One of the most often heard rules in dating is that “men chase women”. More specifically, we hear this: if a man truly wants you, he will pursue you. But is it true?
One of the mantras we hear very often is “If he doesn’t love you enough, then dump him. There is someone else out there who will love you for who you are.”
Inspiring, yes. And not entirely false, because yes, there is plenty of fish in the sea. And if he doesn’t love you enough, then of course, you don’t want to devote your life to him.
The only question we haven’t answered is this one. Have you given this guy enough for him to pursue you? Have you emotionally engaged him? Has he had the chance to your true personality? Have you given him a reason to feel wanted, to feel excited, to feel like a man?
If not, then I can say this with assurance. He won’t pursue you.
Sure, other men will pursue you, but guess what? They’re not going to fall instantly in love with you. They won’t pursue unless they want you, unless you know how to get them interested and keep them chasing you.
What you want to prevent is the endless cycle of man chases you, man loses interest, start over again. Let’s talk about how to make a man want you so bad that he WILL pursue you forever!
Give Him Experiences to Remember
Remember that men have two levels of attraction: superficial (he notices just about every cute woman in a five-block radius) and emotional.
Contrary to popular belief, men usually don’t chase women who are simply good looking. It’s a lot of trouble to chase after every attractive woman in the supermarket, in a club, at a concert, and on a dating app, and so on.
What a man DOES chase after is excitement! HE craves emotional attachment that results from:
● Flirting with a new stranger
● Conversing with a cute friend
● Playing mind games with an attractive nemesis
● Making pleasant memories with someone he really likes
● Exploring his kinky fantasies with someone he trusts
● Fighting crime in a superhero outfit with a hot superheroine by his side
I think you get the picture. Men are attracted to women but they actually CHASE women who give them an emotional experience.
Focus On Being the Best You Can Be
Men are attracted to successful women, not just in business, but in life. How proud are you of the life you’ve built? Your job, your hobbies, your passions in life – this is what defines you. When you’re truly alive and loving what you do, you project success. You increase natural confidence and this makes you attractive to others.
It’s a much more powerful sense of attraction beyond beauty. This is what most men are looking for, even the shy guys, even the players. Beauty comes and goes but a passionate personality will always be in high demand.
Reward Him for His Effort – That’s What Keeps Him Chasing
Too many women misunderstand this part. Men do not simply chase women because they enjoy being rejected. They enjoy “winning”, they enjoy chasing and getting their just reward, yes, even if they push themselves harder than ever before.
The question is, do you “reward” a man for the effort he puts forth, keeping him interested in the chase?
No, rewarding a guy with sex is a bad idea. Instead, we’re talking about the reward of a good conversation. The reward of listening to him, learning him, and talking about things he cares about. Do you invest back in him, the time and effort he puts in you?
If he takes you for granted, then the old adage is true – don’t pursue him. He doesn’t want you enough and that’s his loss.
But if you sense that he likes you but is having a hard time moving forward in the relationship, maybe it’s time to focus on making him more comfortable. Give him the confidence he needs to ask you out by engaging in conversation. By flirting. By getting to know him beyond his job, his family, and his most obvious qualities. Make that a challenge – to find out his secrets and get to know the real man he is inside.
Is a Man That Doesn’t Pursue You Not Interested?
If you’ve tried to talk to a man but he always seems disinterested, half-hearted, or even disrespectful then your instincts are right. Move on and don’t regret it. A man should always show respect for your time and for your character. Don’t start the relationship on rocky grounds by pursuing him even when he rejects you or insults you.
On the other hand, if you sense he might be shy or unsure about how to ask you out, how to flirt, or how to be charming, then maybe you can try sending him more obvious signals.
There’s no rule that says a man should relentlessly pursue you until you give in, nor is there one saying you should never make the first move. That’s all stereotyping nonsense. Respect each other, be patient with each other, but know your value.
And make sure he’s given the chance to stand up, be a man, and be the romantic hero he’s always wanted to be.
Be a Woman Worth His Time
As you can see, it’s not just enough to say, “If a man wants me, he will pursue me, the end.”
You have to send those signals. You have to show him that you’re a place of safety and comfort. You have to show him that you’re more interesting than other women, you’re one in a million. You have something special and that’s worth pursuing. He’ll ENJOY the chase because he will be addicted to your charm, wit and amazing personality.
You must give him what he needs, emotionally and intellectually, even before he realizes what those needs are. Very oftentimes, women do make the first move in relationships, they just keep their signals quiet and subtle. The guy picks up on it and moves in, enjoying the chase.
She keeps the relationship sexy, intimate and exciting because she knows what turns him on, she knows what makes him happy. That’s how a relationship lasts forever, with a great guy pursuing a woman that’s worth the chase!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…
I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
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If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
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