Do you feel weird about texting a guy first? Isn’t it better to give him your number and wait until he texts you? Not necessarily. Sometimes you can get a great reaction from a guy if you text him first…and yet, you don’t have to be too forward or come across as too interested.
It can be done and it’s all a matter of approaching him subtly and with respect. Here are 10 fun and attractive ways to text message him first, whether you’re already friends, or just met him on a dating app.
1. Identify something interesting about his profile and talk about THAT in detail.
There’s no need to summarize the whole of what you read. If you find just one thing interesting, talk about that with him. Ask him questions, make funny comments (but not insulting), and see how much mileage you can get out of that one topic. If it’s his favorite thing to talk about, you might be surprised at how easy it is to draw him out.
2. Just fast-forward awkward small talk and fast-forward to fun Q and As.
If awkward is awkward, then forget about it. Instead, jump directly to truth or dare type questions, something that tickles his curiosity, or allows him to give a strong opinion on a creative conundrum. These questions may seem silly but the conversation flows much easier when two people can just share their thoughts and feelings freely on a neutral subject.
3. Comment on a photo – not just a compliment, but an observation or question.
If his profile isn’t that hot, then single out something about his photo. This also works if you’re just casual friends on social media. Like his photo and then comment either publicly or privately saying something funny but still positive. This shows him that you’re noticing his pictures and you’re very confident in your approach. He will admire your enthusiasm and will answer your question, talking about that one unusual photo, or something interesting in the photo.
4. Surprise him!
True, the art of the surprise is a tricky one. Surprising a man is charming and exciting. But shocking him or offending him is a big mistake. The best thing to do is to catch him off guard with an idea, question, or statement, but try to keep things positive and sophisticated if possible.
That means nothing insulting, or creepy/stalky, but just sort of random and quirky. Try to think creatively and say something new that he’s never heard before. That way, he’ll instantly see you’re unique. And two, he’ll be more inclined to play this game and keep the topic going – even if it’s silly or absurd. Guys love it when a woman has a sense of humor that matches his own!
5. Meme it up.
If you can’t make him laugh, meme it up and send him a funny thing you saw online. That might be enough to share a mutual laugh. It may seem cheap but it works. The only caution is, sometimes memes are so funny that you don’t really know what to say after that big of a laugh.
If there’s an awkward virtual silence after sharing something funny, just comment on the joke itself, something about it that’s funny, interesting, or relevant to your lives. For example, talking about an actor or a cartoon character that was in a meme, or discussing the subject of the meme, and your opinion on that taboo joke. Memes can be a great icebreaker…IF you follow up on the train of thought.
6. Go a little META.
If you’re not sure what to say but are very aware that you’re talking to someone you like after finding each other on an app, then talk about how funny THAT IS. Poke a little fun at yourself trying to learn the confusing app, or say something sarcastic about online dating, and how awkward online dating can be.
This may be funny enough to make him laugh and he might agree about how lame apps are. Then, you simply turn the conversation into a phone chat or in-person meetup.
7. Take a risk and go for a cultural reference.
I’m cautious about these, because there’s a 50/50 chance he will get the reference, or it will go over his head. But if you can say something funny about a TV show, movie, music band, or news item that presumably most people get, he may get a kick out of it. If he likes the cultural reference, then breathe a sigh of relief! You have something in common.
8. Take a genuine interest in his hobby.
Whether you know the guy as a friend of a friend, or just met him on an app, chances are you’ve already learned of one of his hobbies. While it also works to mention something you have in common, guys are actually far more tempted by a conversation about THEIR hobby. (Or passion in life, or their job if they enjoy it) That means he gets to talk about his favorite thing and kind of aggrandize himself in the process. He likes to be seen as an expert and you’ll like how happy and enthusiastic that makes him.
Best of all, he’s now going to remember you as someone who helps him think about fun, awesome, and positive things in his life. That’s where you want to be.
9. Take a risk and talk (a little bit) about yourself.
While it’s usually best to make him wait for long and in-depth conversations about yourself if the two of you can’t seem to find anything to talk about (and yet you sense he wants to have a dialog with you) try just mentioning something interesting about yourself.
Talk about something fun you did, or something you learned, or something you’ve noticed recently. Basically, you give him a glimpse into your life. If he’s interested in you he will probably follow up and get you to talk more about your life and interests.
Don’t overdo it, and try to retain some mystery to keep him interested. But there’s nothing wrong with getting a good topic going, using some relevant personal experience.
As you can see, it’s all about being confident, friendly, and keeping a positive mindset. If you can manage that and let him know you’re not intimidated by him, or the prospect of meeting a new friend, he may be that much more intrigued to get to know you.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
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It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
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