Feminine Power

There have been so many great quotations about women by women. Many of these quotes were about women, and about power and self-respect. For instance:

“If you have knowledge, let others light their candles in it.” – Margaret Fuller

“Above all, be the heroine of your life. Not the victim.” — Nora Ephron

“Being confident and believing in your own self-worth is necessary to achieving your potential.” — Sheryl Sandberg

Inspirational quotes about women sometimes change the world. They motivate people. Great ideas about equality and female empowerment started the feminist movement.

To this day, we usually think of feminism and equal rights as good ideas, progressive viewpoints that ultimately help women enjoy a better life.

But when you say the word “Feminine”, almost instantly, some people seem to back away from that word. It’s better to be feminist than feminine.

Or is it? What does feminine mean anyway? How is it different from feminism?

First, let’s consider some definitions of feminine or femininity.

One definition calls it “qualities of women.” Very general, right?
Another definition says, it’s considered “typically woman or even girlish.”
One called it representing positive female qualities like “empathy, gentleness, sensitivity, sweetness, nurturance and deference.”
Another definition said femininity specifically referred to the way women act, speak, dress themselves, and behave around men.

The truth is that femininity is a somewhat vague definition. What often happens is that one person defines femininity for themselves and then tells others about what the word means to her.

So I ask, what is your definition of femininity, or even feminine power?

Let’s start by talking about how femininity can be powerful. Feminism means female liberation, the fight for women’s rights. Femininity can be powerful too, but the kind of “power” is something different.

5 Ways to Show Feminine Power

Be Attractive

Femininity is beauty, grace and attraction. By appearing beautiful and distinguished, you draw people to you. You attract men and women that find you interesting. This is how you network and get to know people. There is nothing wrong with being attractive, and looking like the best version of yourself, if it brings you more opportunity.

Being mysterious is also a very feminine quality. Whereas it’s a natural instinct to share information when asked, or overload a person with information to be thorough, a mysterious and attractive woman knows how to give just enough information, but to keep interest going. This is a marvelous way to be attractive and to project the quality of mystery, something that entices people to get to know you.

Show Confidence

To be feminine means to take action. Not only is this referring to taking opportunity, but also to being more open-minded when listening to men talk. This doesn’t mean you have to compromise your principles or defer to a man’s will. Rather it means you don’t have to be shy and retreat just because you fear disagreement. You don’t have to be aggressive or create an argument. Sometimes showing confidence means holding true to your principles while still being polite to people you disagree with. It shows class and respect for the occasion.

Feel Passion

Femininity is further defined by passion, or purpose. Rather than being limited by adversity, discovering your passion in life, will help you aim higher. Self-improvement works for your benefit, not the fantasy of a man. When you work on self-improvement, rather than being content with self-acceptance, you can aim higher. You can use your

feminine power to pursue your life goals and accomplish your dreams.

Understand Humility

Perhaps this is the most controversial aspect of feminine power. Feminism is about being proud, being strong, and having a fighting spirit, right? How does being humble fit in with that?

Humility in this sense is not about deferring to the opinion of men, just because they’re “masculine.” Rather it refers to the idea that instead of promoting ourselves in life, we commit to helping others. We make it a goal to contribute to the greater good. We realize that putting the needs of others first, makes us humble, and yet makes us powerful. It puts us in a leadership role. That is real power.

Remaining an “island” and only serving your own interests is limiting. It doesn’t challenge you and it doesn’t allow you to reach your full potential. Being humble means trying to please others for mutual gain. Which brings us to the last point…

Admire Masculinity

Sometimes people take femininity the wrong way because they think there’s something inherently wrong with loving masculinity. If forced or toxic, yes.

But if you’re naturally feminine and you also love masculinity then you can project that in your dealings with men. You bring out the best in men. They sense that you admire their masculine qualities and so they work harder to please you. They “chase” you.

There is nothing wrong with loving masculinity. IF (and this is key) if those masculine qualities are positive and bring out the best in a person. You inspire him to be better. You challenge him to do better. He works harder for your attention and approval. You now project that feeling, that you admire his best masculine qualities.

You admire strength, courage, intelligence, compassion, deep thinking, smart thinking, organization, perception, humor, creativity, and the like. Because of your positive projection, men do notice you and you have even more opportunities.

This is true in dating but even in other avenues of life. You make more friends. You build more meaningful relationships with family, co-workers, associates and even strangers. You project positivity to the world without being “fake”. That takes you places. It also helps you to find happiness on your own terms.

You Love Commitment But You Don’t “Need It”!

This feminine power is the opposite of “needing masculinity”, which keeps a girl weak and dependent on a domineering male. When you master all these qualities, you can be feminine but independent. You want to fall in love. You desire commitment, but you don’t need it. You’re self-sufficient and men find that very attractive.

Remember that feminine power doesn’t have to be contrary to feminism. You can be independent and fight for women’s rights, all the way using your femininity to your advantage. This is certainly what influential celebrities like Taylor Swift, Emma Watson and Katy Perry have done. They combined feminine power and feminist ambitions.

Feminine power can do wonders for your life and can help you achieve your goals. Be feminine and be proud!