Committing to a person can be a scary thing, even when things are going perfectly. That means it’s all the more terrifying if you’re not SURE about a guy and his intentions.
It gets really confusing when a guy promises to be true to you – and even believes it – but still doesn’t know the true nature of himself. This means it’s very important that you not just take a man’s verbal commitment to you at face value.
There has to be more. There must be signs that show he’s serious and that his LIFE is slowly adjusting to include you in it.
In this discussion, we’re going to talk about seven signs that show a guy is actually NOT that serious about you, even if he claims to be fully committed. If you recognize any of these signs, maybe it’s best not to commit more than you can afford to lose – like your heart!
1. You are still chasing him.
There’s no rule that says a woman can’t be expressive, determined, and even a little assertive when it comes to dating a guy. But let’s face it…if you’re putting forth all the effort to keep the relationship going? And he’s just sort of letting you talk and letting you fantasize…
But he doesn’t do much else? Then it’s very likely he’s already lost interest. He may be keeping you around for sex, or for some other reason, but it’s not enough. His heart is not in the relationship. A man taking you seriously will chase you, and be very attentive. He will be very appreciative of everything you do for him.
He will also get your cues of romance and follow up, finding his own unique way to show love and show investment in this relationship. This is what we mean by a man “chasing” a woman – doing something active to show his interest.
2. He hasn’t introduced you to his family…at all.
Not introducing you to his family is a bad sign – especially considering the fact that many men will introduce you to their parent(s), even if the relationship is doomed. Yeah, it’s kind of weird but some guys with dysfunctional mother issues, don’t mind involving you in their family drama.
That means that a guy who does NOT introduce you to his family is not at all interested in romance. Just sex…and not even the illusion that it’s anything more.
3. He still sees himself as single.
A man may still feel very amorous even after finding a girlfriend. But if he’s so commitment-phobic that he never really “sees himself being married to you”, or “settling down”, or “trusting someone” then he is NOT ready to get serious. He is basically dooming the relationship in advance, by sharing these pre-dispositions that are difficult to change, once he sets them in motion.
4. He’s still partying and acting like a big kid.
Guys all want to have guy nights and do fun things, sure. But there’s a big difference if your guy makes no serious effort to grow up, once a romantic relationship starts. Is he still going to clubs and flirting with other women? Is he still avoiding a career search? Is he still partying with his friends and less concerned about your family and your emotional needs?
You want to marry a man, not a boy!
5. He tries to avoid topics that are too private.
The first sign of a superficial relationship is one where you never seem to talk about anything deep. Maybe you realize this, and that’s why you try to challenge him with an interesting topic. But it falls flat! He doesn’t seem interested and avoids the subject entirely.
He either lacks the emotional depth or is so guarded, he just can’t even try to reach you on a mental level. Something is holding him back and until he confronts this, the relationship will always stay “one-note.”
6. He is not emotionally available – especially when you argue.
He doesn’t want to think about the future or explain your relationship. Not only does he avoid deep topics, but even in simple things, he is emotionally available. He doesn’t feel responsible for your happiness. He doesn’t try to cheer you up or even listen, whenever things get difficult.
Hey, we all get trying to stay positive and it’s a nice goal. But a relationship comes with responsibilities to each other. You have to be there when things get rough and not disappear just because you’re keeping things fun. The failure to meet your emotional needs is one of the most telling signs that things aren’t serious…and may never be.
7. He hasn’t had a stable relationship in a while…until you.
Nobody likes the “send your resume” approach to dating. We all like to think we’re above that, or that we speak to a person’s soul.
Unfortunately, statistically, when we ignore the “obvious”, we have to deal with the most obvious challenges! Like men that seem to jump from relationship to relationship, never settling down, and always having a huge explosion of a breakup.
He blames the “crazy ex” and at first, you feel bad for him. You hear his story and it makes sense. But if there’s a pattern of dysfunctional relationships in his past, you have to wonder why you’re going to be any different. It’s safe to say, at some point, all of his exes thought they would be the one to finally reach his heart and love him.
Wrong! The guy is the one who decides to fall in love.
In closing, don’t let the intoxicating feelings of sex, romance, and even shallow love stop you from seeing dangerous red flags.
If you’re afraid of getting your heart broken, then yes, it’s time to protect yourself!
You have to go by more than just feelings. It’s time to look objectively at the evidence, the signs, and make an informed decision. A man truly in love with you will work to get and keep your attention.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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