It is sometimes hard to tell the difference between a man who is just seeking more independence from a man who is losing interest in you entirely. If you are wondering what’s up with your guy lately, analyze his recent pattern of behavior. Is he merely backing away, as in craving independence and new challenges, or is he becoming annoyed at the way you both interact lately? If you look between the lines you may find that he still thinks about you and still makes time for you—and that’s a great signal indeed.
“Is He Losing Interest?” Quiz
Is he losing interest in you or does he just need some space? Sometimes it can be hard to tell the difference. So let’s practice a little bit of “mind reading” by paying closer attention to the things he does. Answer these questions and see how many Yes vs No answers you get!
1. Does he make promises that he can’t keep?
YES
NO
What He’s Thinking: Men love to work hard to impress women. If he’s promising something he can’t keep, then he may be trying to love you but it’s just not happening.
2. Has his personality changed a lot since you first met him? If he was always eager to get your attention or impress you before, has he taken several steps back?
YES
NO
What He’s Thinking: He may be wanting some space or craving his independence. Men usually enjoy impressing women who challenge them. If you’re trying too hard to please him or are planning his entire life for him, he may be losing interest in the lifestyle—not necessarily you.
3: Do you still talk on the phone or text several times a week or has his desire to talk all but disappeared?
YES
NO
What He’s Thinking: If he still finds you good company and still makes an effort to share his thoughts and feelings, it’s a very good sign. Sometimes men do need a break from too much “relationship” and not enough independence. But ultimately, if he still enjoys being with you, he will find a reason to call, text and touch base.
4. Do you have mostly low-conflict fun conversations or does he always seem upset about something you do?
YES
NO
What He’s Thinking: The more men complain about your behavior, whether it’s “you’re too demanding!” or “I don’t have to do anything you say!” the message is clear—he’s rebelling against what he thinks he owes you, or what you think he owes you. He wants to be free and maybe single again. The best thing to do is let him go and find out whether he really wants a committed relationship or not.
5. Does he tell you everything or want to tell you everything? Or does he keep a lot of secrets from you?
YES
NO
What He’s Thinking: When a man first learns to trusts you, he wants to share his most intimate thoughts with you. He’s delighted to know someone who accepts him for being honest and unfiltered in the way he talks and thinks. If he still loves sharing his feelings and thoughts, it’s a good sign. If he’s gone back to hiding things, it’s time to readjust your dating strategy.
6. When you call is it pretty much guaranteed he will answer or return your call within the hour?
YES
NO
What He’s Thinking: When a man feels protective of you, and emotionally invested in you, he will always want to talk to you, even if it’s just to touch base. However, if he feels trapped or like he’s losing his independence, he may start avoiding your phone calls. For your own protection, make every phone call count. Make sure he feels free to speak and share his thoughts.
7. Does he still enjoy spending time with you, usually choosing you over his guy friends and nights alone?
YES
NO
What He’s Thinking: If the conversations have been lacking lately, but he still makes time to spend with you, you might be worried for nothing. Sometimes men become withdrawn if they feel controlled. Sometimes they even “pout” with silence if they’re upset about something. But if he still prefers spending time with you it’s a good sign. If he’s spending more nights out with the guys, he may be cruising for other opportunities.
8. Does he still think in terms of “We”? When he talks about the future does he always include you in the plans?
YES
NO
What He’s Thinking: If a man still sees you in his future, then he still has interest in you, even if he does sometimes crave more independence. If he starts to think more in terms of “I” or “me” then it may be a more negative sign. He may resent how much control you have over his life. If he never discusses the future, it’s clearly a sign of commitmentphobic thinking.
9. Does he still compliment you—even without you hinting around?
YES
NO
What He’s Thinking: Most men will “respond to the bait” if you drop hints that you’re feeling self-conscious about your looks. But if a man takes the imitative and tells you that you look beautiful, then that’s a sure sign that you still have his interest. If he has been gradually dropping the compliments he used to freely give you, then he is starting to wander and it’s time for a change in the relationship dynamic.
10. Are you two comfortable enough to joke about other attractive people, or is it still a big secret that he checks out other women?
YES
NO
What He’s Thinking: Practically every man checks out other women, whether he admits it or not. It’s just human nature to look at what is attractive. So the idea of a man’s eye never wandering again, is a bit of an impossible and hen-pecked standard. If he still feels guilty about it or denies doing it, it’s time to increase the intimacy between the two of you.
A woman who is self-confident in her own skin, and trusting in her partner, will have no problem with a man admiring beauty. She may tease him and challenge him, but will ultimately let him feel at ease in the relationship; to laugh, to be himself. A man should not be shamed into staying loyal…if that’s happening, it’s time to talk out the issues of mistrust.
If you answered yes to most of these questions, it’s likely that your man still loves you. Maybe you just need to step back a little bit and allow him to be free. He will respect you more for it and realize soon enough that he doesn’t want to be far from home…you will become his “place” of solace.
The Secret Words That Make His Heart Yours
Today I want to give you some words that you can tell your man that will make him want to give you the relationship you’ve always dreamed he’d have with you…
These words form something I call a “Love Frame” that make a man feel like it’s his mission in life to treat you like a queen.
If you’re struggling to get your man to “step up” and give you the romance you’ve always wanted, you need to watch this video right now…
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These words will work on him even if…
…your man is pulling away from you or ignoring you completely…
…you think you got intimate with him too soon…
…or you feel like your situation is hopeless…
Because once you understand it…
You’ll be able to trigger a flood of emotion throughout his body that melts away all resistance…
Making him see you as the perfect woman for him…
A woman that he wants to pursue, fight for, and be with from now until the end of time…
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Talk soon,
Matthew Coast
P.S. Try out these seemingly innocent yet strangely powerful words on the man in your life and seem how quickly things change with him…
