Sometimes writing love poetry is hard! No wonder Roxanne needed a ghostwriter…or shall we say, a “ghost-facer”, since Cyrano de Bergerac lacked self-confidence because of his giant nose. And before I start outing myself as a late 1800s theater geek, let me assure you I was only speaking of the 1987 Steve Martin comedy loosely based on the old play.
It does seem sometimes as if getting together is easy, falling in love is difficult, but the WORDS are the hardest part of any relationship. Sometimes people ask me, “Well that must be easy for you, since you’re a writer and all.”
Oddly enough, I’ve never really thought about writing and romantic “love quotes” as the same thing, not even the same territory.
The reason is simple. Writing is a persuasive method, a composition of music or literary text. What it does have in common with love quotes is that it IS a form of communication. It represents and depicts language and emotion that make us think and feel.
Love quotes, or the “art” of romancing your partner, is all about sincere emotion. When two people get together and experience a strong emotional connection, they bond on a personal level. It’s not really the words that are important, but the intimacy they share. They’re emotionally intimate, they’re physically intimate. They communicate these feelings using their own words, their own unique language of love. That’s what makes it romantic, is that they understand each other. Both partners have found a way to express themselves nakedly and openly.
So even though there have been plenty of great love quotes by brilliant minds over the years, the truth is that it’s more important to express your love to him in just the right way — so that he’s not threatened or sent the wrong message.
Let’s analyze 5 love quotes that you might have heard before and explain why they work and how you can easily adapt them into your own message.
1. Lao Tzu: Love is, of all the passions, the strongest, for it strikes simultaneously, the head, the heart and the senses.
No need to compete with the Tao master, but just remember that when describing love, focus on the sensations of what it makes you feel. Describing the senses, the intellectual and emotional joy you get from being with your partner, is what makes the love so intense. You connect on multiple levels.
2. Oscar Wilde: Keep love in your heart. A life without love is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.
Oscar Wilde was usually a droll fellow, but his love quote is absolutely true. Remember that some men tend to be very closed off and cold when it comes to emotion. This is not a traditionally masculine quality. It just so happens to be the result of a troubled childhood or even injuries from the last relationship. Letting this man know that you’re patient with him, and ready to love him at his own comfortable pace, will go a long way in winning him over – even if he’s afraid of commitment.
3. Henry James: It has made me better, loving you. It has made me wiser, and easier, and brighter. I used to want a great many things before and be angry that I did not have them.
There’s no better compliment than someone telling you that you have improved their life
and made them happier. Sometimes a man can be so rough around the edges, jaded, mysterious and a little sullen. A woman who loves that man yearns to make him happy, to heal his wounds and nurture him back to happiness.
Sounds familiar…the question is, does it work on men too? Does telling the guy that his love for you has made you a better person work? Especially since we very often remind women NOT to base your entire life’s happiness and self-worth on a man.
YES, it works if it’s sincere and if the timing is right. Remember that men naturally seek to provide and please you, but only once they’re in love. So yes, letting a man know that all of his efforts to please you HAVE worked, and have actually made you an even happier person than you already were, does work tremendously. Going into detail about how lost you might have been before, or how you doubted you would ever fall in love again, would also boost his ego.
Don’t deny him the reward he wants most…to make you happy and to get praised for it.
4. A.S. Byatt: I cannot let you burn me up, nor can I resist you. No mere human can stand in a fire and not be consumed.
I think this is a great line, especially if you adapt it to modern day. Anything along the lines of “I can’t live like this…but I can’t resist you!” really makes him feel on top of the world. He enjoys the chase, and he enjoys giving you lots of attention, knowing you’re slowly coming around to like him.
But at the same time, it’s not a free ride. You’re sending him the message that this is a limited time offer. You’re not going to wait forever. He knows what he needs to do to romance you, and if he wants you in bed and for a relationship, HE has to make the first move. This is a clever way of telling a commitment-phobic man that you do have strong feelings for him…but without showing him weakness, like confessing you’re in love with him.
Let him make the first move, it’s better that he do it anyway. But you admitting that you have strong feelings for him IS like saying you love him, in a different kind of way.
5. Sarah Dessen: There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single, throbbing, flashing moment.
Lastly, remember that true love is always served best when it just happens accidentally.
The personal nature of your unique love story is what can power the entire relationship. If you want to tell a guy how special he is to you, focus on the “story” of how you met and how you came to love him one step at a time. It will amaze him!
Keep things romantic but SLOW, not moving into a commitment too fast. Focus on what you both feel. You don’t have to be silent about love, but a little artful flirting goes a long way when communicating with a man who likes you.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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