Chances are that you have got it bad for someone. I didn’t even say his name, but he popped up in your mind, didn’t he?
Right now, you are probably picturing his smile. Maybe you are thinking about his dimples, or maybe you’re visualizing the color of his eyes, the freckles on his nose, or the way he always brushes his hand through his hair.
The truth is that you cannot stop thinking about this specific person that you hope might be your Mr. Right, and maybe you are finding yourself scouring the internet for tips, trying to figure out how to get a boy to like you or how to hint to a guy that you like him.
While those are all valid questions to ask, none of that matters right now. You found your way here for a different reason. And you know why–because this potential Mr. Right is shy, and you want to know how to get a shy guy to like you.
Yes, shy guys can be hard to figure out–but they are not impossible. I’ll let you in on a little secret: they are most likely waiting on you to make a move first. I know quite a few shy guys myself; they are great guys and are easy to get along with. They are attractive, funny, and charming–once you get them to crack. So many of them have come up to me in frustration, unsure of what it is they are doing wrong that keeps women at bay. This reiterates my point: sometimes, they are too shy to make the first move.
A guy might really like you, he might think you are one of the most beautiful women he has ever seen, but if he is too shy, he won’t do anything about it. Now, he’s waiting and you’re waiting, and that’s how you run around in circles. So, how exactly do you get a shy guy like you? Let’s figure it out together.
It’s in the Eye Contact
It’s hard to pinpoint what makes someone shy, especially if you’re an extrovert. While you might love being the life of the party and socializing with everyone around you, Mr. Shy might be the exact opposite.
Some people might be shy because they’re naturally introverted. It might take them a lot to come out of their shell, literally and figuratively. Maybe he has a few insecurities he is working through and is afraid that people will judge him if he makes himself the center of attention; maybe he suffers from a case of social anxiety and finds himself feeling overwhelmed when he’s talking to too many people.
Regardless of the reasons, there is one thing to remember: the eyes don’t lie. If you are crushing on a shy guy, the first thing you should focus on is getting his attention. The more eye contact you two make, the more confidence you give him to approach you.
And there is an added bonus: if he meets your gaze and holds eye contact with you, however brief, it means he’s growing comfortable with you. You’re both enjoying each other’s company, and nudging the other to start a conversation through subtle glances.
Throw Him a Smile
You’ve caught his eye, and you’ve exchanged glances at each other a few times. Don’t forget to throw him a subtle smile! Again, you want to make him feel comfortable with both the idea of approaching you and being approached by you.
Besides, a smile is one of the most alluring and inviting actions you can give another human being. It signals that you are friendly, kind, and sweet–how many people fall head over heels for a smile? You get my point.
Once you’ve established a level of comfort between you two, say hi! Striking up a conversation will allow you the opportunity to get to know him, and also give him the chance to warm up.
Remember, shy guys need time to meet you at your level. Make him feel comfortable, and make yourself approachable. Strike up a light conversation, laugh, engage in eye contact, and smile!. You want a guy to like you for who you are–you shouldn’t have to be anything but the amazing and beautiful woman you know that you are. This is what will grab the attention of Mr. Shy Guy; it makes you alluring, confident, and captivating.
Let Him See the Real You
Go at your own pace. There’s no time limit on getting to know another person, and making them like you.
Little by little, you’ll see that he is not so shy. Let things unfold as they do, but don’t forget to enjoy the experience of it all, and to really take your time to get to know one another!