A guy is really into you and you feel like you really have a connection… and maybe things go well for a bit
But then, he starts becoming distant, texts become shorter and shorter, he comes up with excuses, and then eventually just disappears, many times without even telling you what happened.
You have a choice in the middle of all of this…
You can do things which push him away further and faster and make him feel like he doesn’t want a future with you, even if he did before…
Or you can make him start to miss you, causing him to fall in love and then decide that you’re the one and only one that he wants to be with.
Let’s go over some of the biggest mistakes women make when a man pulls away and then I’ll tell you what to do instead…
1. Confessing your feelings to him
This is something out of romance movies that never ACTUALLY works in real life…
You think, “if he only he knew how I really feel about him, he’d decide that he wants to be with me”
In reality, this suffocates a man, makes him feel pressure, and makes him feel like he needs to pull back and think things over.
Destroying you emotionally in the process…
Instead, you want him to know that you’re interested but that you’re not completely won over by him yet.
Because it’s been proven over and over again that when a man is uncertain about how you feel about him, he’ll feel more attracted to you…
And if you do this the right way, that attraction can then turn into desire, love, and commitment…
This happens when you convince yourself that he’s pulling away because of something that YOU did so you apologize to make up for it.
Most women do this because they’re used to fixing things and talking things out with other women.
But this never works with men you’re dating.
Unfortunately, it only makes his desire and interest in you plummet because he feels like you’re putting him on a pedestal.
Men don’t want to be put on a pedestal with the women they date.
Instead, he wants to feel like you’re the catch and like he’s lucky to be with YOU.
Apologizing, will make him feel the opposite.
Don’t assume that you caused him to pull away. It may have nothing to do with you.
3. Trying to buy his love
This usually looks like giving him a gift, buying him dinner, or trying to impress him in some way.
Most women do this because they’re trying to pull him in when he’s pulling away…
But this only makes him think that you’re trying to prove that you’re worthy to be with him.
And proving that you’re worthy to be with him makes him see you as less valuable, which will make him take you for granted as a result.
Because women who know their value don’t try to prove their value to a man… only women who don’t think they’re valuable do this.
Instead, you want him to try and impress you, connect with you, and pursue you.
He won’t do this with you if you’re the one doing it with him.
4. Faking Disinterest
Women tend to do this because they either want to get back at a man or they read somewhere that you’re supposed to do this to get a guy to like you.
This usually looks like ignoring his texts when he does reach out or waiting days to get back to him.
This doesn’t work because it makes him feel like you’re playing games with him which will only make him feel resentment towards you.
Instead, you want him to feel like he is attracted to you because you’re a beautiful, amazing woman, not because you’re playing some game on him.
If he falls in love with who you are, he’ll stay in love with who you are.
If he falls in love with a game you play on him, you’ll have to play that game forever in order to keep his interest.
5. Giving him an ultimatum
This usually sounds something like…
“My time is valuable so if you’re not going to put effort in, maybe we shouldn’t see each other.”
This doesn’t work because men don’t like to be forced into anything.
Instead, he needs to feel like pursuing you, loving you, and committing to you is something that HE WANTS, deep inside his heart.
You want him to miss you, regret pulling away, and feel like he wants to come back and never leave again.
This is something I call, “The Forever Woman Formula” because it makes him fall in love and want to be with you forever.
There’s actually a 4 word text message that you can send him that gets his attention and makes him realize that he shouldn’t have pulled away.
Women in our community who have used this text message have gotten amazing results…
Where men have even apologized, asked for their forgiveness, and taken them out to dinner to make up for pulling away.
If you’d like to know what that text message is, click the link below to watch a video about it right now…
2 thoughts on “5 Mistakes Women Make When a Man Pulls Away (And What to Do Instead)”
What if he left me ,but I chased him had to communicate with him to tell him how much I do love him. Then he finally does come back, stays for 3 months. On a Monday morning he gets up drinks coffee with me, kiss me by tells me HE LOVES ME, I went to work, then when I get home ALL OF HIS STUFF GONE, He leaves me a note says Sherry, I am just not happy, I need to figure out what I want , but a girl is with him now! He is a truck driver, and she don’t work so she can go on road with him. . He has changed his phone number, so I cannot get ahold of him , I AM JUST LOST!
All girls have mistakes no body is perfect
If meant to be by God porpoise nothing impossible by God loves is painful i don’t like pain again