The idea of tightening your vagina (or vigina, if you’re not concerned about spelling) is based on the stereotype that men like it “tight”.

Well sure, that’s what they always say in porn, and apparently on Facebook with all those funny memes.  Some people seem to think it’s hilarious when they discuss loose women and loose vaginas, but this is a form of social shaming that’s based on myth and, frankly, a lack of sexual knowledge.

The Myth of “Loose”

The vagina is an elastic organ.  That means it can stretch to accommodate practically any penis or even a large dildo.  Once the phallic piece is gone, the vagina returns to its normal shape.

Scientifically speaking, there is no such thing as a “loose vagina”, since this implies the organ will lose its elasticity after so many partners and so many large penis sizes.  Not true at all.

Case in point, a woman who has sex with her well-endowed husband every night for three years would have a grand total of approximately 1000 sessions of sex, right?  Would anyone slut-shame the wife for having a loose vagina?

Of course not!  But the idea of a single woman having sex with multiple guys (all of which have average, to large, or even small penises) seems to suggest she’s been “stretched.”

No, if anything the faithful wife would be the one “loose” after having so many nights with her well-endowed husband!

So you see how ridiculous the myth of the loose vagina is in the first place?

Aging and Childbirth

The only basis in truth regarding vaginal changes comes from the more realistic scenarios of aging and childbirth.

The vagina does become SLIGHTLY looser after you have children or as you age, but the differences are minor.  The muscles still expand and retract, creating the same basic feeling for the guy.

What does often happen is that men are surprised to discover that each woman he sleeps with feels differently during penetration, which is natural and really kind of really obvious!  Some women feel tighter, some women feel looser by comparison, but the vagina itself is not to blame.

Tight is Not Always a Good Thing

Don’t assume being naturally tight is the Rolls Royce of perfect body shape.  Extreme tightness might actually be painful for you, thereby defeating the purpose of having pleasurable sex.  Extremely tight vaginal muscles usually happen when a woman is not sufficiently aroused or wet enough.  Penetration is dry, tight and painful.

The key to good penetration is to relaxing, preparing for intercourse, enjoying yourself during foreplay, and perhaps using MORE lubricant to help penetration go easier for the both of you.

Tightening Exercises That Work

So let’s say now that you’re at peace with loose/tight stereotypes, you still want to give your man that awesome feeling of being tight and wet and irresistible.

First of all, ignore anything that seems weird, like putting honey or vinegar down there.  Using any home remedies someone from the Internet suggested is a recipe for disaster.

Here’s a list of the only valid tightening techniques according to health and science.

  1. Exercise your vagina by trying Kegels.

Kegel exercise is the naturalistic approach and simply involves you learning to “flex” your vagina so that you literally squeeze your partner’s penis.  Believe me, at that point he won’t care about “naturally tight” – he’ll only be basking in the pleasure of a tight squeeze.  Kegel flexes or clenches are the same contracting feeling you experience during orgasm.  Learn to practice these clenches throughout the day to make it easier to squeeze and tighter for your partner.  Flex, hold for ten seconds, release and then relax for ten seconds before trying again.  Get to the point where you can do several of these exercises in a row.

  1. Feel the squeeze of Ben-wa balls.

Ben-wa balls refer to sex toys, weighted ball specifically, that you hold inside your vagina using your vaginal wall muscles.  These Ben-wa balls come with a string attached (don’t buy any that don’t) so you can easily pull them out.  Tugging on the string can also increase resistance, all of which helps to make your vagina fitter and thus feeling “tighter” for a partner.

  1. Experiment with vaginal cones.

These sex toys are similar to Ben-wa balls, except that they are cone-shaped.  They are also weighted and the object, like the Ben-wa balls, is to keep the cone inside your vagina for about fifteen minutes.  The cones get progressively larger and heavier after you master the smaller sizes.  The main difference here is that whereas Ben-wa balls are easy to buy online, vaginal cones are available by prescription and usually only recommended for women suffering from urinary incontinence.

  1. Work out on a regular basis and have more sex!.

Exercise is sexy – and physically fit people are better and tighter in bed because of stronger core muscles.  Intensive exercise strengthens your pelvic floor muscles.

On the other hand, more sex can also help you tighten up since orgasm and sexercising releases a double dose of oxytocin and endorphins.  Orgasms actually cause an involuntary tightening of the vagina because of uncontrolled muscle contractions.

  1. The last resort is vaginoplasty.

Some women go the final route which is cosmetic surgery to tighten up.  But there are so many other options to pursue before taking the unnecessary surgery route.  In fact, most women who undergo the procedure experience “vaginal laxity” a condition resulting from childbirth, in which the vaginal tissues are stretched or the muscles are separated.  The surgery can bring the muscles back together, while removing extra skin from the back end of the vagina or even the external skin.

You might be surprised to know that most men don’t care about tightness, especially if you learn Kegels and practice with Ben-wa balls.

A man cares more about the experience of sex and how you can better pleasure him during penetration.  Master the Kegel squeeze and he’ll assume you’re as tight as you need to be!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

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Have you figured out what it is yet?

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