We use the expression “soulmate” a lot today. It’s a very romantic notion, the idea of having a soulmate. Colloquially speaking, a soulmate is someone who understands you, maybe even someone that you’re destined to be with because they match you so well.
But what is a soulmate, at least by the classic definition? According to karma, and this article from The Huffington Post, a soulmate is someone that fits us, as if they are the one who has the lock to our key. We unlock our true self and that’s when we can be honest about who we are.
Yes, it’s interesting to note that soulmates are not necessarily romantic lovers, at least in the karmic sense. Soulmates come into our lives to fulfill us, to help us grow, and to make us feel complete. In contrast, the “twin flame” is the missing part of yourself, your opposite, that you can only truly understand after a lifetime (or two) of quarreling.
Of course, the point that the karmic expert was making in the article is that sometimes people settle in relationships and end up with a “life partner” that doesn’t feel like a real soulmate, twin flame, or anything.
We grow up and throw away idealistic ideas like soulmates because we’re afraid of being alone. Sadly, many people do lose their idealism and figure that good chemistry, attraction and most importantly, emotional engagement, are just not that important.
Maybe they feel this way because they’ve lived through dysfunctional relationships and have given up on the idea of having both a strong attraction AND a peaceful relationship.
That’s also unfortunate because passion thrives when there is true emotional and spiritual connection. When you don’t have passion but “settle” for someone who meets the bare minimum requirements, you sort of give up on life. You give up on romance.
Then you probably start to wonder about the person you’re with, and whether he’s a man that completes you. Like a soulmate, someone dear to your heart.
How do you know if you have that spark, that passion, or are just settling for a guy who’s convenient?
We’re going to review 9 signs that suggest you do have a connection with your soulmate and that it’s not just a relationship of convenience.
1. You are best friends in life.
Soulmates are characterized by strong feelings of friendship. You balance each other out and fit each other. Even though you’re different, you usually never clash. You’re always happy to be a part of each other’s life and that’s a wonderful gift.
2. They make you feel calm and in control.
Whereas other good friends could bring out the worst in you, this friendship always feels calm and peaceful. You seem to find solace in each other. Even early on, you sense something familiar and comfortable about your soulmate.
3. You always respect each other and are attuned to each other’s feelings.
Some people say that soulmates really do feel each other’s pain. They’re so closely attuned with what the other is thinking and feeling, that it’s like your souls are intertwined. It’s not uncommon for one soulmate to pick up on the grief of their partner, their anxieties, and other hidden feelings.
4. You have the same goals in life, career, hobbies, etc.
Soulmates are almost always aligned closely with their values and life goals. They can’t help but hop onto the same bus, because they’re always heading in the same direction. Soulmates are rarely ever conflicted or polar opposites. They usually compliment each other.
5. You can always be yourself.
It’s a great feeling to know that you can say anything, express any thought, and always communicate your feelings with your soulmate. You can’t not be yourself because your best friend always knows if you’re holding something back, or lying, or if something is bothering you. It’s refreshing to have a friend that communicative.
6. You’ve seen each other at your worst but still do love each other dearly.
It’s safe to say that for some people, when you see them at their “worst” the whole dynamic changes. Maybe they’re a mean drunk, or an abuser, or they have some other difficult personality trait.
Well not so, with your soulmate. You have seen your soulmate at their “worst” but it’s never too much. You can always deal with it and offer help to that person when it’s needed. You’re there for the best and worst times of the friendship and that makes it special.
7. You’ve learned so much from each other.
Even after a disagreement or a quarrel, you still grow in mutual respect and understanding. You and your soulmate always learn from each other. You have something to teach each other in this lifetime. It’s never a lecture though; just a mutual curiosity and a great discovery that you make together.
8. You are physically drawn to each other.
Soulmates are always physically drawn to each other – frequently touching each other because they feel that intimacy and cherish that bond. They don’t always think of touching as sexual or even romantic. They simply touch because of love, understanding, and empathy. It’s a very sweet gesture and part of a special bond that you don’t get with many people…at least, not in this lifetime.
9. You know in your heart this is your match.
Soulmates do just “know” when they meet their match. Their heart speaks and their mind speaks. They feel something profound, almost spiritual, and they know they’re never going to meet anyone like this ever again – someone who completely gets them.
You’ll notice in this article I didn’t always describe a soulmate as a “him” and that’s because soulmates are not always romantic lovers. Sometimes they are friends or family members.
They can be romantic or platonic but that doesn’t change the level of trust, intimacy, and love that they share.
Of course, when you do find your soulmate, and it just so happens to be a lover, it’s such a great feeling! You get the best of both worlds: a partner who fulfills you and matches you mentally and also one who protects you, cares for you, and shares everything.
No wonder that soulmates who are also lovers are truly connected and living in their own world of happily ever after. If and when you find that special bond, don’t ever let it go. It is a phenomenon that comes around rarely – probably just once in your life.
Russian Woman Reveals Her Secret For Making Men Commit
How would you like to suddenly have the ability to make your ideal man become hopelessly devoted to you?
I’m talking about:
– No more wondering why he’s not pursuing you… the way men used to.
– No more trying to “test the waters” and see if he’s ready to commit.
– And no more struggling with the agony of not knowing if he’s truly yours.
As it turns out, the secret is a lot more simple than any of us realized. Almost every woman from Russia learns this from their mom, but for some reason we were never taught how it works.
Luba Evans, one of the world’s most famous dating coaches has just uploaded a new video which reveals the biggest secret that makes men fall head over heels in love with Russian women, and how you can get the same results with your man.
And no, it has nothing to do with having an accent 🙂
You’ve never heard anything like this before.