Everyone resents the idea of a “fake friend”. Real friends are hard to come by. The idea that someone could be playing you, or just pretending to be a friend for their own selfish purposes, is upsetting. When you meet a friend you expect loyalty. You expect honesty.
So no wonder you feel angry when a “fake friend” disappoints you. Maybe they use you, or maybe that just drop you like a bad habit whenever they get a better offer.
Or maybe they just drift away and no longer take an interest in your life. It’s not really a personal betrayal but it still hurts, doesn’t it?
Of course, confronting them and causing a scene is not very therapeutic. Maybe the best thing to do is to be just a little more cautious in the future when it comes to confiding too much or trusting too much in someone you don’t know very well. Here are 9 signs that someone you know might be a fake friend.
1. It just so happens they only talk to you when they want something from you.
It doesn’t matter how much you reach out to your friend. The only time they ever call is when they need something. Your friend may spin it well, suggesting that they were thinking about you…but that kind sentiment is always followed by a request or a favor. You are a resource, more than a friend.
2. They don’t seem to care about you, but do sometimes use you for information.
By the same logic, your fake friend might not directly ask for money or favors but you will notice their primary interest in your life is just information they can get out of you. Maybe they want to know gossip, or they want to know about your mutual friends. Maybe it’s the scandal they’re after. What you do notice is that they never actually inquire about your life, how you’re doing, or anything else besides trivial gossip.
3. It just so happens they only talk to you when it’s convenient.
You might think someone is your bestie without actually noticing that your many conversations only seem to happen become of circumstance. For example, you work in the same building. Or you have a mutual friend. You’re always at the same place and so you do talk and share. But if you’ve noticed that you don’t actually seem that close AWAY from the same place that brings you together, you might be overestimating the friendship.
4. They insult you all the time.
This is sometimes hard to discern, especially among guy friends or girlfriends that like to tease you. But over time, you will learn a difference between ribbing someone you love (which is always “light” and funny) and someone who puts you down because it makes them laugh or makes them feel better about themselves.
5. If you confront them about their negative behavior they freak out.
Another sign of an unhealthy or shall we say unbalanced friendship is when your friend can’t listen to reason – especially when it’s about their negative behavior. If you’re tried talking to your friend about their hurtful or negligent behavior and they always react aggressively then this is a one-sided friendship. Maybe it’s not completely “fake”, but it just shows your friend lacks empathy and will never see your point of view. In fact, it’s common for narcissistic “friends” to hold grudges and judge you harshly for your mistakes, while never accepting responsibility themselves.
6. They’re not there for you when you need them – but you better be there for them!
You’ve learned by now never to count on your “friend”, even if it’s a pretty big deal. They always make excuses or find something better to do, even when you explain how important your situation is. “Fair-weather friends” are never actually there for you – they’re just sort of tagging along for the ride, so as long as it benefits them in some way.
7. They talk about you behind your back.
The sign of a true friend is loyalty and respect. The kind of person that wouldn’t listen to slander or gossip about their best friend. Fake friends, on the other hand, won’t mind talking about you behind your back. They might even enjoy disparaging you because of jealousy or insecurity.
8. They don’t care about your success.
Real friends are happy for your success. They celebrate with you. They don’t feel competitive or resentful just because you have a good year or find luck. Fake friends take it personally when you succeed. They will seem a little miffed when they hear your great news and may even backbite you to other people.
9. They have no desire to bond with you any deeper than they have.
Finally, if you notice that the friendship never really deepens over time, but just sort of stays the same, then accept the fact that this friend is probably just a casual chum or “acquaintance” that is not invested in the relationship like you are. Doesn’t mean they’re scheming or manipulative. Maybe this person is nice and congenial. But the shallow conversations you have is as deep as it will ever get. They don’t want anything more.
When you’re dealing with an “acquaintance”, rather than a true friend, remember that you don’t have to be mean or cold towards them. All you’re doing is staying cautious and making sure this person is trustworthy before investing too much time in them or giving them personal information that should only be shared with a friend.
If you start to see signs that maybe this friendship isn’t as deep as you thought, then it’s time to focus your energy on finding a friend that truly matches you – not just someone who’s there or who uses you for resources. Save your full trust for a friend who earns it and someone who takes the time to express how much they value your friendship. Once you find a true friend that really likes you will immediately notice the difference in the quality of time you spend together.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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