How to Text the Romance Back Into Your Relationship

Is your once red-hot relationship tasting a little stale lately? Why is it that when you’re in a committed relationship, the food seems to get better and better, but the sex and the romance always seem to go downhill? You started spicy hot, then you went down to microwave dinner quality, and eventually to hospital food? What gives? Is it true that all live-in relationships lose the spark over time?

That may be statistically true but it’s certainly NOT a scientific fact of life. It all depends on how personally invested you and your partner are in keeping the romance alive and making this marriage or live-in relationship just as fun and exciting as the courtship.

There are many ways to spice up a marriage, but today we’re going to focus on just one. Putting the creativity, the spontaneity, the humor and the WIT back into your relationship. Romance will come naturally when both partners put a little more effort into creating smart and sexy banter.

But there’s no need to roleplay Tracy and Hepburn. You can keep things fresh by texting each other sweet “nothings” throughout the week. These little text notes don’t have to be hilarious, ingenious or beautifully written. They just have to be fun! The secret to writing sexy texts is all about creating excitement and unpredictability just like you had back when you were first dating. Here are five secrets to texting like you’re 18 again.

1. Texting is about building anticipation.

Why do boys have so much fun texting girls? It’s probably for the opposite reason that mature adults don’t have as much interest in romance…because it’s easily available. Kids, on the other hand, are usually virginal in their teens, and sex is not easily available and so there’s a bit of a taboo associated with it. That means boys try harder to impress girls and girls react with more excitement to encourage more of that flirty dialog. Many married couples have lost sight of this simple dynamic because if you want to have sex all you have to do is ask.

Not romantic, not sexy, no serious effort involved.

So the first key to texting for foreplay is to built anticipation. Create an interest in the forbidden, in romance, in sex, by acting goofy like teenagers again. Have fun with the idea and say something that’s totally wild and opposite of what you say and think now!

“I wish I could touch you right now.” (Sex isn’t available right now, so you want it right now!)
“I love it when you kiss me softly on the back of my neck.” (Strong visual and emotion)
“I want you so bad it’s making me ache.” (Self-explanatory!)

These texts build anticipation, making the sex you will have later on even hotter.

2. Create more excitement by discussing a specific event or action.

This is a great way to build intimacy, both sexually and romantically. Instead of only texting errands, discuss more topics. Talk about things that interest you. Even better, talk about a SPECIFIC event or action that you want to do and want your partner to do it with you. Build anticipation of that event and make it the center of your weekly text conversations. This gives you both something to look forward to. And FYI, this is actually a common technique in teen dating…talk about “things to do” so as to appear cool and “not that interested in sex.” It works for young single people and it can work for you too!

“I really want to go to Hawaii this summer and just have fun on the beach. The sunsets are so beautiful…I want to see it in person.”
“I really want to go to a concert this month. Guess who’s playing?”
“We should go do something new and weird this weekend. You with me?”

3. Remember when?

Recreate great, vivid memories with a little trip down memory lane. This is a great way to bring some of the romance back, drawing attention to crazy adventures you had in the past. Remind your partner of how romantic he was back in the day. Describe in detail how he made you feel—turned on, adored, intoxicated with his confidence. Tell him you want to do more things like that so that you can feel wild and out of control. And of course, don’t forget the afterglow text where you talk about how awesome your latest romantic adventure was.

“Remember when we made out in that old convertible down by the woods? That was so crazy and fun…”
“Remember the first time you met me? What were you thinking?”
“Remember when we went to our honeymoon in Cabo? I still remember how handsome you looked.”

4. Compliment each other and bring back that mutual desire.

Compliments work brilliantly when they’re sincere. Tell him what you like about him physically, mentally, and emotionally. Talk about his eyes, his good qualities, even his little vanities, like how muscular he is or how he’s so sexy when he has those bedroom eyes. Tickle him further by talking about how other women want him. Flatter his ego and let him return the favor, motivating him to be more romantic and daring like he used to be. It also helps to dress up for each other and embody these attractive qualities all the more so. Take pride in your appearance and encourage him to take pride as well.

“I love the way you look at me right before you start kissing me.”
“You are so handsome when you dress up in a suit!”
“I can’t stop staring at your shirtless beach picture. So hot.”

5. Stop sending unfun texts! Associate texting with fun, sexy, romantic banter.

At some point, you may need to convey neutral information to your partner. But there’s nothing sexy about telling your guy to pick up bread. So resist texting him that message and instead ask him to call you. Speak your errands when necessary but keep the texting only for personal “dating” communication.

It seems like a small thing, but using positive associations to get him excited again will definitely change the same old routine. He may even snap back into romantic hero mode again and surprise you!

40 Flirty Texts That Men Absolutely Love

If you’re struggling to figure out what to say to your man to bring you closer together, I’ve put together a guide of 40 fun and flirty text messages that will spark a stronger and deeper desire in whatever man you use them with.

If you don’t know what to say to your man, use these “cut and paste” text messages from my free guide and watch how much he absolutely loves it!

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