Why does it seem the best ones are always married or in a relationship? We’re not just talking about the hot guy with a girlfriend or the married guy down at the club. We’re also talking about you! You’re a catch. You’re hot. You’re desirable and, as you’ve probably heard before, you deserve a great boyfriend and some day, a great husband.
And I know, in the back of your mind you’re wondering what gives? Why are you single if you’re so “great” and everyone knows you’re awesome? What is the disconnect? Why is your crazy friend Debbie posting romantic selfies from Hawaii while you’re still trying to find someone online? Yeah we all have that one friend, right?
Don’t lose heart. There IS an explanation. And understanding why this scenario happens is the first step to changing your life for the better.
Let’s start by considering eight reasons why you’re still single even though you want to be in a relationship.
1. You refuse to settle for something “less” than what you want.
The simple fact is, if you really wanted to get married you could – you just might not like the guy all that much. In return for “being married” and marking that off your checklist, you would have to put up with a loveless and maybe even a dysfunctional marriage. It’s not worth it! People who must be in a relationship at all times, tend to settle on whatever is around town and they regret it soon enough. It’s always better to wait for quality.
2. You have more pressing goals at the moment.
If you’ve been focusing on important goals, daily or yearly, business or personal, then that’s not a bad thing. If you can’t commit to a relationship because of more urgent goals, then that’s nothing to be ashamed about. It’s honest of you. It’s practical. If you have other matters to take care of, related to your daily life, then don’t postpone them just for a romance. There’s a good chance you’re hyper-focused on them for a reason.
3. You keep waiting to meet someone better than average.
If you’re interested in meeting someone fantastic, and dreamy, and near-perfect, then hey? Why talk yourself out of it? The fact of the matter is, many women want to meet the “right guy” rather than settle on a guy who’s in the right place at the right time. Knowing that’s what you want, don’t second guess your decision. If you want someone special, and someone worth waiting for, then accept the fact that the search will take a while. But once you meet him you won’t regret dismissing all those other pretenders.
4. You don’t need a man to be happy in life.
Many women are still single not because they “can’t find a man” – but rather, they simply don’t need a man. They’re not in a rush to get married or find a boyfriend. Their lives are not defined by a man on their shoulder. Their value is not determined by their relationship. Unsurprisingly, successful women tend to enjoy their single life and don’t want to complicate things by getting involved with a possessive boyfriend.
Borrow from their confidence! Find happiness elsewhere before you even think about finding a new relationship.
5. You’ve got a big network of friends to distract you from dating.
If you’re a sociable person and regularly meet with friends, neighbors, work colleagues, and even strangers, then you might even find yourself less interested in finding a boyfriend at all costs. Wait till quality comes along. In the meantime, enjoy your life and companionship with the people who love you.
6. You are very confident and that intimidates some men.
In fact, most women who are alone are not unhappy. They’re just confident, high-value, and have very high standards. They are uncompromising in what they want from a relationship. This attitude gives a person high confidence. It makes you more attractive, sure. But guess what? It also intimidates men. Men with low confidence find you intimidating, and suave overconfident men might even sense you’re not easily impressed by them. That might repel men from you…but chances are, these are the guys you’re not interested in anyway. Good. Filter the crowds down some and then look for the best!
7. You don’t waste time with guys who are commitment phobic.
When you decide you want a relationship then you’re not afraid of commitment. You’re not overeager to get married, but you know where you’re going and what you want. You’re working towards a goal. A man that cannot handle that or isn’t ready for a commitment will not be compatible. You will either avoid wasting time with that kind of guy, or he will run like the wind, sensing that you’re goal oriented.
Don’t second-guess this attitude either. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a commitment. Once again, filter out the guys who aren’t on your level and welcome the others.
8. You’re just not ready yet.
Finally, it’s okay to be honest with yourself and admit that you – you! – are not ready for a relationship and that’s the ONLY reason why you’re not in one right now. You know yourself and you know now is not the right time.
Maybe you even realize that on a subconscious level. You’re avoiding commitment because you’re not ready to take those extra steps. There’s nothing wrong with this and the sooner you admit it, the sooner you can avoid dysfunctional dynamics in your relationships.
That’s why we always stress working on yourself before deciding to find love. Learning and love yourself will help you grow and become ready for the lifetime relationship you really want.
In conclusion, remember that being single is a choice. Rather than think of yourself as unhappy or waiting impatiently, take pride in your choice. You’re NOT willing to compromise your standards just to be in a relationship or “any” relationship.
The truth is you’d rather be alone than be with a man you’re not compatible with. There is great confidence in saying that and meaning it. That’s the kind of confidence you want to project. That’s the kind of attitude that gives you a sense of high value, not desperation.
Hold onto that. That unwillingness to compromise is going to turn into “drop dead sexy” when you meet the right guy who appreciates your unique qualities and wants to meet someone special. When that time comes you will be happy you waited for the right guy!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…
I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…
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I show you what this 5-word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
And how to attract the man you want…
Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…
No matter how painful things have been in your past…
You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…
Just click the link on your screen and watch the video right now…
If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…
