It’s kind of obvious by now that long-distance relationships are trendy. Not just because of social distancing or quarantine, but also because of the popularity of online dating.
Who can argue that it’s fun to connect with someone who’s compatible with your personality, understands your point of view, and loves your wit and wisdom?
It sure beats dating someone who tolerates you, or just wants you around because he’s lonely! The approach of dating smarter is a great trend for building better marriages and it just so happens it also causes more long-distance relationships.
But if you’re thinking about commitment, it’s important to be honest with yourself and determine whether you can handle a long-distance relationship. The idea of one might be romantic. But if you can’t handle it, it’s bound to end in heartbreak and no one wants that.
That’s why in this discussion we’re going to discuss 8 signs that indicate “Yes, you are ready” and “Yes, you can handle the responsibilities associated with a real LDR”, without complications. Let’s discuss each one at a time.
1. You’re not in lust or searching for whatever.
Naturally, the desire to have a variety of sex partners will complicate any LDR. Even if you’re in an open relationship, it’s still very possible to fall in love with someone else you’re dating and be caught by surprise.
The key to success is to NOT be in lust and not be open to any kind of relationship. You’ve been there and done that. You want something specific and from the one man who meets your high standards. That’s what keeps LDR honest and faithful.
2. You are ready to talk about everything!
You must not hold back in a LDR, because honest communication is everything. The worst way to mess up a good thing is to keep secrets, or even worse, hold back EMOTION. Love and emotional honesty is what keeps you connected. Once you start distancing yourself, the friendship and the relationship starts to cool off. Make an effort to always communicate and bond, as two soul mates. You want to be emotionally open with your partner. You’re not waiting to start a relationship – this IS the relationship and you want to treat it as such.
3. You know the kind of man you want and are ready to trust him.
You must trust the man you’re waiting for. If you’re going to be suspicious about where he is or what he’s doing, it will show. Eventually, he will get tired of being treated like a child. But what if he cheats on you, you ask? Simple – know the kind of man you want, the qualities that are important (like honesty and integrity), and then get together with that guy. Don’t get involved with a cheater if that’s a deal breaker. Pay attention to his qualities, his character, and his reputation among friends.
4. You know exactly what you want from a man.
Along the same lines, knowing what you want from a partner helps tremendously in keeping a long-distance relationship together for months or even years on end. If you’re looking for “whatever” then no, that’s not strong enough to keep you together. This relationship has to be something specific, positive qualities in him that are worth waiting for. He is a rare specimen and fits your needs exactly. That’s why you’re willing to wait.
5. You’re very independent.
A strong committed relationship is made up of two strong individuals. When you’re independent and have your own life, and he does the same, you don’t constantly need each other. You don’t need to constantly “maintenance” the relationship. You’re both happy on your own and when you do meet together, it’s only enhancing your lives. You are already happy with your life and where you’re going. Your LDR fits both your lifestyles and so you’re not “in want” of something better.
6. You’re not afraid of being alone.
At the same time, you do realize a LDR means you can’t always be together and you can’t always be “on call” for each other. That’s why you’re OK being alone. You’re okay if your partner is busy. You don’t freak out about it because you’re secure, self-confident, and very respectful of your partner’s obligations. You’d rather wait and be with him than settle for anyone else just out of the fear of silence.
7. You have a good social network of friends and family.
Of course, no one can stand to be alone forever. So we’re not saying that you should become a hermit and not get out and talk to people. You should absolutely go and be with friends, acquaintances, workmates, family, and even new strangers if they come around. Having a good social network DOES keep you faithful, happy, and busy with life.
8. You don’t envy anyone else’s relationship.
Finally, you must be past that point of envying other people’s relationships. Obviously, your LDR is not going to be like your girlfriend’s, or your workmates, or the ideal relationship your parents may have wanted for you. Your relationship is unique, created by you and your partner. All that matters is what exists between the two of you. One of the worst ways to sabotage a good relationship is to constantly compare it to that of other people. If you secretly want what your friends have, go find a relationship like that, and be happy. But if you treasure the relationship you’ve built with the love of your life, don’t cheapen it by comparing it to someone else. Don’t let the negative opinions of others affect your real feelings for someone you cherish above all others.
In closing, remember that determining in advance if you can handle a long-distance relationship is the right thing to do. If you can’t handle it, there’s no shame in admitting that. It’s the honest thing to do, it protects your own heart from disappointment, and it protects your potential partner from investing in something that’s never going to work.
Be kind to yourself and others. When you look for a long-distance relationship, remember that you want something specific, not general or convenient. Something meaningful to you is worth waiting for and when you’ve had your full of whatever is “local” and easy, you will appreciate that all the more so. The best things in life really are worth waiting for!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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