Sometimes it seems like men speak a different language. You know, their native language, and then another secret guy language, where they say one thing, but actually mean something else. And no, I don’t mean lying! I’m sure there are some guys out there with lying eyes, but this is something else.
This is more along the lines of men saying and believing one thing, but actually not realizing they mean something else. In other words, they say what they feel, but their subconscious mind is kind of revealing their secret thoughts.
I thought what we might try is an exercise of deciphering the code of the average man, and translating some of these innocuous things he says – and probably how he really feels – versus what he means. Or if you will, what he’s actually thinking, whether consciously or even subconsciously.
These might seem kind of funny at first, but they really do give you insight into how a man’s mind works.
What He Says: “I can’t believe you’re single! (Smile)”
What He Means: “You are too good to be true. Something’s not right.”
Men’s minds work similarly to women’s, at least when they find a potential match that’s almost too good to be true. By instinct, we all kind of wonder “They’re so good looking. So charming…what’s the catch?” So if he says this, assume he’s probably on the defensive, but is just curious about your story and what he’s in for if the relationship progresses.
What He Says: “You are the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen…”
What He Means: “I want sex and this line (sometimes) works!”
Well yeah, but I think we all know this one by now!
What He Says: “I’m not ready to be in a relationship right now.”
What He Means: “I just want sex. Problem?”
If you’re looking for a relationship and he throws things zingers out, take them seriously. Men are actually being very honest when they say this and that’s good. The problem is when women stop BELIEVING what he just said. Or worse, when the men retract that statement and start to fall for a woman that they know, deep down, have no intention of actually marrying.
Some guys are just too emotional and will make statements that contradict what they said all along. Pay closer attention to what they say in the beginning.
“I still want to be friends.” OR “I still want you in my life.”
What He Means: “Friends with benefits? While I date someone else?”
Guys probably do want to stay friends. But he will only want you for easy sex. The relationship has officially broken down, like an old Saturn car from the 90s.
“Hey what are you doing over the weekend?”
What He Means: “Report to me. I must approve of your plans or else I might change them.”
This is actually a weird things guys do, especially if the relationship is progressing or appears to be progressing. Rather than ask you out, despite your mutual attractions, he will say something vague like “What are you doing on Saturday?” and will avoid committing either way.
Now it could be that he’s too shy to ask you out…or it could mean he’s waiting to see if he could find any “better plans.” So always tell him you’re busy if he tries that. You’re too busy for any man who can’t make up his mind how he feels about you.
“Maybe you deserve something better than me. I wasn’t always this way…”
What He Means: “I’m going to be a total assh*le for a while. Maybe we shouldn’t do this.”
This one might seem harsh but it’s almost always true. When guys tell you that you “deserve better”, they usually mean it. No, it doesn’t always mean he’s a loser or a jerk. But it does mean that he has decided not to pursue this as a normal relationship, or, or that he is just incapable of treating you with the respect you deserve.
Expect a roller coaster ride after that. Hopefully, you’re at that point in your life where you want to avoid drama and find someone that does “deserve you” and really wants to try to make things work.
What He Says: “I’ve been busy.”
What He Means: “I’m just not that into you.”
Some guys will use this line in order to make themselves seem cool or cocky. But usually, once again, they’re telling the truth. They’re busy dating other people and are not taking the developing relationship seriously.
What He Says: “I don’t want to risk ruining our special friendship.”
What He Means: “I don’t really want to sleep with you.”
There’s a small chance that the guy is telling the truth – and that he wants to date you the old fashioned way, with no sex, just conversation. But statistically speaking, it probably means he just doesn’t want to sleep with you. Most guys want sex before they determine the overall value of the relationship and if this woman is the one he wants to commit to.
He might not be attracted to you. Or, maybe he just knows you’re never going to work out together and he doesn’t want to use you for sex. If that’s the case, perfect gentleman…but definitely not worth waiting for. It’s time to move on.
What He Says: “Oh we’re just friends.”
What He Means: “I was really into her…or maybe I still am, but probably shouldn’t tell you that.”
Guys DO have female friends, it’s true. But it’s best to make peace with the fact that many of his “friends” were probably exes, former crushes, and maybe even women he still kind of likes. He cannot “turn off the switch” when it comes to attraction.
However, there’s no reason to believe he has sex with all his friends. Most guys are perfectly capable of maintaining respectable friendships with women without cheating on the one they love.
What He Says: “My ex was nuts!”
What He Means: “I really have difficulty lasting more than a few months in relationships.”
A major red flag! Sure, all the exes might have done things a “little nuts.” But if he wants on and on about how his ex screwed him over and ruined his life, chances are, he brought on 50 percent of that drama.
What’s he really saying is, “Everyone I can’t work things out with is NUTS!” And that points to a rather narcissistic point-of-view, one that you are going to find impossible to live with.
What He Says: “I don’t know. Really.”
“I probably shouldn’t tell you what I’m really thinking. So I’ll just say I don’t know.”
Guys always know. Maybe they can’t express it into words. Or maybe they had a terrible thought they’re kind of enbarrased to admit. But they always know what they’re thinking.
Unless of course the two of are talking about dinner. And in that case, he means “I don’t want to make a decision! Surprise me!”
Remember, it’s not just what a man says, or what he feels in the moment, that matters. It’s also important what he’s thinking and how his mind is processing information. You don’t just want to know how he feels – you also want to know his thought process and how his emotions might shift later on.
Understanding how the mind of a man works is the first step to anticipating how your relationship might fare. Pay close attention to how men think in general, and you may gain insight into how your man really feels, behind his sweet statements.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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