with an even better touch.
3. Hug him in a familiar way.
Hugging is always a kind gesture. But a slightly different hug may communicate affection. For example, hugging the small of his back, or putting your arms around him, or even hugging him from behind. It’s a much stronger flirt, but if the guy’s into you he will definitely get the message!
4. Don’t just touch his shoulder or slap it – squeeze it.
Most women have had the thought, “touch his shoulder.” But guys get shoulder slapped and touched on a regular basis. What’s unusual is for a woman to squeeze his shoulder. That gets his attention and creates a feeling of intimacy.
5. Touch and slightly rub his elbow.
Same thing’s true about the elbow rub. Elbow creases have thinner skin and so it feels ticklish when a woman touches him there. Don’t tickle him too long, just a brush or a soft squeeze will get the point across.
6. Reach into his pockets to help him out.
This is a very sexy move, and one you should only do if he openly flirts with you. This is a bold one though, so trying it without sexual tension and trust, might be pushing too far.
7. Play with his hair.
This is a safer move that’s also seductive and yet not too dramatic or embarrassing to a shy guy. You can always argue you’re just fixing his hair or feeling the texture. But guys almost always get the hint if a woman finds an excuse to run her fingers through hair.
8. Kiss the guy on the cheek.
This is kind of old school but it’s still a pretty sweet gesture for a guy. Shy guys might get a little red-faced, but most guys will find it very flattering. It will also be difficult to dismiss this very intimate gesture as “platonic”. They only tend to happen in very intense relationships, or perhaps, award shows!
9. Touch his chest.
This is a very sexual move and yet surprisingly subtle and not too invasive. A man has an immediate response from a chest touch because it’s closer to his heart and usually associated with intimacy. Very few people will ever attempt to touch his chest, except someone who admires his body and masculinity. Run your fingernails very lightly while maintaining a smile and eye contact to hammer the point home. By then, however, the guy will be putty in your hands.
10. Touch his face.
Lastly, you can’t go wrong with the face touch. Men are very defensive of anyone coming to close to their face – unless they really like a woman. If he likes you then he will let you touch his jaw, his cheek, his chin or ear. He will definitely get a buzz too, whenever you touch a protected area. So be careful what you wish for! You might get a hot boyfriend out of such an intimate gesture.
Conclusion
As you can see, it’s not so much the pressure of the touch or the rhythm. It’s simply the timing. The emotions you convey with these touches. What do you feel when you touch him? What do you say to him, silently with your eyes?
If you really focus on romantic feelings and attraction, he will sense something. It’s just innate, it’s in our nature to be receptive to those bedroom eyes and that special touch that feels like something more than friendship.
Don’t touch provocatively. There’s no need to be arrogant or aggressive with your signals. Just do it with heart and feeling.
Try to think about something sweet or think about all the great qualities of this guy that you laugh or smile.
Now that you feel those positive things, look him in the eye and touch him in a subtle way. The guy is going to like how it feels and there a spark begins!
Editor’s Note: This was written pre-coronavirus era, so please maintain social distancing from strangers for just a little while longer. Stay safe! Thanks.
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