Warning: Don’t ever get into a toxic relationship!
Well duh! Isn’t that kind of like saying, “Don’t ever step into a river of lava!”
I don’t think anyone plans to get themselves locked into a toxic relationship. It’s just something that sneaks up on people. Over time, the relationship that, at one time, felt so loving and intensely positive, devolves into a miserable situation – a perpetual crisis that you can’t seem to break away from.
You may eventually realize that you’re in a toxic relationship, or someone may tell you that you are…and it just so happens you’re a nervous wreck, but have never stopped to consider that you’re in an extremely toxic relationship that’s doomed to fail.
So no, you don’t go looking for toxic relationships consciously. Instead, a lot of people tend to fall into them subconsciously, confusing attraction and dysfunction for intense hot/cold love.
We know the end result. It ends painfully and with deep scars that may never heal!
The best thing to do then is to stay alert and look for early warning signs that a toxic relationship may be in the making.
I know, it’s hard to imagine, right? It’s like mind reading or fortune-telling. How can something so small tip you off about a major relationship disaster later on?
Believe it or not, some of the red flags are so obvious in hindsight. But it’s just that no one ever warns us in advance what we should look for and so we miss those red flags.
But I’m going to share five early signs that you’re headed into a toxic relationship.
1. You are rebounding from another relationship and haven’t made any attempts at healing, personal goals, or self-improvement.
What they say about rebounding is sadly true. When your heart is still aching from an old relationship, and you’re still stuck in the grieving stage, it’s the absolute worst time to start a serious relationship. You bring that baggage over and force it on your unsuspected partner. And if you don’t do the work – namely, finding yourself, discovering what went wrong and what you really need to be happy – you thrust yourself into a relationship, usually to make the exact same mistakes.
In some cases (and I’ve seen this a lot of times), one partner might survive a toxic relationship, and yet because she never seeks therapy or any form of self-improvement, will either jump into another toxic relationship or will actually become the toxic and abusive partner to someone else. It’s a vicious cycle and it all starts from jumping too soon into a relationship you can’t handle.
2. Your date begins the date with high negativity.
We’re not just talking cynical but also with a barrage of sarcastic and cutting remarks. He thinks they’re funny. Maybe you think it’s funny too. But if he’s insulting you, or condescending you from the very beginning, before he’s even learned your personality or sense of humor, this spells bad news. Beware of guys that get laughs by being critical of you or demonstrating their superiority over you. This will set the tone for the rest of the relationship and it just goes downhill from here.
3. Your partner has limited enthusiasm.
Sadly this should go without saying, but we need to say it! If a man doesn’t seem enthused to be with you or seems bored, or inattentive, or generally displeased – something is wrong.
Whatever the reason is, it’s a bad sign because men are only interested in relationships that they highly value, that they personally invest in and work hard to make happen. If he’s lackluster during early dating, this shows that his heart is not into it.
Even if he is personally enthusiastic, pay attention to little details – like how often he returns messages, makes time for you and goes out of his way to protect you or do you a favor.
If he doesn’t bother doing it now, during courtship, he probably won’t do it later on, when the relationship gets tiring to him and becomes toxic.
4. He plays the victim and blames everything on someone else.
Nothing is ever his fault…in fact, he seems to have lived a shockingly cruel and unfair life! Is it just coincidence chronic complainers are also the most ungrateful and narcissistic personalities when it comes to intimate relationships? Don’t be surprised if you become the “terrible thing” in his life and the person who’s holding him back. Can’t say you didn’t see the sign coming! If he despised all of his exes that much, without any accountability, someday you’ll be a story too.
5. You replace all your wants and needs with the “great qualities” of your new date.
This is a terrible sign. Because you’ve gone from knowing exactly what you want to be happy in a relationship, and you’ve now settled on something “good enough.” You betrayed your own standards and values. You also gave him false hope, because he’s NOT what you’re looking for, yet somehow you think you can still make it work.
Guess what happens? These relationships devolve into lifelong problems. Now, you’re the one always complaining – to family or friends, mostly venting and backbiting your partner for not living up to the standards that you already long abandoned. You wish your partner was different, you wish he was like the ideal standard you wanted.
And now that you see he’s not, you’re miserable. Worst of all, he might not even be that bad of a guy – he’s just not right for you. Now you’re stuck in a relationship that makes you both unhappy. Subconsciously, or maybe consciously too, you sensed all along that this wouldn’t be a good match. Now getting out of this incompatible mess is going to be a horrible, gut-wrenching experience!
In closing, remember, you CAN know the future. These signs are a sure-thing that you’re walking into a disaster. Maybe it won’t be abusive, maybe it won’t even be the worst relationship you’ve ever had. But will it be miserable, toxic, and demoralizing? Yes! Get out now…long before you invest your heart and soul in it.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…
I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
And how to attract the man you want…
Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…
No matter how painful things have been in your past…
You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…
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If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
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