Four Sex Secrets About Men (You NEED to Know These)

Perhaps one of the greatest mysteries of the world, besides Stonehenge and pyramids, is “What do men want sexually?”

Seriously, what do they want? A lot of women ask this question because they hear so many conflicting reports on what men supposedly want. Some people claim that men are pigs, or dogs, and just want sex all the time. That they would probably dump a woman after sex and move onto another conquest ASAP. That’s just the way a man’s mind words, or so they claim.

But is that really true? What about those nice guys, those gentlemen and those single dads that seem so sweet? Are they all really raging sex machines that just want more sex and more women?

How about we be realistic about the scenario and find the similarities in what women want and what men want? Men, like women, want to fall in love. They want to have an emotional connection. And maybe you’re skeptical about that. But I assure you no matter what guy you talk to, even though most free-loving player in the world, he will admit that what he wants most is an emotional connection. Sex is temporary. Sex without love, without emotional connection, feels empty.

So do guys want a bunch of meaningless sex? If they do, they outgrow it pretty quickly. What seems to be the issue is that men want BETTER sex, more intense and out-of-this-world sex, but not necessarily more of it. They may date lots of women and go looking for that one amazing lover, but realistically these guys are only going to meet a handful of women that they really like.

So if you meet a guy you really like your aim should not be to contain or limit his drive for sex. Don’t shame him for it, don’t try to guilt him into controlling his sex drive. Instead, be a superior lover. Go beyond “average”. Be a fulfiller of fantasies. Sound hard? No, surprisingly easy. Here are four sex secrets about men that you’ve probably never heard before, but that are worth sharing and remembering.

1. A man wants you to be aggressive in bed.

If you’ve ever been told that men don’t like bossy women, mean women, perverted women or selfish women in the real world…well, okay but we’re NOT talking about the bedroom, are we? In the bedroom anything goes. In fact, your man actually WANTS you to be horny, insatiable, unreasonable and just insane with lust.

He wants you to take the lead in showing him how to please you. He wants you to be proud of your kink and OWN IT. He wants you to feel hot, out of control and do anything that feels good. He wants you to embrace your self-pleasure because frankly, he doesn’t KNOW what you like in bed until you tell him.

So whatever shyness you feel, or whatever worry you have about offending him, shocking him or embarrassing him, I assure you, it’s only limiting your sex life. He wants you to be more into it. He wants you to initiate sex more and not simply “be ready” whenever he wants it. Allow yourself to embrace the role of a nymphomaniac and just enjoy that freedom, because that is what he wants.

2. A man wants you to use MORE of your body and touch more of his body.

More, more, more is a good rule to live by, at least when it comes to sexual touching. Men not only love oral sex, hand job sex, and penetration—they also love touching. He likes touching your body (being told where to touch) and he loves it when you touch him more, with your lips, your fingers, fingernails (lightly of course) and palms. He even loves the feeling of your hair tickling his belly, shoulders, arms and so on. “Grope him” during sex. Give attention to his butt, his back, his arms and behind his neck.

Embrace more touching as a form of foreplay. He may not like the word “foreplay”, or understand what it means, but he loves receiving more of it.

3. He wants to feel manly…like he’s turning you on like no one else can.

At the heart of really good sex is what you do for his ego. That’s what really gets his emotions involved, when he feels in control, feels sexy, and feels like you’re responding to him. It’s not just a matter of being supportive—which includes not acting offended or “confused” when he’s dirty talking and loving you. It’s also about anticipating how he wants you to react. He wants to think of you as his best partner, someone who understands him, is very turned on by him, and will grunt, groan and sigh every time he touches you. You don’t have to fake an orgasm but you definitely need to SHOW enthusiasm when having sex so that he can finish, thinking he’s a sex god.

4. A man wants good feedback on his looks, performance and technique.

Don’t believe the myths suggesting that men are selfish and just care about their own orgasm. Most men today are considerate lovers and that means they want feedback about how their doing. First, understand that a lot of guys are self-conscious about their body, particularly the ones who aren’t models. (Most of the population!) Physical compliments will let him relax, let loose and enjoy the experience.

Next, give him feedback on his “performance” which just means you dirty-talk him, you praise him, you use words like “Oh God”, F___, and cheerleader talk like, “Keep going!”

Finally, DO give him tips on technique, just be sure to keep it positive. That means if you like what he’s doing encourage him to keep right on doing it at that pace. But if he’s doing something wrong, instead of correcting his technique, simply ask him to do what you want in a more positive and sexy way. He’s much more likely to volunteer help and be enthusiastic if you ask him to do something rather than explain what he’s doing wrong.

Remember these sex secrets and make the guy feel like a champ. Keep up the good work and he will become addicted fast, as he realizes he has the BEST life ever when he’s with you!

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