Knowing how to keep a conversation going is one of the most effective ways to keep the fire burning in a relationship and ensure you go out on more dates. By now, you should also know how to start a text conversation with a guy.
Timing is Key
Choose the right place and time to strike up a conversation for the best results. It’s usually better to avoid reaching out early in the morning on weekdays when you know he is probably busy at work. Instead, aim for lunch breaks or evenings when he is leaving work. Whatever time you make contact, make sure you have at least a few minutes to dedicate to the conversation.
Starting the Conversation
Once you’ve gotten the attention of your crush, there are a few things you need to be aware of before starting a conversation.
Use Humor to Ease the Tension
When you talk about where you are or what you’re doing, look for something funny and specific to incorporate into the conversation. For example, if it’s hot where you are, you can say, “The sun is so hot even my nose is sweating.” This gives him some details, and the levity will put him at ease.
Ask Him About the Progress of a Project
If you know about something going on in your man’s life, ask him about its progress. If you don’t yet know anything that fits this description, keep an ear open when you talk with him for something you can ask about next time.
Ask For His Opinion
The topic can be any subject—something you’ve seen or read recently, something in the news, or a question you’ve been considering. It can be helpful to ask a question related to his hobbies, as that can provide an easy opening for someone to talk about their opinions. Avoiding sensitive subjects such as politics and religion, at least at first, can also make the conversation more relaxed.
Ask About the First Thing That Comes to Mind
It can be intimidating to talk to your crush, and most people don’t take the risk of saying what they think. Don’t be afraid of the awkwardness that can follow. Instead, look at it as an opportunity to be real and connect with each other. You may both end up bursting into laughter after the long silence.
Keep the Conversation Going
It’s important to keep speaking after the initial conversation because it’s the surest way to grow a relationship. Here’s a few ideas on how to make this happen:
- Instead of asking questions that can be answered with a yes or no, ask open-ended questions such as, “What shows are you currently binging?”
- Listen carefully. Avoid interrupting him when he speaks, and give him room to complete his thoughts. Remember to nod and use other nonverbal communication cues, including smiling.
- Tell him you enjoyed your time together and want to hang out again.
Striking up a conversation with your crush can be intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. As long as you listen, and show sincere interest—and don’t get hung up on being perfect—you’ll be fine.
If you want to learn more about talking to guys, check out our articles on how to start an interesting conversation with a guy online and how to start a juicy conversation with a guy.