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How to Make a Man Value You More

Do you want to know how to make a man love and value you more?

There’s nothing more upsetting than a man you really like taking you for granted and not recognizing your worth. It can be downright annoying behavior if it’s little things—like being self-centered or oblivious to your needs. Or it can even be heartbreaking if he cheats on you, abuses you or manipulates you to the point of tears. None of that is acceptable behavior for a boyfriend or in a dating rel

There is only one solution—you must make him value you more than he does. You must stop letting him “depreciate” all that you do for him or he WILL get progressively worse in the way he treats you.

How to Make a Man Love and Value You More

Here’s some relationship advice on how to make him value you more. Let’s review five strategies for “inflation” that will make him realize he’s been taking you for granted and recognize your worth.

1. Make him work for your attention, love and satisfaction.

Men are hard-workers by nature (at least when it comes to doing something they love) and it’s in their nature to appreciate something more so after they EARN IT. This is why it’s so rewarding for a man to win a sports championship, or to become a movie star, or be elected as a politician. It’s a long and difficult road, meaning when he achieves it, it really feel like he’s accomplished something amazing. Men have a hero instinct that makes them want to create and earn their achievements.

Well the same is true in men’s relationships. If you are wondering how to make a guy value you, this will be key. Every man wants to feel as if he had to work a little bit (or a lot!) to win over one particular woman. The more of a challenge she presented, the more interested he was in dating her. The more time she made him wait, the more satisfying the first time was. The more she resisted marrying him, the more pride he took in his marriage accomplishment. Men like to earn a woman’s attention, so always challenge him to try a little harder and enjoy the show. Playing hard to get in dating relationships can be challenging but it goes a long way in attracting a guy who will value you.

2. Make him aware that you CHOOSE him…but you’re not tied down to him or your relationship.

The very minute a man believes you have no other options, he will start to take you for granted. He assumes you’re here with him because you have nowhere else to go, so he’ll always be pushing boundaries and not realize your worth. He’ll always assume you need him more than he needs you. This is why it always HELPS to let him know that you’re here by choice, not because of a commitment or because you have no other offers. You have the power to make him realize just how much you are worth.

This means dressing up to look good—for other men, for other women, for other PEOPLE. This means being sociable because you’re not just a man’s jewel that he pulls out to show people. This means being ambitious because it feels good to do things on your own in life—making you someone he can’t live without. This means valuing yourself and not believing for a second that he is doing you any favors.

You don’t have to poke him or hurt his feelings intentionally. Instead, start standing up to him when he disrespects you and let him know that you are here by choice. You’re here for the moment, but by no means are you trapped here. A man wants to believe that he is desired by his partner, not just “entangled with” or tied down to him. This gives you power in the dating relationship and will help him value you more.

3. Remind him that you will not tolerate insulting behavior. You are worth more than that. You will lose interest, not argue.

The best way to stand up to a man that has no respect for you is NOT to issue idle threats but to SHOW him you’re serious and worth his time. When a man does something rude or neglectful your natural instinct should be to back away. Your reaction should be to stop encouraging him or assuring him that you want to “fix things.” If he has said or done something that implies he does not appreciate your intimacy and attention then you must STOP giving him that intimacy and that attention. Ask any expert for advice and they would say the same thing—men don’t deserve your attention if they don’t value you. 

This (A) lets him sulk and brood and get it out of his system without feeling smothered. (B) Lets him know that you do not need his attention or approval to be happy. (C) That you won’t wait for him like a loyal dog—you’re an independent woman and you deserve his full effort and attention.

And yes, losing interest is far more effective than arguing, crying or giving him drama. When you lose interest, he gets no reaction. No advantage for him. He has to come back at that point and try again. You make him put forth some effort and show that he cares.

4. Make him work harder when he comes back to you and your relationship.

At some point a man might “leave”, “take a break” or generally avoid you. If this hurts your feelings, then you must SHOW him (not tell him) that the old relationship has fizzled out and that if he wants your affection again, he has to work for it all over again. Don’t give a man who wanders a free pass to go right back to the way things were. He needs to give you time, attention and make you feel valued. When you cave in so easily, you depreciate your value in his eyes and attracting him becomes harder.

Instead, increase your value by outgrowing some of those stubborn behaviors that you didn’t like about yourself, or that he took advantage of. Showing him that you’ve outgrown the old relationship and want something new immediately puts him on notice. Best of all, you don’t have to talk about it…you can just simply show him with the way you conduct yourself.

5. Achieve something great—don’t just bluff, do it for yourself and the man will see it.

It’s a wonderful feeling to accomplish something worthwhile that you’ve set your mind to. So by all means, take advantage of this modern era we live in, where we’re (almost) equal in gender opportunity. Go and find your dream career. Make your hobby your one-of-a-kind talent. Find your passion, find your favorite charity—your means of giving back to the world and leaving it a better place for the next generation.

Final Thoughts on Making a Man Realize Your Worth and Value Your Relationship

How to make him value you is not an easy question to answer. But These attributes of achievement and wanting to do something with your life will make him realize you’re not just giving him a hard time…you really are worth more than gold, and worth far more than the average woman. You have true value because you’re a strong, successful and happy person—with or without him, but preferably with him!

Why do men value women?

Men value women for a variety of reasons, ranging from physical attraction to emotional compatibility. In general, men are drawn to women who possess qualities that they find desirable, such as confidence, intelligence, kindness, and a good sense of humor.

Physical attraction is often the first thing that catches a man’s attention. Men are naturally drawn to women who are physically attractive, but what is considered attractive can vary widely depending on individual tastes. Some men prefer women with long hair and a curvy figure, while others are more attracted to women with short hair and a more athletic build. Ultimately, physical appearance is just one factor that contributes to a woman’s overall value.

Beyond physical appearance, men value women who possess a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. A woman who is comfortable in her own skin and exudes self-assurance is very attractive to men. They want a partner who is secure in herself and knows what she wants out of life.

Intelligence is another quality that men value in women. Men want to be able to have interesting conversations with their partners and share intellectual pursuits. A woman who is well-read, informed about current events, and able to engage in debates or discussions is highly desirable.

Kindness is also an important quality that men value in women. A woman who is compassionate, empathetic, and considerate is attractive to men because it shows that she has a caring and nurturing nature. Men want to be with someone who they feel will be a good partner and potentially a good mother to their children.

Finally, a good sense of humor is often cited as an attractive quality in women. Men love women who can make them laugh and who don’t take themselves too seriously. A woman who can joke around and be playful is very appealing to men because it shows that she is fun to be around and doesn’t take life too seriously.

Overall, men value women for a variety of reasons, but it’s important to remember that each man is different and may value different qualities in a partner. The key is to be true to yourself and focus on being the best version of yourself that you can be.

How do you get your value back after you lost it?

Regain your sense of self-worth by doing things that make you happy and fulfilled. Pursue your passions and hobbies, set goals and work towards achieving them, and surround yourself with people who support and uplift you. Remember that your worth is not determined by anyone else but yourself.

In addition, communication is key in any relationship. If you feel undervalued or unappreciated, talk to your partner and express your feelings. Be honest and direct, but also be willing to listen to their perspective. Together, you can work towards finding a solution that works for both of you.

Finally, it’s important to remember that you are not responsible for anyone else’s actions or behavior. If your partner doesn’t value you, it’s not a reflection of your worth or character. You deserve to be with someone who sees your worth and treats you with the love and respect you deserve.

How to make him realize your worth

While you can’t force someone to value you, there are things you can do to show your partner your true worth.

First and foremost, be confident in yourself and your abilities. Believe in your worth and don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise. When you exude confidence, your partner will naturally be drawn to you and appreciate you more.

Next, set boundaries and stick to them. Let your partner know what you’re willing to accept and what you’re not, and hold them accountable for their actions. If they cross a boundary, be firm in enforcing it and don’t let them make excuses.

Another way to make your partner realize your worth is to show them how valuable you are to their life. Be supportive, loving, and kind, and make an effort to be a positive influence in their life. Show them how much you care about them and their well-being, and they will begin to appreciate you more.

Finally, remember that actions speak louder than words. Your partner may say that they value you, but it’s their actions that truly show it. Look for signs of respect, love, and appreciation in their behavior, and don’t settle for anything less.

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But IT only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

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My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

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I WILL show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

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No matter how painful things have been in your past…

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Just click the link on your screen and watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

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28 thoughts on “How to Make a Man Value You More”

  1. Tasia L Brooks

    Hey Matthew,

    How do I get a man back that I was dating for a few months who told me yesterday that he doesn’t want to put up with me anymore and has been ignoring me since then after we had an argument?

    How do I get back his attention and get him to not be upset with me?

  2. I broke it off with him. He had started to be disrespectful. He now has apologised for his behaviour and wants a relationship with me. How do i make sure he realises we arent continuing on, but starting a fresh new relationship.

  3. I went out with a guy. He said he was attracted to me but felt no connection but wanted to go out again. What does that me??

  4. Brianna Endrina

    I really found this article inspiring! I read every email I’m sent and I never leave a comment…so today I decided that it’s time I do. You deserve a well earned standing ovation and air-five (Covid…& the clear fact that I’m responding via the internet, lol!) for all that you do! I’m grateful for all the awesome reading and advice, Matthew.

    1. If a man loves you you will know it. Don’t give your body away looked a happy meal. Pray and look for a partner who does the same. Career, Family, morals and that taken for granted relationship with God. If you can see the same qualities in your self you are on the road to a good start. You must work at it communicate your feelings openly between one another. While there are no quarantines, you will positively grow in love with one another by never taking anyone’s for granted.

  5. So me and my guy broke up four months ago we’re taking a break from each other we still talk to each other! we still see each other from time to time! And I know we both love each other! but it just seems like we’re getting more distant and more distance how do I bring us back together closer is there a way or what should I do?

  6. Dated a man for 4 yrs and lived 2gether with him and my 10 yr old daughter. He had an x appear from a 7 yr high school relationship after 6 yrs of no communication. He hid it and told her I was just a roommate. I drove her off with the truth. He saught out another x from high school x she knew nothing of me and he hid that from me for almost 2 yrs. He never did anything for me and my kid, it was always about him. Finally I moved put after he asked him mom to write me a termination of lease letter with no reason as to why, and lied about it. After moving I confronted the last x then him and walked away. 4 months later he came back acting sorry. We talked, didnt hang out for a while them when we did it was back to sexual partners again. Now hes hiding intentionally a friend he talls to daily and says they’re only friends. U shouldn’t hide ur friends, u shouldn’t have to hide ur gf or avoid me when I know it with each other hanging out. I’m trying my hardest to not stay in denial when I can feel his energy and it’s all bs. At this point, I feel it’s not worth trying ur program but I’m hopeful if I do it will work. I dont want to come off as pathetic, I do really love this man, have since I was 14 and never got the chance to go beyond friends til 5 and 1/2 yrs ago. He says he doesn’t want to be with any1, hasn’t apologized for anything and acts like he doesn’t have time to talk bc everything in his life is so chaotic that he cant keep up but it’s all excuses bc hes a narcissist. With all the small details, I’m sure ull say walk away, hes a lost cause but I’m asking anyhow. What should I do?

  7. Me an my ex broke up in 2018 an he said that he loved me but not in live with me. He says he still cares bout me . Problem is I’m still in love with him til this day an he knows it. He says he wants to stay friends for while an see where it goes . But I know if everyone would stayed out of it an stop coming in between us it probably would have worked . So how do I get him back to only wanting me .

    1. You should work on wanting to be the best person you can be. Don’t be concerned about what he wants, but what YOU want. The more you concentrate on yourself, and not on him, the more chance he will see your value.
      If you feel lost without him, he’ll see you as lost and confuse it with being too needy. The only person that wants someone needy is a person that wants to control others. Take back your control. Once you do this, you may find that you’re better than him and the next man will respect and treat you better. Good luck getting to know yourself better. I hope you realize you’re a worthy person.

  8. I met a guy on fb , first he never Said he was married, but instead said he was in a on n off relationship , we bcm close, I got to know dat he is married and his wife was stranded in a different country due to covid, he started feeling lov towards me and we started dating, he never discussed about his wife and their problem jus said it’s an on and off relationship.now that it’s time for hus wife to return I asked him the status of our relationship dats wen he says he can’t leave her, and neither he wants to tell her about us. And now we have fights and quarrels every day

  9. I met a man online just before the pandemic (February 2020). We saw each other 3 times, talked on the phone a lot, then the end of April started seeing each other almost every day. He said he loved me and wanted a life with me. I wanted the same. We did have some values and beliefs that didn’t align politically and religiously. I am a manager at a large company and he – a blue collar guy. Yet I love him. He also has a 7th grade daughter and my kids are grown. Recently he ended the relationship citing that our “lives are in different places”. I know that I should move on but it just hurts so bad. I welcome the thoughts of others..

  10. This is very well timed for me, because I’ve just about had it with my man, whom I’ve given my all to, taking me for granted and saying he doesn’t know if he’s committed to me, despite the fact we’re living together.

    He hates me talking about the relationship, however nicely and positively I do it … he sees this as pressure. I know I have to find a way to wake him up to value me/us more, or it’s never going to work. I do know that I’m an attractive, high value woman who many guys would give their right arm to date, and I’m so bored of feeling like it’s only his needs that count.

    However, how do we implement your advice during lockdown Matthew, when it’s not possible to see other people, and we’re stuck sharing the same four walls?

  11. I am 60 he is 65 we have been dating two years. He does not want to move in together or get married. I told him we want two different things. That not now but down the road I was hoping we would get married or at least live together. As I was leaving he asked if I was coming back? I replied I did not know. That I guess that would be up to him. I haven’t heard from him in over 24 hours. No goodnight text like usual no nothing. Have I list him? I am in love.

  12. Does this work with long distance relationships? Me and my man are both widowers and he says he wants to sell his house and move in together but his daughter (31 years old) still lives with him and he cannot bring himself to tell her to move out, especially since she is totally against him moving on with another woman. How can I make him want our life together so much that he gets a backbone to stand up for his own future?

  13. Thanks so much. He was my lecturer, later we exchanged numbers, later he asked if im working, and I said not yet, he said OK i will call soon, since then he’s not replying my messages nor picks my cals. He used to call me b4, but he has stopped. I don’t maybe he has a girlfriend but he has no wife. Does he want sleep with me and go or if u love a lady and she said I’m not working at moment can stop u loving her?

  14. Wisdom to use in next relationship.. I learned a lot …after 7 years and much heartache. I’m happiness means more than trying to please a Narcissistic..gave too much of myself to the wrong man .. ha been 3 months working on myself and lots of fish in the sea. Thanks for your help

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