A guy is really into you and you feel like you really have a connection… and maybe things go well for a bit
But then, he starts becoming distant, texts become shorter and shorter, he comes up with excuses, and then eventually just disappears, many times without even telling you what happened.
You have a choice in the middle of all of this…
You can do things which push him away further and faster and make him feel like he doesn’t want a future with you, even if he did before…
Or you can make him start to miss you, causing him to fall in love and then decide that you’re the one and only one that he wants to be with.
Let’s go over some of the biggest mistakes women make when a man pulls away and then I’ll tell you what to do instead…
1. Confessing your feelings to him
This is something out of romance movies that never ACTUALLY works in real life…
You think, “if he only he knew how I really feel about him, he’d decide that he wants to be with me”
In reality, this suffocates a man, makes him feel pressure, and makes him feel like he needs to pull back and think things over.
Destroying you emotionally in the process…
Instead, you want him to know that you’re interested but that you’re not completely won over by him yet.
Because it’s been proven over and over again that when a man is uncertain about how you feel about him, he’ll feel more attracted to you…
And if you do this the right way, that attraction can then turn into desire, love, and commitment…
This happens when you convince yourself that he’s pulling away because of something that YOU did so you apologize to make up for it.
Most women do this because they’re used to fixing things and talking things out with other women.
But this never works with men you’re dating.
Unfortunately, it only makes his desire and interest in you plummet because he feels like you’re putting him on a pedestal.
Men don’t want to be put on a pedestal with the women they date.
Instead, he wants to feel like you’re the catch and like he’s lucky to be with YOU.
Apologizing, will make him feel the opposite.
Don’t assume that you caused him to pull away. It may have nothing to do with you.
3. Trying to buy his love
This usually looks like giving him a gift, buying him dinner, or trying to impress him in some way.
Most women do this because they’re trying to pull him in when he’s pulling away…
But this only makes him think that you’re trying to prove that you’re worthy to be with him.
And proving that you’re worthy to be with him makes him see you as less valuable, which will make him take you for granted as a result.
Because women who know their value don’t try to prove their value to a man… only women who don’t think they’re valuable do this.
Instead, you want him to try and impress you, connect with you, and pursue you.
He won’t do this with you if you’re the one doing it with him.
4. Faking Disinterest
Women tend to do this because they either want to get back at a man or they read somewhere that you’re supposed to do this to get a guy to like you.
This usually looks like ignoring his texts when he does reach out or waiting days to get back to him.
This doesn’t work because it makes him feel like you’re playing games with him which will only make him feel resentment towards you.
Instead, you want him to feel like he is attracted to you because you’re a beautiful, amazing woman, not because you’re playing some game on him.
If he falls in love with who you are, he’ll stay in love with who you are.
If he falls in love with a game you play on him, you’ll have to play that game forever in order to keep his interest.
5. Giving him an ultimatum
This usually sounds something like…
“My time is valuable so if you’re not going to put effort in, maybe we shouldn’t see each other.”
This doesn’t work because men don’t like to be forced into anything.
Instead, he needs to feel like pursuing you, loving you, and committing to you is something that HE WANTS, deep inside his heart.
When He Pulls Away, Text Him THIS
If you’re tired of men pulling away from you and you want to know how to make him want to come back and never leave again…
Here’s the secret…
In order for a man to come running back to you, he needs to feel two things…
The first one is REGRET for pulling away in the first place.
If you attack or punish him for pulling away, you’ll only make him want to pull away further.
Instead, you want him to feel like coming back to you is more pleasurable than being away.
The second thing you want him to feel is like HE MISSES YOU.
He can’t miss you if you smother him with calls and messages.
Apologizing, trying to see if he’s mad at you, seeing if he’s okay…
This only makes him feel like he needs more space.
There’s a 4 word text message that will make him feel both of these things when you send it to him.
If you’d like to hear what the text message is, click the link below right now to watch a video about it…
P.S. If you want a relationship where a man loves you, sees you, and cherishes you, then you need to watch this video…