There’s no question that some men can be deceptive, especially when it comes to separating booty call adventures from “serious dates”. They work hard to impress their serious dates. Their booty calls are stress relief, nothing more.
Of course, he can’t just come out and say that. The fact is, the man wants to keep the casual sex going as long as possible and so will probably say anything to reassure you that you’re very special to him and that this…you know…relationship is going somewhere. (Where? To the friend-zone, of course)
The problem is that at first, it can be difficult to discern whether your man is just being nice (and treating you like a nice booty call) or if he’s actually interested in a long-term relationship. Let’s discuss five signs that will tell you what he’s thinking for sure.
1. He’s never talked about being faithful, never indicated it, and actually seems quite secretive about his time away from you.
Guys figure, there’s no need to share information that hasn’t been requested. If you don’t ask about his other women, then apparently you don’t care—and since you two are not exclusive, why bring it up?
Yes, men only interested in booty calls tend to have other girlfriends besides you and it’s not too hard to see when they text them on the phone, or conspicuously hide their private life from you. He may not even want you to “pop in” on him and will typically invite you to his turf, at his appointed time, and on his terms. He doesn’t seem to want you in his life…besides those romantic two hours (or however long he takes) that he confines you to.
2. Sex is all that’s on his mind and your mind.
There’s no question that good sex can feel a lot like love, at least in the beginning. He enjoys expressing his feelings, he enjoys being intimate and maybe even cuddling. He enjoys the rush of endorphins and maybe even the oxytocin rush that sexual bonding brings you both.
The problem is that’s all the two of you ever seem to do! You don’t talk about the future. You don’t talk to each other much, at least beyond the peripherals, because you don’t have a lot in common. You don’t date very often because it’s much more fun to go to his place or your place and have sex. Why bother going out on dates if you’ve already fast-forwarded to the great sex, right? Well, that’s the problem. You’re already at the end of the finish line. This is as far as it goes.
3. He doesn’t talk to you unless he wants sex.
Now, this is a tricky one. It SEEMS like he’s there for you when you need him. But it just so happens that your “needing him” coincides with his episodes of horniness. He only seems to call or text you when he’s horny. Conversation, when you’re not talking about sex, seems awkward and definitely not comfortable.
Oh yes, he’s charming and you feel chemistry for sure. But you don’t really talk and you usually only meet when he has time. You don’t discuss emotional or serious things in each other’s life. That respectful distance you give him is actually what he requires for this work. No emotional attachment whatsoever.
4. You’re not part of his daily routine.
Not only does he leave after sex, or perhaps an evening together (some weird phobia about falling asleep in your company) but he always avoids “growing” the relationship. He doesn’t introduce you to his parents or family. He doesn’t really do daily phone calls or texts…like he’s not that concerned about losing you.
He may even seem to resent it if you do anything “cutesy”, as this suggests a more intimate and loving relationship. He wants this to be a torrid sexual affair with Basic Instinct-like dialog—nothing schmoopy!
You’re not really invited to holidays, and frankly, he avoids being there “for you” if he senses you need someone to talk to. He doesn’t want to be “that guy” who takes care of you emotionally. He wants someone else to do all the emotional investment while he gets the kinky rewards.
Even his friends seem skeptical when in your presence. They don’t give you the respectable “girlfriend” look. They giggle, they smile patronizingly…in other words, they know this is just a fling.
5. There is a lack of intimacy in sexual bonding.
While not all men are COLD in bed, and some can mimic emotional bonding, you will very quickly tell a difference between a man who’s falling for you (and having sex) and a man who just wants sex. Booty call guys seem to avoid those long moments of sensuous eye contact. They like it rough, wild and lustful…preferably in positions where they can fondle your body and not look so closely into your eyes. Doggy style, woman-on-top, missionary (right around the bosom or sniffing your neck)—these are the positions a lover takes. A man who’s in love won’t mind the intimacy of side by side positions or missionary with a far more patient and soulful exchange of eye contact.
Many women are actually surprised when they recollect and realize that almost all their sexual encounters with the “booty call boyfriend” happen while stoned, drunk or laughing hysterically. There’s no emotional intimacy. You’re naked in body, but NOT naked in mind. Not emotionally open.
Maybe you’re thinking well, during oral sex he’s looking at me. Ehhhh not really the same thing. Try gazing into his eyes for minutes on end and have a Tantric sex type of night. A man that likes you will fall deeper under your spell. A booty call boyfriend will freak out and want to leave ASAP.
As you can see it’s not necessarily that booty calls are emotionless sex. They’re just the wrong kind of emotion. All passion, no sharing, no vulnerability.
This is why it’s important that you put a stop to casual sex and reclaim your power in the relationship. Either he will start to miss you and fight harder for emotional intimacy or he will move on—leaving you to another man who’s ready to love.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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