I’ve both talked to people that say this and read articles that suggest this somewhat radical idea. Namely, that if two people are bound to be together they will eventually find their way back – even if they have to break up and date other people for a while.

It’s a wonderfully idealistic viewpoint. It’s certainly nice to see in romance movies or TV series, about undying love. Your love goes on forever, even if you can’t be together. But in the end, you get your way back because deep down you always knew he was the one.

But is that realistic? If it has any basis in realism then where does it come from – fate or choice? In this article, we’re going to consider where the idea of “bound lovers” comes from and whether your on-and-off relationship might be the same thing.

Fate

The idea of fate or destined lovers is a bit of a fairy tale. Some people still believe in the idea of destiny, though honestly, it has more in common with a Hollywood movie or a romance novel. The truth is nobody would be happy if we were “forced” to marry just one person because that’s what the prophecy foretold.

If you read any fantasy fiction book you’ll notice prophecies always involve greatness or a humble boy someday becoming a hero. It’s rarely ever about the destiny of true love.

We don’t want that – we want the freedom to choose. We want the ability to date someone that we’re attracted to and who we’re compatible with, right?

So don’t settle for a fated romance. Think bigger than that.

Twin Flames or Soul Mates

The more realistic version of bound lovers is that of twin flames or soul mates. Twin flames are two lovers separated over lifetimes, “souls” that find each other, lose each other, grow, and then often find each other again. Twin flames are the most volatile of matches, since lovers are often in direct conflict; no wonder, because your partner represents the other “half” of you, the mirror reflection so to speak. So many of the same qualities you have, he also has.

Soul mates tend to be gentler lovers, someone less concerned with conflict, and more attune with your mind. They bring you feelings of peace and love. A soul mate might be a lover or a platonic friend.

Remember that twin flames will often separate for a purpose – even in “one lifetime”. They have to grow individually before they can rejoin and return to a safe and united relationship. This could explain why many twin flame lovers have volatile breakups early on in the relationship, and then eventually settle down with each other later on – perhaps even later in life.

Attraction and Compatibility

Of course, talk of twin flames and soul mates might be too speculative for realists and skeptics. Even so, there must be a theory on why some couples break up, get back together again, break up, and then maybe fall in love and stay together much later.

There is a plausible theory and not a metaphysical one to explain what happens. First, understand that just because a couple breaks up does not mean they immediately start hating each other. Nor does it mean they stop thinking about their ex, not in the least bit concerned about their life. It might happen sometimes, but not very often.

Most exes are still “in love” with their ex in some way. They’ve just decided they can’t live with each other anymore. If they decide to date too soon, they might even rebound in a relationship that’s conspicuously similar to the one they just ended. This is why it’s common for some guys to date someone new who just so happens to look like his ex-wife or ex-girlfriend.

So the idea of a couple getting back together is not all that surprising. Very oftentimes, we go looking for something “better” and are surprised to learn that we never find it. This is because “better” doesn’t exist…we simply decide to stop looking at some point and enjoy the healthy relationship we have.

In fact, most people assume – and rightfully so – that couples get back together because of the promise of change. Things are going to be different now. Seems reasonable.

However, a 2013 study from Kansas State University suggested people actually get back together for very different reasons statistically – and for some far less heroic.

Couples often get back together because:

● Emotional investment spent in the earlier relationship
● Family duties
● Intimacy still shared between lovers
● Fear of the unknown

Couples are “bonded” together because the intimacy we once felt, even years ago, is still easy to recapture. If there’s compatibility. If there’s still love and mutual respect that exists between two people.

On the other hand, love is a living thing, something that must be preserved and maintained to stay alive, or even forever. Couples that break up and never see each other again, seldom think about each other.

But when you make the conscious choice to be part of your friend’s life, even if it’s just as a friend keeping your distance, your chances of getting back together increase. The more you communicate, the more you see each other, the more you remember the past.

Why “Change” Matters

The lesson is, anything is possible…but what works is what makes you happy. Relationships should be about bonding, trust, and mutual benefit. He makes you a better person. You make him a better person. When the two of you get together there is little conflict because you complement each other very well.

The only way you can get back together after having a messy breakup – and not fall into the same traps as before – is if the both of you change. If you outgrow those old flaws and grow in knowledge and experience. You are both better people now because you’ve learned. You’ve experienced life and gained something from those experiences.

Your values are aligned once again because you have grown into the successful people you wanted to be all those years ago. Independently, you’ve made great strides. Now back together, with full awareness of what went wrong last time and how to fix those issues today, you can focus on finding happiness with each other one last time – and to forever.

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

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