Men are easy to read…that is, if they’re shameless horndogs! Yeah, a guy’s signals are easy to read, if he’s trying to talk you into bed and he’s buying drinks and dancing. (Or using any expression like “giggity”)
But what about a more sophisticated man? What about a shy guy? What about a guy who uses more subtle communication? Well those men are more difficult to read.
Maybe you sense that he feels SOMETHING for you. Or maybe you get a weird vibe from him and can’t quite put your finger on what it is.
Does he like you? Lust or like? Or is it more platonic, as in, He’s thinking of telling you something but isn’t sure how you’ll react? Sure that’s possible. It’s also possible that he doesn’t like you at all, or maybe that he finds you annoying. How rude! But hey, anything’s possible.
That’s why it’s best not to assume anything and instead pay closer attention to his signals. Remember signals can be conscious or unconscious. Usually, the unconscious signals say a lot more about what he’s thinking.
Let’s consider a few very telling signs.
1. He acts very differently around you than he does other women or his friends.
It’s a big red STOP sign when you show up, because he stands at full attention. It’s almost as if he zones out. He stops, looks both ways, and then cautiously proceeds to talk to you. And yeah, probably because he likes you. He knows he has to choose his words carefully because he doesn’t want to scare you off or come on too strong.
The less interested a man is in a relationship, the less he cares about how he comes across. If he only wants you for sex, don’t be surprised if he acts rude or shallow, hardly paying attention to you beyond flirting. If he’s not attracted to you, he’s probably barely communicating with you at all.
This is especially important to note if you have been friends for a long time and you notice sudden changes in his behavior. He no longer views you as a friend…now you’re a potential partner. Uh oh!
2. He stares at you.
You caught him staring! His reaction is usually to look away, or to smile awkwardly, or to make up some lame reason why he was staring at you. But the fact remains, he was STARING. That’s a telling sign that a man wants you. He’s attracted to you.
Does he want a relationship with you? It’s hard to tell. If those stares seem long and smitten then it’s quite possible he’s already fallen for you.
3. He jokes about liking you or about how pretty you are.
No guts, no glory! Believe it or not, even the shyest guy will eventually work up the courage to compliment you. Or flirt with you. Or tell them “jokingly” that he likes you and wants to ask you out.
Sometimes these remarks are subtle. For example, working a physical compliment into a casual conversation. Or telling a joke where the punch line involves sex or romance. The shyer the guy, the less obvious it will be. But guys NEVER make such innocent remarks
4. He is actually trying during a conversation.
Not only does he love to spend time with you (you know, as a friend) but he also tries really hard to impress you. He boasts about his accomplishments, his hobbies, his perspective, and so on. He makes you laugh. He makes you think. He TRIES. He takes his job of entertaining you very seriously. You’re his audience and he wants to perform.
Men who don’t care, don’t try. Think of an unhappily married couple. You know the way the grumpy and unresponsive husband acts? Well that’s the opposite of a man in love!
5. He has a very hot/cold approach to dealing with you.
Part of the confusion about him you feel is entirely his fault! He’s warm, friendly and a little flirty one minute. And then something changes. He becomes distant, emotionally detached, and perhaps even absent.
Is he playing mind games? Is this a way of getting your attention? Maybe. Or maybe he literally can’t decide how he feels about you! Maybe he’s a nervous wreck around you because he wants you but also finds reasons to hold back. Hot and cold, however, is generally a sign of interest.
6. He is surprisingly jealous about other guys.
You’re not in a relationship, right? But the idea of you with someone else bothers him and it’s very obvious. He might get outspokenly jealous. Or he might make weird passive, aggressive comments that show he’s hurt by the idea of you choosing such an inferior man. “You deserve better!”
But it’s very easy to see, he wishes he was that guy.
In closing, remember to think in “clusters of signals”, rather than just focusing on one signal. He might be having a bad day, which would explain one odd gesture. But pay attention to a series or cluster of gestures. Pay closer attention to what he says and what facial expressions he has when he talks to you.
Over time, you will be able to “sense” attraction. Then, as you get to know him, you might even be able to sense what he’s thinking, behind his carefully chosen words.
As a general rule, it’s best not to make any drastic moves that might scare him away. You know, as in “Tell me what you’re thinking!” or “Do you like me?”
Instead, let him ask for a commitment. Men want to have control over their independence. They want to decide when they’re ready to have a long-relationship and once they do, they cherish that relationship even more.
Let him be a gentleman and offer to start an exclusive relationship first, one that he will be fully invested in. When a man leads, that means he’s serious about making it work!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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