You are not alone if you’ve ever thought to yourself, “That guy liked me?! I had no idea!”
A lot of guys really think women are lying when they say this. Maybe at one time I wondered myself if that was true. The younger me always said, “Oh she knew, she knew how I felt. It was obvious.”
But you know? The more I worked with women and actually heard their point of view and their stories, the more I realized that communication between the sexes is oftentimes way off!
Sure, every once in a while you meet an extroverted guy who’s super clear on how he feels. He’s attracted to you, he’s romantic, he’s very charismatic. And yeah, plot spoiler ahead, he’s usually not the type of guy that wants to settle down.
But then there’s the other type of guy, the guy who’s far more common. The guy who’s nervous, or maybe just uneasy about pushing the relationship forward too soon. These kinds of guys might sometimes put out signals that they assume you get. These sort of “feelers” they put out that are subtle yet suggestive. He’s basically asking you, “Do you like me the way I like you?”
Yeah he thinks they’re very direct At least they seem to be, from his point of view. But to a woman, it’s WAY TOO SUBTLE! It doesn’t even make a blip on her radar. Maybe she notices that something is odd about the way he’s talking or behaving but she might never get the implication that he likes her!
Women are just used to men acting weird and goofy around them. Frankly, it’s hard for you to tell the difference between a guy that’s just weird and a guy that really likes you.
So for this article, what I want to do is share some flirting signs that are very subtle, and yet, to a shy guy or a reserved guy, they are communicating his interest. These signs show if a guy likes you more than just a friend. If you catch him doing any of these, don’t be surprised if he secretly likes you!
1. He is way over-the-top curious about you and your life.
Thing is, he kind of knows that if he keeps asking about you and talking about you, that you will suspect he’s crushing on you. But that’s his way of being “forward”, without actually taking the risk of asking you out. Most guys are not that interested in someone that’s nothing more than an acquaintance. Many guys might even consider it rude to ask personal questions – unless of course you’re very interested in the person.
2. He always makes small talk, whether in person or by text.
He goes out of his way to talk to you, even if he has to walk across a room, or send a text message that’s strangely silent. He might only say something like “Hey” or “How are you?” In his mind, he thinks that if he keeps appearing in your life, you will start to notice him and think about him. His strategy, unfortunately, does not tend to work. Too many nice guys assume that just saying “Hey” or being nice or persistent works, when in actuality, emotional connection should be the goal.
3. He remembers little things that you told him.
Not only does he remember these little details he also likes to point out that he was listening or that he remembers you telling him that. This shows that he actually listens to you and is looking for opportunities to be helpful. It also shows that he’s putting forth effort to get to know you and retain information, like a good boyfriend should. He assumes that most guys focus on just being charming but never bother listening to what it is you say. He wants to be better than average and so he puts forth a little more effort. He keeps up with the latest news in your life, does you favors whenever possible, and even asks about your job, family and friends. The little things do count!
4. He finds creative ways to project confidence.
Even shy guys will find a way to try to impress you. Their ways of projecting confidence, however, are more low-key than the usual charming gentlemen. They might take pride in telling you about their personal hobbies, their job, personal challenges they’ve undertaken or have already accomplished, or just sharing knowledge about their favorite subject. While it’s easy to dismiss this as “interesting conversation”, take notice of how excited he gets when telling all about himself. He’s actually bragging a little bit, hoping you can see that is truly someone special – maybe a guy you would consider going out with.
5. He gives you compliments, seemingly innocent ones, that no man should ever give!
Finally, pay closer attention and listen to the compliments he gives you. He will avoid talking about your smile, your body, or anything too risky, since he doesn’t want to be shamed or laughed at. But what he might do is focus on something that you’ve done, (a creative endeavor), or some positive aspect of your personality. If he becomes aware of one of your hidden talents, he might talk about it and find a way to express his admiration. He might also compliment your fashion design, your house, or a car, something unique about you that he remembers. He hopes this innocent compliment will put him in your radar, as a man who is kind and aware of your high value.
Of course, the point is, shy guys and guys that have other issues sometimes find reasons to disqualify themselves from your life. If he has low self-esteem he might think to himself, “I think she knows that I like her. But she’s not interested in me.”
It’s not really fair to you, but that is what shy guys tend to do. So the best way to communicate with him, IF you do like him back, is to give him some louder and more obvious signals. Let him know that it’s okay to be flirty with you and that you’re not going to auto-reject him, just because he wants to test your chemistry. I think if you give a little more, in terms of showing positive signals, you might be surprised at how he reacts.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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