โYour body is away from me, but there is a window open from my heart to yours.โ
– Rumi
Remember the last time you felt a powerful longing for that special someone?
Whether youโve only known him for a while, or youโre in a long-term relationship with himโฆ
โฆif he matters to you, being away from him isย painful.
But how do you make him feel the SAME?
Suzanne, a preschool teacher from Sacramento, met Patrick through a mutual friend.
They went out a few times over the last few months, and they seem to be getting along fine. However, something told Suzanne that heโsย not that into itย as she is.
She shared, โI was always the one who texted him first. It would take him a couple of hours to reply, and itโd be like that the whole day.โ
โEvery time Iโd try and reach out – like sending him a funny picture or video โ I wouldnโt get much of a reaction out of him,โ Suzanne added.
It was a bit frustrating for her because she really thought Patrick was a great guy, but didnโt feel like he missed Suzanne enough.
And it was mostly Suzanne whoย made the effortย to plan things so they could go out again.
It got to a point where she started to think he wasย slipping away.
That was when she decided to do something about it.
โIf I was going to lose him, I might as well try a few things to see if it would get him back,โ Suzanne said.
After she made a few changes, itย didย make a difference.
Patrick started replying right away, and he was the one who texted first thing in the morning.
If he wasnโt sending Suzanne sweet messages throughout the day, he wasย making plansย to see her.
And when they got together again, he finally told Suzanne what she wanted to hear:
โHey, I really missed you.โ
Are you doing enough?
For a lot of women, everything seems fine and dandy when theyโre with their guy.
The tricky part is when they start spending time away from each other. Thereโs the risk of him drifting off and losing interest.
And the problem is that these women go about it theย wrong way. They think that have to pull some attention-grabbing stunt like going on social media and playing theย jealousy game.
Chances are heโs not going to fall for the โLook at me with these other guys on Facebookโ trick.
Itโs going toย backfireย and it wonโt make him think about you more.
A better way is to give him hints and reminders that youโre someone worth thinking about 24/7.
With a little finesse, you can make him long for you like no other woman has.
Here are 7 Great Ways To Make A Man Miss You:
#1: A little info goes a long way
Oversharing is one of the biggest turn-offs for a guy. I canโt tell you how many times women have shot themselves in the foot with thisย oneย mistake!
This applies more to someone youโre just getting to know. And if you think he might be the The One, youโll be tempted to open up to him.
Iโve noticed that women do this toย strengthen their bondย with a guy as quickly as possible.
Itโs a big mistake though, because trying to rush things with a guy emotionally isย notย a good recipe for romance.
And trying to fast-track that connection with him is likely toย freak him out.
Kevin, a lawyer from Florida, once told me, โEverything was going great with this girl Tiffany whom I asked out to dinner. But then she started talking about her exes. I nearly choked on my steak when she told me aboutโฆthe things she used to do with them. I donโt know what her deal was, and the only reason I didnโt sneak out the bathroom window was because they didnโt have one!โ
Youโre probably not as explicit as Tiffany when it comes to personal details (I hope!), but you get the idea.
Avoid talking about the touchy, personal areas of your life for now. If ever you wander into that territory, donโt give detailed answers and change the subject.
Thereโs no need to fudge the facts, but you donโt need to beat him over the head with it, either.
Thereโs plenty of time for that stuffย later on. For now, give him some room to wonder about what makes you tick!
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#2: Dress to kill
Of course, you want him to love you for who you are, and not just for what you look like.
If he only liked your body and nothing else, what kind of a relationship would that be?
But having said that, the way you present yourself STILL matters.
I donโt care if youโve known the guy for 3 weeks or 3 decades. If you stop caring about your looks and all that other basic stuff, it sends theย wrong message.
Iโll share a little secret with you – 99% of the men I knowย donโt wantย a supermodel for a partner.
They just need to know that sheโs not going to trade her flattering outfits for a ratty shirt and sweatpantsโฆ
โฆstop going to the gymโฆ
โฆor think hygiene isย overrated.
I mean, even if someone like Brad Pitt dressed like a slob, you probably wouldnโt like him either, right?
(Ok, maybe that wasnโt the best exampleโฆbut you know where Iโm going with this.)
So, stay on top of your game. Choose the right wardrobe and makeup (as much or as little of it as you need) to underscore your femininity.
Let your clean, fresh appearance do the talking. Care about what you eat and burn those calories.
You donโt need to be perfect (because NO one is), and itโs not a prerequisite for making him miss you.
The point is to look good and more importantly, FEEL GOOD about yourself.
Heโll feel that confidence radiating from your whole body. And THATโS what will keep him coming back for more.
#3: Hold your horses
As much as you want him toย want you, you should always keep the long game in mind.
As we talked about earlier, a little intrigue is healthy in a relationship.
It makes him want toย pursue you, and put in theย workย to win you over.
Men absolutely love a woman whoโs up for a challenge. Thereโs a lot at stake when it comes to dating, but you still need to make it a FUN game for him.
Donโt give him what he wants all the time, andย donโt smother himย with sweetness.
Maybe on some days youโre extra affectionate (whether itโs face-to-face or through texts/emails/etc.)โฆ
โฆthen other times, youโre very friendly BUT platonic towards him.
Just when he thinks, โIโve got this in the bagโ, you come out of nowhere and play mental judo with him.
Oh, how guys love/hate this one!
Trust me, as a guy, I love being TEASED.
Bear in mind however, he needs to know heโsย still in the gameย and that this will eventually lead somewhere.
Keep it light, playful and good-natured so that he sticks around and thinks about you.
#4: Get a life
An awesome one, that is.
I donโt know about other guys, but Iโm not sure how to feel about a woman whoโs obviously not doing much aside fromย waiting for me to call her.
Men actually donโt like it when youโreย TOOย available for them.
Itโs kind of like playing chess with someoneโฆ
How would you feel if the other person suddenly yelled out, โCheckmate, you got me!โ even before you made the first move?
It wouldnโt be any fun, right?
Again, itโs all about CHALLENGE.
And living a happening, interesting life is one way to make your guy feel the bittersweet pain of your absence.
Donโt go on the olโ social media machine and post pictures of you at a partyโฆ
โฆwhile youโre spending your free time watching โSex and the Cityโ reruns in bed with a bag of chips.
(Do women actually do that? If not, just insert your sedentary activity of choice.)
Live your life from a genuine place and invest your time in doing things that help you GROW.
And sometimes, that means youโll have to hold off on seeing him (which is way different from dropping off the face of the earth) because youโve already made plans before he asked you.
Women who are totally engaged with their lives effortlessly project a grounded, mature (read: NOT boring), yetย fascinating personality.
When he sees how much fun youโre having from doing the things youโre passionate aboutโฆ
โฆheโll want to gatecrash the party and get in on the action!
Heโll be like, โShe looks cool. I can totally see myself hanging out with her. Bet sheโs amazing in bed, too.โ
(Whoops, did I just say that? But itโs true...)
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#5: Positivity breeds positivity
Fun has been a recurring theme in this article, and for good reason.
Men donโt want to be around someone who brings down their energy. Weโre driven, competitive, and we like people whoย lift us up.
And itโs the same with a romantic partner:ย no one likes a party pooper.
Look, I know you canโt be Pollyanna and spout platitudes of sunshine and happiness all the time. We all have our bad days.
Nevertheless, itโs important to him that you have a generally positive attitude – and not walk around with a dark cloud hanging over your head.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself:
– โDo I find myselfย complainingย a lot? Do I rant on social media every time something bad happens – or comment onย everyย piece of bad news out there?โ
– โWhen Iโm with my guy, do Iย talk crapย about my co-workers, relatives and friends?โ
– โDo I try toย see the bestย in people and situations? Or do I tend to assume the opposite?โ
Iโm not saying that youโre a miserable person, but it does help to do a little self-reflection and awareness โ especially when youโre around your guy.
#6: Practice radio silence every now and then
Nope, Iย donโtย mean cutting offย all contactย and see how he reacts.
Playing hard to getย to an extentย is fine, but it isnโt about manipulating his emotions or making him feel bad.
So all Iโm asking is that you donโt broadcastย every single thingย youโre doing.
He doesnโt need to know what youโre having for lunch, or how Linda from Marketing hogged the floor during the office meeting.
Social networking sites are a bit to blame because it adds to the โGimme my 15 minutesโ culture.
And technology in general is making it way TOO easy for us to bombard other people with the mundane aspects of our lives.
This special guy of yours isnโt your best friend or mother. Heโs perfectly fine wondering a little what youโre up to.
In fact, itโs the perfect way to avoid making himย feel crowded. Give him the headspace to think about you, rather than trying too hard to insert yourself in his thoughts.
#7: Finish STRONG
Ever heard the expression โstick the landingโ?
Itโs when an athlete finishes a move in style (like in gymnastics) and strikes a cool pose โ often to thunderous applause.
In dating, you can do the same and leave aย strong impressionย in a guyโs mind. That way, heโll be counting the minutes until he sees you again.
Here are a few ways to do this:
- Donโt let the date go and on. Eventually, the energy level will go down and thatโs not the best time to say your goodbyes. Have a set time, and let him know you have to be up early for work tomorrow.
- So, that means youโll need toย make him feel greatย while heโs with you. Donโt make the conversation all about you, give him a chance to share his stories, and tell your own (positive and funny ones work best).
- Touch his arm, punch him playfully on the shoulder or mess up his hair (if the situation allows it).ย Physical cues of attractionย are key.
After your date, heโll keep replaying that wonderful experience in his headย over and overย again.
Remember when Netflix wasnโt a thing yet and you had to wait a whole week to see the next episode?
I kinda miss that, and I actually likedย cliffhangersย because it gave me something toย look forward to.
Plus, it was nice to be able to digest what I just watched. Nowadays, weโre overindulging ourselves by binge-watching the whole thing till our eyes glaze over.
In the same way, youโve got to pace yourself so heย doesnโt get sick of you. Thatโs the whole point of the game.
But if youโve been doing most of what weโve just talked about and heโsย STILLย pulling awayโฆ
โฆthere might beย something more seriousย going on here.
A lot of women struggle with this problem, and theyโre often clueless why they canโt stop their man from slipping through their fingers.
However, you donโt have to feel powerless about this situation.
Thereโs still hope and you can start by learning aboutย What Makes Men Pull Awayย in this shocking video:ย <=
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I just want to make him know that am the best wife for her but I don’t know how to make it, because everything is changing now and everday and no communication at all, what should I do?
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Thanks so Mathew ur advice are useful I will apply them.and I pray it works for me
Thank you very much I will do the same
He is too busy with work,n I want attention from him,what do I do?
I want to know if he truly loves me and. Thinks about me when am not around him but I don’t know how to do it
I so much appreciate your writings Matt.. I will surely make good use of them