The feeling of losing the man you love is awful. You can sense something’s wrong. You can sense he’s unhappy…maybe he even tells you that he’s unhappy.
Emergency! Danger! Turn on the sirens and start to panic!
Your instincts are probably telling you to love him, squeeze him, hold him and kiss him a million times so that he stays and loves you again.
It makes sense…unfortunately, it’s the wrong approach. Worse yet, if you freak out and start to baby him or smother him with love, it’s only going to push him farther away and much faster at that.
The secret to keeping a man is to keep him chasing you. Not to freak out and try a strategy that’s exactly opposite of what he wants.
If you sense that he’s not chasing you, not trying to impress you, and just seems bored or resentful of the relationship, then it’s time to take a step back. He needs his independence right now and you need to give it to him.
But just in case you’re feeling afraid—because he might cheat on you or leave you for another woman—there’s something you need to know.
He won’t leave you…if you make him worry about losing you first.
How Do I Make Him Worry About Losing Me?
Here are five ways to remind him of how much value you have, and how much he really likes you. As always, this is wearing the feminine attitude that says “You chase me.”
1. Get busy and make him work to get your attention.
Don’t be there for him if and when he’s ready. Do the opposite and get busy with your own life. Give him his independence as he requested but get busier with yours. Make yourself unavailable by planning full days of activity. Letting him know that he can’t reach you whenever he feels like it, is the best way to reassert your value. He had to work hard to first get your attention. Now he has to work hard once again to keep your attention.
2. Stop reassuring him that you’re waiting for him… be elusive.
In the beginning, you were probably very elusive when it came to making plans or admitting your attraction to him. So now it’s time to get back some of that flirty, spontaneous fun. STOP sharing your schedule with him and STOP telling him your plans, as if you’re still in a relationship.
This is the cost of independence, after all. Him being entitled to his privacy and you to your privacy. In fact, the less you say, the better. Because if he senses you’re keeping something from him or that you’re interested in more exciting opportunities, THAT’S when the fear of losing you really kicks in.
3. Invest more in self-improvement and make him crazy.
If he’s moved out or is “slowing things down” between you, now is the best time to start working on self-improvement. Start working out away from him. Start taking vacations without him. Start a new hobby or reach out for a promotion and don’t share your victory with him.
Doing things to better yourself makes him want you more…but excluding him from your life coyly lets him know that it may be too late to get you back. The more successful you appear to be without him, the more he realizes he might have made a big mistake.
4. Tickle his jealousy bone and remind him how attractive you are.
Provoking jealousy is practically biological, especially if he still loves you. Simply talking about how attractive or witty another man is will make him see green. The more he seems to ignore you, the more you should research all these other romantic opportunities.
Some women even choose to start flirting with other guys in front of him. It’s a not too subtle reminder that if he’s so unhappy, plenty of other men will appreciate your good qualities. I personally would advise NOT to do this. Most women screw it up and it can create a lot of resentment with a guy.
Instead, you should make him jealous of and compete for your time and attention spent away from him. You should build an abundance of connection with other people including other men, coworkers, friends, friends of friends, etc. Let him work harder to impress you and fight for your attention and time spent with him.
5. Stop giving him the things he used to love. Stop showing him you care, even if you still do.
Women who continue to give a disinterested man everything he wants are sending a strong message: please don’t leave. I can’t live without you.
Maybe that sounds romantic and epic, but it’s actually the opposite of what he needs to get from you right now. You need to show him that you don’t care or that you care LESS now that he’s undecided about this relationship.
Stop doing the things he depends on you to do, or that he likes. Stop giving him all this attention if he’s made it clear to you he’s unhappy with the way things are. Sure, you still care about him…but stop showing that you care, by remaining so fawning and adoring and apologetic.
This is about giving him what he wants. Space. Independence. The glimpse of a life he could have without you in it.
This is what should scare him into fighting for you because he is starting to sense that your heart is leaving him. And yes, this is precisely what happens when a woman does stop loving a man. She stops doing things he loves and they stop communicating so deeply. This will continue until he decides to chase you again, until his heart is in it again.
I know, this seems like a risky play. The last thing you want is this strategy to backfire and send him packing.
But I promise you that if you keep nurturing him, fawning over him and begging him to love you again it will not work. This will only make him want more independence and less attention from you.
Now I do advise you to take it slow and not do anything too drastic too soon—you know like dating someone else or being cold or cruel. But I do still advise you to be strong and be willing to step back.
No, you don’t have to walk away first. But stepping back just a little bit is the right call. And remember, this is all his doing. This is what he wants. Give him what he wants and then let him work for your favor again like he wants. This is the only way to deal with a man who’s having serious doubts.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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You have really improved our relationship may the good lord bless u so much
Absolutely namesake… His wonderful
I have a problem with my friend. He says he cares for me deeply and I told him that I love him and he doesn’t have sex with me because I told him that I love him so he says that if he gets it from me that he wants some other women too and I told him that I don’t like it so what do I do for him to want me for hisself and noone else I take care of his mom for him so he can work and I live in the house with them so what do I do I buy things for him on Christmas for 6 years and on his birthday and Valentine’s day and I don’t get anything from him
Don’t sleep with him. Don’t give him things. Become independent of him as much as possible. You have worth without always being there for him. Remind him of that.
Apparent he doesn’t appreciate
Back away
Put you above him
Please do as our coach says
Don’t let a guy devalue you
You are more valuable
Stop buying him presents ! If he doesn’t value you move along ! Don’t waste ur time!
He had his daughter to text me he doesn’t want to be with you anymore
Act like it doesn’t affect you
Be strong
Care about you
What to do when he spends more time on his phone and treats you like you don’t exist.
You start spending more time for you
Be your own best bud
When you are married and he has sex with another girl and tells you it was a mistake. That he loves you and don’t want a divorce and wants you to stay with him. What should I do I’m lost. Been married 16yrs
I was also merried 16 years and divorced . Honestly if did it one time they’ll do more times. I’m happy now because I know that I’m worth more then someone creating on me and that said that he loves you…..bullshit…cheating is a choice it not just happens …remember that
My new relationship is the first time “Brian” has been in love.
I’m 44 he is 40. Mentally sexually emotionally we are so connected. We are both a extremely good looking couple.
The more we fall in love the more other ppl are jealous and want to tear us apart. They see us happy and they will tell him anything from my past to get him to ask we a million questions about my past.
When We argue they seem to love it. Brian and I are a lot a like so we do bump heads.
I have fallen in love with him and I haven’t felt like this intensity for a man. I dont think ever.
Thank you Mathew…that is exactly what im doing now bcse he said he is in between and he is in his bubble so i walk away..even is.hard bcse i.do miss our mental connection and laugh…hope for the best. Warm greeting from Norway.
What to do if I love a married man.and he loves me too.but how I know he really love me
Is the guy still living with the wife?
You said he is married, I guess he is lying to you.
If he truly loved you, he’d get a divorce. Any excuses he gives for not doing it, means he’s playing and you need to get rid of him.
leave him alone he’s belongs 2 another woman
Sure, he may love you now and he could even leave his wife for you, but remember this…if he does it with you to another woman then he will do the same thing to you with someone else. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He’s not the man you want. Run now. Run fast!
What do u do when he’s on phone and keeps his ex on text but says he’s ain’t u know he is
Well, its simple . if he still texts his ex . he’s keeping her in the background
If I was u , if u are on friendly nature with ur ex .. Then get in touch mutual friends
And flirt your ass off
If you are in love with this married men and he is still with his wife for more than 6 months after you met, I’m sorry to tell you he might just be playing with you. As of now he has what he wants a wife at home that does everything for him and his lover on the side. You deserve better than a married man and are worth a lot.I’m sure there is some wonderful single guy waiting for you. Please don’t fall for the lies that the married man tells you. I wish you lots of blessings with your situation.
No matter how much you think your relationship is. Honey if he is doing it now to his wife, he gonna do it to you to. Plus what hurts is your gonna know every move he makes, how he acted, interacted with his wife. Teaching you to show no feelings, how and where you fooled around. Where to meet and what time, that was convenience to him. If you got to together you will never trust him. Once a cheater always a cheater.
Am deeply in love with a married man. He recently confused his feelings to me that he is falling for me.
Am really scared how my parents will take it as well my subconscious is always haunting me !! I don’t know what to do , I have tried to avoid him but it has failed…please advise me thnx
Depending on the man if he’s still with his wife, advice you tried your possible best to let him go, avoid him pls….Ur own will come
Just my little opinion
Run! If he wants you, he gets a divorce. I had a guy date me, even go camping next to my friend and I one weekend. After I slept with him, he told me he was married and separated. I told him to leave, He came back and I simply said,”Slide the divorce papers under the door, then I will open it.” Never heard from him again.
Good girl
Frequently show your appreciation for your partner. Say please and thank you. When you’re constantly appreciative of everything he does for you, he’ll realize you love him and want to keep him around. He’ll also want to stay with you because it always feels good to be appreciated.
My story is too personal to put on here. I need this system!
If I fell in love with someone that says he don’t want a relationship with anyone but he also knows what I want and how I feel and we stay together for over a year but when it only serves him he throws in the fact that he told me he didn’t want a relationship still after a year and he leaves me all be all the time won’t. One home what do I do
Thnx so much
He was with me 3 month. We was having incredible beautiful moment to gether. And he left me saying he was not in love with me any more. Its so sad
I’ve always ran after men and made a huge mistake by perusing them . I hope I can learn now and get better results .
A year ago I met the man that I was born for and it couldn’t have happened at a more wrong time in my life. Everything fell apart and I lost him after only 4 months. I would have loved nothing more than to take back everything that I did because it’s everything I shouldn’t have done and I knew that at the time but I don’t think I cared because I didn’t have anything to lose anymore. I have recently had him reconnect with me and I am making sure that I do the right way this time because I don’t ever want to be without this man in my life but I’m not going to let him know that, not yet anyway lol. Thank you for all you do for us because without your added guidance I think I would have messed it up hugely this second time around… Wish me luck!