How do you know if he cares about you but isn’t in love with you?
Have you ever wondered if that guy you like and flirt with is actually in love with you or is just showing signs of brotherly love? Sometimes men do flirt, and encourage, and will even BOND with a woman that they don’t actually in love.
Sometimes they do this to be nice, even though they’ve already friend-zoned that woman a long time ago. Sometimes, unfortunately, the situation can even escalate – and a guy that’s NOT in love with a woman will actually marry her – and later regret it.
After all, we’ve heard plenty of stories of men being pressured to marry women because of a surprise baby, or because he feels sorry for her, or even because he’s afraid of what she might do!
These situations do happen sometimes and it’s unfortunate. Why would anyone want to get married or date if not because of attraction and passion? There’s no other possible reason to do it. Frankly, it’s a terrible idea to date or marry someone that isn’t in love.
How do you know
How to Tell He Cares About You But Isn’t In Love With You
The question is how do you know if a man is genuinely in love with you or just really cares about you? Here are eleven signs to look for that are very telling.
- You just sense he doesn’t love you enough.
A woman can always tell when a man is giving her “second best.” She knows when a man is head over heels in love – the way he looks at her, the tone of voice, the way she brings a smile to his face. If you’re having doubts, you probably sense he’s holding back.
- You’re not too close to his family or friends.
Men who aren’t serious about a woman NEVER make them feel like part of his family. He will avoid bringing you to meet his parents, siblings, or maybe even his friends. He wants you to be his secret, his woman “on the side”, rather than actually planning a life with you.
- He tells you that you’re like his sister, or best friend, or some other friend/relative he knows.
If he ever uses an expression like this, it’s bad news. Once he decides you’re too much like family blood, he will never see you as a romantic partner. And don’t think that sleeping with him once or twice will cure him of this notion.
- He never wants to be one-on-one – he always wants a group setting.
If he refuses to be alone with you, he’s very opposed to the idea of anything happening sexually or emotionally. He’s standing guard. Maybe he’s afraid of losing control over himself or afraid of getting too intimate with you. Either way, not a good sign!
- He talks about other women and other potential relationships – quite often.
A man who talks about other women either has no respect for you or is likely just oblivious to how you feel about him. If he talks openly about dating other women he might even be sending you a message – that he’s not interested in anything other than friendship.
- He is overly comfortable…he doesn’t ever try to impress you.
On the other hand, a man who is so overly comfortable that he seems lazy, or disrespectful, or just plain uninterested in impressing you probably doesn’t love you. Men, by nature, want to impress a woman. Once he loses attraction, he loses the desire to impress and work for your approval.
- He has a great deal of anxiety about commitment and advancing the relationship.
I know…men get social anxiety too. But it’s just common sense – if a man is having jitters about commitment, weddings, or even vague talk about the future, it’s not a good sign. If a man falls for you, commitment is always his idea.
- He only wants to talk if he needs something from you.
If a man loves you, conversation is the foundation of your relationship. He always wants your opinion and your attention. The conversation, the emotional connection, IS the reward. If he doesn’t love you, but maybe cares for you as a friend, then he’s mainly interested in what you can do for him.
- He is not jealous of you dating other guys.
This says it all. If he seems to encourage you to go date other people or spend time with someone who could be a threat, that’s a bad sign. Men are jealous by nature unless he’s just not that into you.
- He doesn’t try to advance the relationship. Either he doesn’t ask you out…or if you’re already together, marriage is never on his mind.
Men who are in love want to advance the relationship, they want to win you over, they want to protect their investment in you. If a man lacks the desire to advance then that means he’s stalling or maybe even going backward, working towards a breakup. If a man has no interest in moving forward what is his true motivation?
- He never compromises in the relationship.
A man who never compromises and always wants the relationship on his terms – never yours – is ultimate motivated by his own needs. This will never be a balanced relationship. A man that loves you will compromise, will make time for you and will put your comfort above his own. A man that always insists on getting his way and disappoints you whenever you need him, will never make the relationship a priority.
Whether the guy considers you a friend, a little sister, or just a fling, it’s important to accept that the relationship will never be what you want. As much as you try to influence him to feel something for you, it’s unlikely to happen. Once a man decides how he feels about a relationship, it’s difficult or nearly impossible to change his mind. The best thing to do is to let HIM chase you, let him decide he loves you. If you’re not getting those signals from the man you are dating or talking to, then it’s time to move on to someone else.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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