What are the signs he’s faking his love for you?
One of the most cunning opponents in dating is the narcissist. Narcissists, sociopaths and god forbid “narcissistic sociopaths” are among the most unpleasant and unbearable people to be around. It’s hard to imagine having a long-term relationship with one of these guys. It’s constant misery and you’re fighting a losing battle to try against all odds to make them happy…
It’s hard to imagine why any woman would want to date a narcissist…
Oh just one problem though. It’s really hard to see a narcissist’s true colors when you first meet him. After all, he prides himself on being loved by others. He wants to impress you, romance you and yes LOVE you.
That’s the love-bombing phase. That’s when he goes overboard with emotion and flatters you with romance, sex, and promises of happiness, only to yank it all away later on, when he gets bored of you.
It’s a vicious dating pattern and unfortunately, many women do not see the narcissist for what he is, it until it’s far too late. And yeah, it sucks that many narcissists just so happen to be rich, handsome and extroverted.
But I’m going to let you in a little secret for spotting ad stopping these narcissists, players and womanizing guys. You can always tell a man’s true colors if you observe MORE than just what he’s saying, and actually pay attention to how he’s behaving.
8 Signs He’s Faking His Love For You
Let’s consider eight signs that show undoubtedly he is faking love for you and has no plans for a long-term future.
1. You don’t qualify as family or even to be near his inner circle of friends.
Men who are serious about you will introduce you to their families and friends. If he keeps you away from them, regardless of excuses, it shows that he’s not ready to combine worlds…and he probably never will be. Even in social media, you’re still the “dirty little secret” he won’t admit.
2. Meanwhile, your friends don’t like him. At all.
I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that a player / narcissist CAN charm your family because he knows that’s his obligation. But I am also fairly sure he will NOT try so hard to impress your friends, and friends of friends.
He only has so much fakery to give in a day’s time so he won’t give 100% to all of your friends, if he feels he can neglect some of them. That’s the friend you should listen to…the one who sees him in his “natural state.” Aloof and unconcerned about someone’s feelings.
3. He’s not much for cuddling.
It seems that men that aren’t really in love with you are immune to the cuddling and afterglow—which are some of the best parts of the serious relationship. If he only makes you feel loved during sex, and seems to always want to be alone after sex, he is getting no pleasure from actually being intimate with you.
4. He “falls in love” way too soon.
The MO of the narcissist is that he love-bombs partners with low self-esteem. And he can sense that you desire love and to not be lonely. He knows making grand spectacles of his love will win your loyalty.
He tends to be extreme in the way he says “I love you” too, with poetry and sweeping statements. But in between these grand romantic gestures you may notice you haven’t actually spent much time together. It’s more of a love at first sight thing…which is straight out of fairy tales.
5. He doesn’t challenge you…he tells you just what you want to hear.
There will be moments of testing and challenging in a normal relationship, it’s part of growing together. But when a guy seems too perfect and knows exactly what to say to impress you, chances are he’s not communicating with you at all, but telling you what you want to hear.
6. He’s moving too fast. As opposed to commitment-phobic guy who moves too slow.
Yes, the correct answer is “progresses in the relationship at a balanced pace. Obviously, a man who never wants to commit, even years later, is not the guy you want.
But what’s even scarier is a guy who wants to commit within weeks or months of meeting you. You have to wonder, what is his motive? Is he after sex, money or something else? Is he really that desperate for a woman that he’s willing to devote his entire life to you, after knowing you for such a short time?
If he’s handsome and successful, there’s a very good chance he’s NOT desperate but has an ulterior motive.
7. Look out for gaslighting techniques early on.
Most people think of gaslighting techniques (making you feel crazy and doubting your own insanity) as something that happens later on in relationships.
But with a narcissistic personality, he will often manipulate you into admitting he’s the best guy you’ve ever dated. He’ll find fault with everyone and (playfully) get you to admit he is good for you.
A real man doesn’t have to persuade you of this. You know it and you tell him. NOT the other way around!
8. He treats everyone else BADLY.
You may have to look beyond your family and circle of friends because narcissists can fake sincerity to a degree. What they cannot do, however, is be nice to everyone they’ve ever met. Way too much method acting there and not within his abilities. (After if he was capable of being nice to everyone he wouldn’t be a narcissist!)
There’s a very good chance he has plenty of disgruntled friends, enemies, exes and acquaintances he double-crossed. Go get the real story from them.
Love bombing is very real. Remember his offerings are not always gifts and grand romantic gestures either. Sometimes love bombing can include flirting, teasing and giving you lots of attention. Just be aware that something that seems so wonderful and perfect is usually too good to be true. Perfection is impossible and real love is earned over time. Don’t let a man trick you into bed or into spending away your resources simply because he caught you at a vulnerable time.
Work on your own self-confidence and then analyze the relationship as it progresses. Real love is patient and it will only grow over time. Narcissists and players, like a storm, will pass over you quickly.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I been texting this guy and sometimes he act like he’s not fully there for me sometimes we texted a bit like yesterday and others time we texted all the night like last week and I’m not understanding why that he doesn’t have any time for me and he says that he love me but I honestly don’t know if he’s being truthful
He is fake.
Similar issue has happened to me before. There is this guy I met, he claimed he loves me and we will communicate for a week seriously loving each other. The next time everything ceased. He will come to apologise then we continue. The next minute communication stops. He won’t read my messages but you will see him online all the time. Next time he comes to apologise.
My sister stop before he breaks your heart.
So I’m in a relationship with a guy for almost a year in may. So it started very good in the beginning. Then everything fell apart. You know I moved in with him. Was like a month after. I quit my job for him so I can be with him. I thought he was the one. He started treat me with no respect. Calling me out of my name cause he’s frustrated. He gets frustrated when money is not going right. Car broke down. Didn’t have a car. He had to take me to work. Sometimes i walked to work. Was making 9 an hour. He would talk about me of how much I’m making. He would always take my credit cards from me. If I don’t give it to him he’ll get upset. It’s like he’s happy when I give him money. The sex is not the same. Don’t do it to me anymore. Every time we do it. He don’t get hard it’s like every time. He tells me all the time he’s not in the mood or he has a headache some excuse. Every time we are in public he stare another women’s ass while I’m right there. I tell him all the time do you love me. He always say I’m always in my feelings or stop the loving dovy shit. After he treated me like shit. He’s all over me and telling me sorry. But hours later he’ll be mad at me for the littlest shit. You know my hair is short. He always say no one will look at you with your hair like that. Just to make him feel better cause he’s upset. You know I don’t know if he thinks cause he’s 31 and I’m 24 thinks he got power over me. I don’t know. I don’t understand if he loves me or if he is using me. Sorry if it’s to long. Need help.
You have made the biggest mistake in your life by quitting your job because of him. He will definitely take you for granted.
Babe you gotta get outta that situation rely on a family member or friend for a month or 2 maybe stay with them so you have a roof over your head and are away from him, get back up on your feet and completely ghost. I understand this’ll be really difficult especially after so long but for your own health and (if) any future children. I was raised in an abusive household all because of the fact that what your describing is exactly how he treated and still treats my mom and then he would do the same shit to me… His own daughter. You need to seek inner circle help but also find someone who won’t tell him about it all. Just dip while hes at work with no warning and ghost because I know and probably many others agree with me, he’s not good and it’ll only continue to progress into abuse and could possibly become physical.
My suggestion to you is to literally run! Users do that they run hot and cold because they cant keep up on their act. Just because you’re questioning your situation is clear hes trying to get over on you. Leave him alone which will be tough and you will see you no longer have to doubt no more it will be obvious to you!
l think you should leave him, even though it might be hard but you have to. He is mentally abusing you, you want to feel loved but all you feel is hate and that he doesn’t want you. You deserve more. He is not the one. Leave him, my friend, get a job. We as women do not need men to survive, you have to survive for yourself because the world is wicked. Men always think that they are better than us, it is all fake.
Hes treating u like shit. Get out now.
Jameik…get out. Get out fast. That does not sound healthy at all. I’m not an expert on relationships, but someone very close to me went through something similar and it got very ugly. He sent her to the ER and claimed is as “an accident”.. please get out.
Yup… My dad sent my mother to jail multiple time from his own dumb ass injuries and it got really physical. She needs to get out. I mean we technically can’t tell her what to do but I’m fr worried about this girly. 🙁
Ryt
I’ve been in a relationship with this guy is been almost two months now everything is good, his a person who wants to settle down have kids and family like get married and staff but currently have no kid although there’s an ex who claims to be two months pregnant after seeing us together even so the ex claims that the guy still says he wants kids with me, family and be married to each other + i also want to settle down have kids, get married grow together with my family.
From my past experience in relationships i met guys who are not matured, thinks relationship is about sex, disrepecting and undermining me its like all good things are meant for them in life, that had a negative impact in my life like the way i view relationships, so now this guy of mine is everything i want in a guy but i feel like is so good to be true like everything he says or does he shows me that he does love me and thats enough for me.
should i just go with the flow?
Story of my life.. I wud advise u forget about him. Men are tricky, that supposed ex wit his pregnancy, am sure they are stil each other.
I’d stay to be completely honest with you. But only if he shows that the prego ex is outta his mind. Altho if it is his, I would understand if he wants to have some sort of part in the kids life. Just as long as they “hate each other” or at the very least, struggle to be civil. If they all chill and too friendly, thats when you dip. Honestly the poor guy prolly does wanna settle down but then the dumb bitch comes in with a belly. I would trust him but I also don’t really know him.
I recently started dating this guy I feel like he hasn’t broken up with his gf like he said to me I tried to ask him about it but he Said I mustnt be immatuerd and search him.
So what happened was that we haven’t been dating even a month and he wants me to visit him but I feel like I want to take things really slow but he insists and he recently asked me for money to come visit me since m working and he’s not he says he loves me and wants us to be serious but I feel like it’s quite the opposite and I’d be happy if he was true but M scared to open my heart for him
I met a guy that was a complete narcissist he woed me so quickly, money,dinner everyother day,phone convos all day from sun up to sun down.Its really sad but I think he could sense that I was very vunerable from day one. He gave me a fairytale situationship in 3 weeks and my smart ass fell for it all until I found out that he had a fiance’ and they lived together. Long story short If it seems too good to be true it probably is!
My man use to cuddle up with me at night an during the day , he doesn’t do that anymore plus he doesn’t kiss me or make love like we use to, he is more on his phone then paying attention to me, he wants me to make the car payment he loss his job I had to get me a job, Lord I don’t know what to do my life is a mess tell me what to do
I have been in a relationship with this guy for three years. We both met when we were going through a divorce. He treated me like a Queen. He cooked for me, complimented me all the time and told me everything he needed in a relationship. He open up to me about his fears and his terrible childhood. I met his family with the exception of the kids because he said he only wanted to introduce them to a woman he was marrying. He slowly started FaceTime them so I could meet them. I ruin the relationship. I never gave back. I was a taker. Then I found out after our last fight he started communication with his ex. He said I caused him to start back talking to her because as bad as she treated him I was worst. We are trying to work on it but she is in the picture. Should I give up or should I fight for his love back. He told me they are divorce for a reason but I’m so confused. Am I fighting a losing battle? He still picks me up for lunch everyday at work and we visit but it’s not as strong. He says if he didn’t want to try to get back he wouldn’t have me around but is it until he secure the relationship with her. Please help? Is it over or is there a chance?
Honestly when you said “I never gave back. I was a taker.” I can understand. I think you should keep trying but ty to get his ex out of the picture. Take him out sometime. But make sure your not sucking up to him, or he thinks your sucking up to him. Also try and mend what you broke, or what he broke. Hope this helps! Oo
Hey am inlove wth ths guy al he does he just promises and it just passes we moved in together 4 three months bt i had to go back home nw we are together bt its stil the xame fake promises