What does maturity mean? Once you understand that, then ask yourself, “what does emotional maturity mean?” Is it the same thing? Can a person be mature in some way and yet emotionally immature in other ways?
For starters, let’s consider what emotional maturity is, and then the signs that reveal your emotional maturity. You can look for these signs in your own behavior or in that of a partner or date. It may be telling to review some common signs of emotional maturity and immaturity. Knowing this information can help influence you and the way you deal with other people.
The Definition of Emotional Maturity
Emotional maturity means that you can handle a wide variety of situations that come up rationally and logically – without feeling the need to escalate the emotion or becoming defensive. So right away, we see the difference between emotional maturity and the general meaning of maturity.
One can be physically mature without being emotionally mature. For that matter, someone could be mentally mature, in that they’re intelligent and logical, but still, be emotionally mature – because they can’t deal with their emotions in a healthy way.
Sometimes an emotionally mature person may blame other people – literally everyone else, rather than accept responsibility for their own mistakes. In essence, they avoid fixing the problem or confronting their negative habits and mindsets. Instead, they resist and go on the defensive, accusing others of attacking them.
Such is childlike behavior. It’s also a quality seen in Cluster B personality disorders, people who lack empathy. They are often made that way because of the environment and an erratic childhood. This indicates that people with these disorders are stunted in childhood development. They cannot simply “grow up” because they can’t approach the situation like an adult.
The good news is if you’re intelligent and empathetic enough to understand these points, then you probably don’t have a disorder. You have a rational and logical mind. And you are capable of accepting responsibility for your own actions. You’re also capable of separating negative emotion from the problem and taking a more productive approach to find the solution, or a compromise.
Sometimes all it takes is some soul searching and brave honesty, to admit our own character flaws and accept full responsibility for our past actions. But don’t be upset. Consider this evidence that you are emotionally mature and making progress in your own personal growth.
Signs of Emotional Maturity
1. You take responsibility for your actions. You can’t control other people or things, just your own behavior and thoughts.
2. You admit when you’re wrong. It doesn’t have to be an argument to win.
3. You won’t accept blame for something that isn’t your fault. But you will express an apology if your partner (or someone you love) is upset by something you said.
4. Admit that while your opinions are valid, you only have one perspective to offer. Your own life experience. You don’t know what it was like to live as someone else.
5. Your feelings are important but can’t overpower someone else’s rights or preferences.
6. You have compassion for everyone, even people you disagree with.
7. When you’re tested, you remain patient and resilient. You don’t fall apart and need someone else to save you.
8. You stay positive about life and the future. Negativity wears you down. It’s more fun and practical to be optimistic about tomorrow and happy about today.
9. You express gratitude to other people for what you have and what they do for you. Gratitude inspires you to be happy and to be giving to others.
10. Finally, being emotionally mature is about losing the fear of vulnerability. As much as it feels right to protect yourself, you must be willing to give to others. To listen to others. To speak openly to others and not constantly be on guard. Trust other people and give them the benefit of the doubt. This is a major step in transforming your life from a pessimistic attitude to a positive and healthier one.
How to Work on Emotional Maturity
If you’re somewhere in the middle – conscious of bad habits and mindsets that rob you of happiness, but not sure how to to change things, then there is hope. You can make reaching a new emotional state of maturity and introspection by making goals and taking baby steps to get to those goals.
For instance:
• Preparing for your goals, visualizing them.
• Meditating on positive motivations
• Set realistic expectations with boundaries
• Slowing down rather than quickly responding to everything
• Learn from your mistakes – in fact, view a mistake as the chance to learn
• Learn to identify poor choices and meditate on why following your instincts will only hurt you and others later on
• Change your environment – this may include changing your friends or leaving the place that contributes to the bad habits or thinking you’re trying to quit
• You can challenge yourself and be truthful in your conclusion. Being able to challenge your own perspective and research a new topic demonstrates emotional maturity. You can either grow from it or reinforce the beliefs you already have. But questioning and researching is never a bad thing.
In conclusion, remember that emotional maturity is just as important a factor as compatibility. You can actually be very compatible with a person and yet, if they are not emotionally mature, be bad for each other. On the other hand, if you are not emotionally mature, your partner may not be able to handle you, depending on his age.
Maybe that partner needs to grow. Maybe you both need some time to grow and experience life so that you help formulate opinions, heal from traumas, and most importantly, learn from your experiences. When two partners are emotionally mature and ready to take a relationship seriously, the odds are more in their favor. They have learned to compromise, to communicate, and to sacrifice for each other.
The more open-minded you are in life, the more you learn. The more you learn, the happier you are. When you’re happy, your romantic relationships are healthy and healing. It’s a chain of feelings and mindsets that will only help you as time goes on.
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