Ever wonder if the man you’re with is not really your soul mate? Maybe you feel a lack of passion in the relationship. Or maybe you just wonder if you deserve better, or if there’s a guy out there who matches you better.
These are all perfectly normal thoughts to have. And believe it or not, it’s healthy to focus on these thoughts and consider all things logically rather than treat it like some taboo thought you never want to think about.
Because you deserve to be happy. You need to make sure you’re living the life you want, and not just catering to the wishes of other people. And yes, by thinking about these things, you can actually find evidence to support your instincts, that say, “Yes this is the love of my life” or “No, I think I’ve settled and I’m not happy.”
What we’re going to do then is consider 8 signs that the guy you’re with is not your soul mate and or twin flame. (For the purpose of this article let’s just combine the two, even though they are different things)
Based on these signs, you might be able to better understand your feelings.
1. There has never been any real trust in the relationship.
The relationship between you and your soul mate is built on trust. Mutual trust, self-sacrifice, and putting each other first. There can’t be intimacy without trust. So if the relationship is always taxed because you don’t trust him, and he doesn’t give you much reason to trust him, listen to your instincts. No relationship lasts without trust.
2. You have never truly felt at peace. You feel something is wrong.
Constant conflict is not a sign of a peaceful and healthy relationship. More to the point, you just know something is wrong. It’s not an existential “I wonder if I’d be happier with someone else?” It’s more like a feeling of constant tiredness, always struggling to make things work, but never actually getting the relationship you want. Your heart knows, deep down, this is not what happiness feels like.
3. You always fantasize about other people – and not just sexually.
It’s pretty common to fantasize about someone else in bed. But if you spend a lot of time thinking about how NORMAL and peaceful or exciting a life you would have with someone else, there’s something definitely wrong. In this case, you’re probably not really in love with your crush – more like you know that this life you have is not what you really want. You envy the peace, the connection, that other people have. That’s telling.
4. You don’t truly communicate and when you try, it’s never personal.
Couples that are in love, soul mates so to speak, communicate deeply. While you might often TRY to communicate with him, you always feel locked out. He may argue with you, or shut down and give quick and easy answers. He never gets personal. He never lets you into his heart. How can this possibly go on?
5. You never act like yourself around him – it’s all about who he wants you to be.
Men sometimes know what they want…and they look for a woman with no particular aims or goals. That way, they can make her into the perfect trophy wife. He doesn’t want her to be herself. And likewise, she may have no idea who she really is. Talk about a dysfunctional relationship! This is not normal or sustainable in the long-run. You must be yourself around him, that is part of the comfort, the bliss, of marriage.
6. You don’t have much in common, especially about important things.
In fact, science says that we are more likely to be compatible with someone who shares our goals and values in life. When we work towards a common goal, as a couple, we fight less and we connect more often. We have shared experiences. We see things the same way and want the same things. If you don’t have anything in common, then there is no “Soul Mate” in this equation.
7. You have never felt a deep and intense connection – ever.
While it’s quite common to meet someone nice and that you respect – at least he’s not a brute, at least he’s intelligent, and so on – it’s not easy to meet with someone that makes you feel alive. This spark, this feeling of “ALIVE!” is passion. Passion in a relationship is what we experience when we feel a deep and intense connection with somebody. If you don’t feel that, that’s rough. That means you will always feel alone and always wonder what it’s like to be with someone else that’s a better match. In the end, you don’t want to settle on OK. You want to fall in love!
8. He doesn’t make your life better in any way.
Remember that a good relationship doesn’t just make you feel good – it actually makes your life better. It has a beneficial effect on your life, your perspective, and your overall happiness. You are more active. You feel challenged and motivated. He brings out the best in you! If that’s not a good way to describe your relationship, it’s time to think things over.
As you can see, what sometimes seems like vague feelings you can’t explain, are actually the START of a logical process, one where you finally realize what you want and don’t want. Sometimes you don’t know what you want, until you get into a relationship that’s opposite of what you want. You won’t know for sure until you actually experience that. But very oftentimes, the notion, the feeling is there even before the experience.
What I’m suggesting you do is avoid making decisions emotionally, which might be a mistake if you let go of a good thing, and instead follow the logical process to its conclusion. That way, you will have fewer regrets. You will know what is right and wrong for you, based on a process of discovery and understanding yourself. That’s what you want. Only by listening to yourself can you create the relationship you want and find a love that lasts forever.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
And how to attract the man you want…
Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…
No matter how painful things have been in your past…
You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…
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If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
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