I’m sure your guy has forced you to watch Star Wars by now! So even though you may not understand the whole Sith-Jedi-Clone war, and all that other confusing stuff, you probably do remember this part. The Jedi Mind Trick!
It’s a cute little thing, isn’t it? Wouldn’t it be cool if you could just flick your wrist and order your boyfriend to do whatever you wanted?
Well, it might not be THAT easy. But you may be surprised to learn that YES, you can actually use a few psychological tricks that will get your boyfriend (or even your secret crush) to think about you, obsess over you, and literally make him ache with pure love for you!
Let’s discuss at least three “tricks” that are so ridiculously easy and effective, you’ll want to try them out ASAP.
1. The 90/10 Principle
One of the best ways to get guys to obsess over you is to exercise the 90/10 principle. This basically means that you can trigger a feeling of “positive discomfort” for 10% of your relationship, while giving 90% of love, affection, and positive rewards.
That may seem strange at first, because don’t I usually preach that positivity is the key to a man’s heart?
Of course, but hear me out.
The idea is that we tend to value what we work for even harder than the things we get for free. Men especially live by this concept. They want what they work hard for. They disdain the stuff that’s given to them for free.
So you might be surprised to know that 10% of intentional “discomfort” will make your man long for the 90% of predictable and heart-warming TLC.
Now I’m not suggesting that you play hard to get or just randomly abuse him to keep him guessing. That’s a bad idea.
But what I do suggest is that you set some boundaries early on and when he accidentlaly or intentionally surpasses those boundaries, give him a taste of the 10% discomforting feeling.
For example, if you make it clear to him that like texts every day or every other day, and then he forgets to text you, you would ignore him for a whole day. That’s 10% of a discomforting feeling that he brought on himself by disappointing you.
You’re not punishing him for nothing. You’re just reminding him that he only gets “rewards” when he pleases you and works hard for your approval.
2. “Reframe” His Perspective
Reframing a person’s point of view is a shockingly effective and maybe even a little subversive mind trick. If you’ve ever gotten yourself “friend-zoned”, or had a guy lose interest in you, then this is a good time to practice this technique.
Reframing basically means to change someone’s opinion of you and form opposite feelings and associations than what he already has. While the technique is fairly complex to learn, the premise is simple.
You can make him think of you in a new way by the power of suggestion and by giving an “example” or by providing proof of the suggestion. So let’s say a guy has pre-judged you by thinking that you’re not ambitious or are too spoiled for his tastes…
Reframing his perspective would mean feeding him subtle prompts to view you as a hard-working and career-oriented person. For example, “I often think about climbing the latter but want to make sure it’s the right time…” That’s a pretty simple reframing suggestion.
But the proof would be providing a specific example that proves the suggestion true, such as “I was working as a Manager one time and I was faced with a dilemma…”
Now after sharing this conversation, he’s following your lead and accepting this new perspective of you, as a hard worker, and a successful woman. You fed him the idea, providing proof, and now you’ve implanted a thought into his mind.
And you can really use the reframing technique about ANYTHING, even sexual or intellectual reframing! Be creative and use some interesting prompts to change his viewpoints of you at will.
3. Summon the Provider
Finally here’s an amazing trick. What if you could turn a hot guy into your loyal love slave…without actually doing much of anything?
It’s time to play upon his masculine instincts. Summon his Provider and Protector desires by the power of suggestion.
This can be done by innocent little comments, clues, cues, or even just thoughtless remarks about how you’d like something, or want something, or need something. They shouldn’t be direct suggestions.
Rather, just talk about stuff you have to do, or how you’re expecting someone else but they haven’t shown up yet – in other words, make every excuse on why he doesn’t have to do it.
If he likes you – even a little bit – he will be more than happy to do you a favor.
It’s just built into his genetics! He wants to feel appreciated, true. But more than that, he has a desire to provide for you and to be responsible for your well-being. Sending him on little “quests” (the smaller the better) will get him “addicted” to serving you. And he will start jumping at the chance to do you more favors.
Imagine him addicted to doing you favors! That’s a slow path to falling in love. Reward him and appreciate him…you may be surprised at just how far he goes to provide for your every need.
Use Your Powers For Good!
Finally, remember that these “tricks” are not to be used for evil purposes. Guys do not appreciate being manipulated, deceived, or taken advantage of. When we say “mind tricks” we mean little harmless games that just inspire him to love you more.
That’s what he wants anyway, so you’re actually giving him more of what he wants. Give plenty and don’t make a habit of playing with his emotions in a negative way. All of this is for him and to make him fall harder in love with you for being a woman that understands him in a way that no one else does.
Want to learn more about how to impress men and how to charm your way into an engagement, proposal, and big wedding? Keep reading my books and blogs and let’s figure this out together.
