It seems like every happy family out there has a dark secret! Every happy couple you know has been tested in their marriage. We hear about couples having problems but struggling to stay together, trying to live up to their marriage vows. We also hear about modern couples today getting divorced over anything, even the drop of a hat. Marriage seems cheap sometimes. Love seems antiquated.
So isn’t it all the more inspiring when we hear about couples who go the distance and stay married for a lifetime? They go against the odds. They survive all test or temptation because their love for each other is just so strong. They love each other “forever”, putting up with each other’s faults and caring for each other flaws and all.
In some respects then, our instincts to “forgive” a partner for their mistakes are correct. We don’t want to harp on the past. We don’t want to be harsh when it comes to showing love. The only way to make your marriage last, after all, is to forgive, compromise, and love your partner in spite of his mistakes.
But here’s the moment of truth: can you forgive ANYTHING? Do you have to be willing to forgive anything? Or is there a breaking point, a moment where you can truly say, “Enough is enough!” Or in the words of Gloria Gaynor, “Go on now, go, walk out the door. Just turn around now, ’cause you’re not welcome anymore!”
The answer is yes, absolutely, there is a breaking point. Namely, it’s when he starts disrespecting you to the point of abuse and neglect. Contrary to what we all might think, abuse isn’t just physical. Any of these 12 toxic and emotionally abusive or neglectful behaviors would be a violation of your trust. Any woman with self-respect would and should walk away, because a man who does any of the following has shown his true colors.
1. He constantly lies about himself or where he is.
If he can’t be honest with you, true intimacy is also impossible. How can you ever trust him if he can’t even be honest about little things?
2. He makes fun of you and hurts your feelings.
A man can be “funny” without having to insult you, or maliciously mock you. A real man knows how to get a laugh without being a jerk.
3. He disrespects your family.
Whether he’s complaining about your family or being mean to a parent or sibling in person, there’s never any excuse for such aggressive misconduct. This guy is a psycho. Seriously.
4. He keeps reminding you of how good he’s been to you and how you owe him.
Men who are good and kind have no need to read a list of all their “greatest hits.” You just know it. He knows it. There’s no need to rub your face in it, making you feel indebted to him. This master-slave nonsense is dangerous.
5. He is constantly late to dates, or maybe even no-shows. He may also cancel dates because he got a better offer.
While this is more neglectful than abusive it still paints him in a bad light. He doesn’t value your time or his promises. Expect a relationship to go a lot like this – constant disappointment.
6. He belittles you or argues you, invalidating everything you say.
He never gives you the right to your opinions. He suggests he’s smarter than you or that you don’t understand what he’s talking about. There are plenty of ways to disagree without resorting to making personal attacks.
7. He makes you second-guess what you see or feel, trying to persuade you that you’re wrong or acting crazy.
Abusers will often gaslight their partners, refusing to accept blame for anything and even lying to you about what you’ve seen, heard, or felt. If you ever start to feel “Crazy” or have that constant feeling of chaos, that’s a sure sign this man is going to be trouble.
8. He gets angry or wrathful whenever you express your opinions.
If he insists on punishing you just for having an opinion or disagreeing on an issue, he is weak and ridiculously insecure. His goal is to silence you and make you agree with him by stressing you out. Lame!
9. He never gives you credit and even belittles your accomplishments.
Whether he’s “joking” or just downplaying the milestones you make in life with his own sense of logic, that’s a clear indicator he’s only in this for himself. You want a partner that loves you and supports you – someone who’s proud of how far you’ve come!
10. He compares you to other women, including exes, or his crushes.
It’s one thing to be attracted to other women, most guys are. But if he compares you to other women, or his exes, or uses his attraction as a weapon to hurt you, beware!
11. He withholds affection just to punish you.
Whether he’s withholding sex, affection, love, or assurances, it’s easy to tell when a man is “training” you to be good. It’s a far better idea to find a guy that gives you the attention and affection you need…just because he loves you! No games necessary.
12. Making demands of you and then punishing you for not doing them.
If he’s got a list of stuff you need to do for him and then overreacts when you “fail”, then you’re practically dating a dictator. Tell him to invade Poland and get the hell out of here.
It can be difficult, at times to differentiate between a man with flaws versus a man who is narcissistic or downright abusive in his behavior towards you. Remember that the health of a relationship can be judged by how you feel most of the time.
The intent of an abuser is to make you feel inadequate, apologetic, and in a constant state of stress and chaos. Here’s the thing. You don’t have to wait until a live-in relationship to experience these negative feelings. The minute a man starts invalidating your opinions, or disrespecting your values and character, then he has already shown his true colors.
You can tolerate a man who makes mistakes. But the real issue is, does that man respect you? Does he always try his best to make you happy and make your life better? If you argue with each other, does he try to make up and let go of resentment? Or is it always his way, his viewpoint, and his demands?
If he doesn’t respect you then have the self-respect to end this one-sided relationship. Let him grow up while you focus on meeting a man that deserves you.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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