The very idea of letting go of a friend seems wrong. Friends are precious. Friends are supposed to be there for each other. Forgive each other. Defend each other. And yes, tolerate each other, even when you’re arguing or fighting. Friends are forever. Friends are once in a lifetime.
And yet, even though you know all these things and you do cherish your BFF, sometimes bad things start to happen.
At first, you dismiss it. Maybe it was an accident. Maybe it was a misunderstanding. Maybe your BFF has a problem and needs to get help.
But over time, what you notice is that there is always some major drama going on. Even worse, you’re constantly in the middle of it. You’re always in a jam. You’re always cleaning up you friend’s mess. Maybe you’re tired of dealing with your best friend because they always seem to ruin your life or even your romantic relationships.
This is what many now recognize as a “toxic friend.” This kind of friend, whether consciously or not, is making your life miserable. That’s all they seem to do and it tries your patience. What can you do about a friend who is making your life worse? More to the point, how much is too much? At what point should you stop trying and stop talking and just start removing that toxic person from your life?
That’s what we’re going to discuss – signs that it’s time to let a friend go.
1. They’re on the wrong side of history.
It’s kind of hard to excuse a friend if they say things that are blatantly racist, sexist, or disparaging of other social groups with the intent to hurt you or others. Maybe they even say it to your face and figure you’ll just take it in good stride.
If you repeatedly tell them that this behavior bothers you and they ignore the warning, then it might be time to consider breaking away – until they learn a lesson.
2. You don’t trust them anymore.
If they have violated your trust in the past – and so many times that you no longer trust them at all – then it’s hard to imagine this as a productive or meaningful friendship. Why be friends if you can’t even trust the person? What good comes from trusting someone you think might betray you at any given time?
3. They exhaust you with their problems but don’t really care about you in return.
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Not only is it trying, but it’s mentally draining to listen to your friend talk about their problems all the time. They are self-centered and just want an audience for their latest gossip.
But what’s worse, they NEVER ask you how you’re doing. Even if you tell them how you’re doing, they don’t seem to care. They barely react. They simply don’t put in the “time” to make this an equal friendship. This is a one-sided friendship. You know that now.
5. They put you in dangerous situations – repeatedly.
It’s almost unforgivable if it happens once. But imagine if it happens repeatedly! Your friend constantly exposes you to danger, drama, and maybe even illegal activity that’s going to get you in deep trouble. If that’s the case, it’s better to distance yourself now – before you end up ruining your own life just because of that lousy friend!
6. They always go beyond boundaries, making you very upset or uncomfortable.
You’ve noticed they have a bad habit of always pushing you into uncomfortable territory. Maybe it’s in the way they talk about things, or situations they push you into. But if it bothers you, then there’s a good reason. Your dangerous friend is violating your trust and pushing set boundaries, knowing full well they are invading your life.
Once they start with this pattern, they will accelerate and eventually push you to a breaking point.
7. They always want money or something else peripheral.
Some friends bug you for money. Some for a place to live. Some maybe even want sex constantly, but offer you nothing in return. These relationships are parasitical in a way. You just give and give and that other person takes and takes. After a while it not only gets tiring – it drains you of your energy AND your resources.
8. You never grow or improve in life.
The friends you have in life SHOULD help make you a better person. Like a romantic partner, they should improve your quality of life. Make you happier, help you with problems, help you achieve goals, and so forth. If this friendship never goes anywhere, or actually drags you down, (since you’re taking care of them most of the time) it has become a toxic friendship.
9. You have different morals altogether.
If you’re suddenly very aware of your friend’s lack of morals (perhaps a sexual offense, or some other shocking confession) and how they are completely opposite yours, then there may be no saving the friendship.
Friends match together BECAUSE of shared values, shared morals, and having a similar perspective of life. Finding an “opposite” with whom you have no common ground is a fleeting friendship indeed.
10. They bring you no joy at all.
Finally, consider the very simple question: does this relationship bring you any joy? Or is it more like a burden you’re expected to take because no one else will? Sadly, that’s not what a friendship should be. You’re not a caretaker. You deserve a better friend. You deserve a friend that makes you happy and improves your quality of life in some way.
Letting go of someone you once loved, a best friend, is a very difficult task. It feels horrible, the idea of walking away from someone you care about. It feels awful when they try to contact you and you have to ignore those calls.
But remember, breaking up with a friend is a lot like breaking up with a boyfriend. This does NOT mean forever. You must end the friendship as long as that friend continues with the toxic behavior that you have explained time and time again.
Perhaps then, after breaking up with that friend, they will start to realize that they do need to change. They need to show you proper respect and cease with the offensive behaviors. Then, not only will you stop enabling your friend to abuse you, but you will also help that person change for the better.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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