Lao Tzu once said, “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” So it’s easy to see the why saying “I love you” is more than just a sentiment. When you reassure your partner that you love him, you are actually deepening the bond between the two of you.
The problem is, repeatedly saying “I love you” can become bothersome, especially if you say it the same way and without putting much thought into it. Verbal “I love you’s” are important, don’t get me wrong. But if you really want to improve intimacy with your partner, try thinking outside the box. Think of different ways to say “I love you”, and better yet, different ways to show love by performing actions. Actions always communicate feelings more effectively than just words alone. Here are 10 creative ideas for women on how to make your partner feel special on a daily basis.
1. Do something nice and unexpected without asking.
Rather than return good deed for good deed, try just taking the initiative and “giving” to your partner just for the fun of it. Help him around the house if you see he’s working, help him with a task, or make a treat for him to eat. He may be confused at your random act of kindness at first, but once he finds out it was just a way to say “I love you”, he will be inspired to surprise you more often.
2. Send him texts and or hidden love notes.
Change up the format of your cute “I love you” message. Send him texts periodically when he’s having a long day at work or write sticky notes around the house. These work very well because they always catch him off guard.
3. Compliment his looks, his body, his wit.
If you’ve been living with each other for a while, you may have become accustomed to the routines. Maybe you stopped flirting and stopped giving compliments because it didn’t seem necessary anymore now that you were in love. But these little gestures still count and they ARE a way of saying, “I still love you.” Telling your partner that he still has the same qualities that attracted you five, ten or even twenty years ago is a great way to boost his self-esteem and let him know that you still desire him!
4. Hug and kiss more often.
While sex may take a lot of planning, physical expressions of intimacy are very easy and take just seconds. Don’t’ wait for the right romantic moment—just do it! Hug him, kiss him, and be affectionate when he is just going about his day. (But preferably not when he’s working under a car!)
5. Take more pictures of yourself smiling and send it to him.
Whether he’s on vacation or a work, chances are he misses you throughout the day. Send him a happy photo and remind him of what a lucky guy he is. A positive attitude and smiling face are contagious! Put him in a good mood the next time he comes home from work with a reminder of how happy YOU are.
While sexy photos are great when you’re dating (and do still please a guy even into marriage!) showing him that you’re HAPPY and in good spirits, will rub some positive energy off on him.
6. Figure out when he wants to talk and then let him vent for hours into the night.
Guys always want to talk, even if they seem unusually mum from time to time. If something has happened, or something is bothering him, or if he has a bunch of new ideas, then he is definitely eager to tell his soul mate. But he also won’t start talking unless he senses that you’re excited to hear him speak! Learn to read his body language and voice and feel his excitement or anxiety. Then draw him out in conversation, letting him know you can listen to him as long as it takes.
7. Be very kind to his family members.
A man will always have a special place in his heart for his parents and even members of his extended family. Assume that he has a great relationship with all of them and be kind. Exceptionally kind! This is a way of saying “I love you” because loving him does mean you love his parents, siblings, cousins, uncles and aunts, and other family members. You may clash with some strong personalities from time to time, but accepting them all the same, flaws and all, sends a strong message of unconditional love to your man.
8. Dedicate your art to him.
Every guy loves the idea of being a woman’s muse. So if you have a special skill in the way of writing, drawing, painting, music writing or filmmaking, why not create a short little romantic piece dedicated to your relationship?
9. Watch his favorite show/movie/sport with him.
While you may do many things independently (and it’s actually a good thing that you do), doing things together just because you want to be near him is a wonderful gesture of love. Be his playmate, his friend, his buddy and chill on the couch while he enjoys your company and his favorite downtime hobby.
10. Make him laugh.
Keep the humor alive in your relationship and keep the passion for life going strong. Remember that when you both put forth effort in the relationship – to woo your partner, to flirt, to get their attention – you send a strong message: I want you. I really want to try to make every day fun and enjoyable. What better way to do this than to keep your partner laughing? Tell jokes, do comedy bits, or make faces if you know that’s what makes him giggle. Entertaining your man and giving him a good belly laugh is a great way to say “I love you…and that I love our life!”
Don’t ever think you’re saying “I love you too much.” Don’t stop saying it, just put some imagination into finding new reassurances that will catch him by surprise and make him glow all day long!
What if “true love” could happen in four, simple steps?
Too good to be true? That’s what I thought, too.
Until I heard this story about an old woman from Prague…
When you think about lasting, life-long love… when you imagine passion that burns for decades… when you dream about a man who adores you…
… You probably don’t think about cobblestone streets in Eastern Europe. Or scientists with beakers and white lab coats.
But this weird story from Prague may be the secret to love that never ends. See for yourself:
If you’ve ever wanted your man to worship the ground you walk on, this is worth ten minutes of your time.
(I couldn’t put it down.)
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Talk soon,
Matthew Coast
Hi, Matthew. I really appreciate your work. I’ve been following you and Helena Hart for a while now! This is a great article!
You both, and many other relationship coaches, caution against chasing a man, and list all the ways women do it, often unintentionally. Half of this list includes those things…telling me to chase my boyfriend. My question is, when does a woman make the shift from leaning back, and allowing a man to chase her early in the courtship, to doing all these loving things for him? I don’t understand when I should lean back, and when I should do the things on this list!
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months, and it’s going so beautifully, and I love cooking for him, and giving him massages, sending sweet texts, and generally being great girlfriend, while gracefully accepting all the love, and loving actions, he gives to me.
Thanks!
Nichol
This is a great question. I also think about the same.
Oh, and I forgot about Helena Hart through the years. Hope she’s doing well.
My husband so cold and distant from he doesn’t even kiss are have sex me anymore what can I do
If you can find a way to make a difference in the man please let me know my husband has not touched me in fifteen years and tells me to have sex with another man
Go head dear
Mary, your husband may have a health issue – physical or mental. He needs to get his hormones tested. OR he may have a girlfriend. What do you want for the rest of your life out of marriage? Prepare for the worst but hope for the best.
Hi,
Why your husband cannot play sexs with you? You want any men help you and giving best sexs for you?
I agree that maybe he has a health issue that is preventing him physically or emotionally to advance. Can you ask him or do you also have non-communication?
You should find someone who appreciates you and knows your worth and tries to prove to you that he deserves you. Give yourself the love and care you need to recognize and know your worth and accept nothing less. Sending love and healing light. You deserve better than that.
This is sad. Date yourself and practice feminine feeling messages with men. You’re nit cheating by talking to men… date yourself, focus on you… I replied downbeat or above… check it out
Crack on them .. look towards walking from your dreadful husband into the arms of someone who will respect you and make you feel whole … I have finally done this and am happier than ever ..
This is so sad… try pulling back and see if he pulls forward. See what you are doing and do something different as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity.
Focus on you. Take yourself out on a date, either a fun night with ladies or even just you, alone. Don’t do it to play games and get a reaction… but do it because YOU deserve to be dated and have a good time and give yourself lots of attention.
Don’t stuff down your emotions either and be afraid… feel them truthfully and authentically. Don’t ever blame him for your negative emotions… just feel what is there… “I feel lonely” “I feel distant from you and it is making feel anxious” List all the positive things he does and tell him how much you appreciate him. You appreciate all his hard work. Hope this helps
Focus on you. Take yourself out on a date, either a fun night with ladies or even just you, alone. Don’t do it to play games and get a reaction… but do it because YOU deserve to be dated and have a good time and give yourself lots of attention.
Don’t stuff down your emotions either and be afraid… feel them truthfully and authentically. Don’t ever blame him for your negative emotions… just feel what is there… “I feel lonely” “I feel distant from you and it is making feel anxious” List all the positive things he does and tell him how much you appreciate him. You appreciate all his hard work. Hope this helps Lots of love
I would distance myself from him…physically …make him ‘chase’ you that’s what men like do ..start being independent by going out with friends, working , shopping , no need to explain or tell him where you’re going beforehand or after . If he loves you he will miss you , and try to win back your affections . If not – divorce and starting again might be your only option
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I Have to read it again. I like it.
Hi Matthew I have been following you for so long and I have learned so
many things from your advices. thank you so much. but I want you to help me in this, I have a guy I feel in love with and I can see he loves me too. he treats good, he takes care of me. but he doesn’t tell that he loves it’s a half year not. what should I do? l feel like giving up on, but I love him so much.
Zaina, Have YOU told him that you love him, sent him loving cards with your favorite photo of the two of you, slipped a love note in his coat pocket for him to find later, written in lipstick “I ♥️ U” on his bathroom mirror, left a post-it note declaring your love in his shower or fridge?
Mugabi, that’s the way to do it.. find out what the women want too… just as the women find out what the men desires and wants
Kim, Tell him you feel that he’s being cold and distant. Tell him what your expectation is. While you may feel that you are doing your best ask him if there is anything you can do to change that. Perhaps he has health issues – mental or physical – that need to be checked out. Maybe he has a girlfriend. Ask yourself if you can live like this with him the rest of your life?
Ellen that’s 15 years to long. Men will do what you allow them to do. Boundaries have to be set and expectations have to be discussed and followed through. Mental or physical issues or both maybe the problem. There is a well known story on social media about a man and wife the had grown apart. The husband is cheating on her. She has cancer though doesn’t tell him. He asks for a divorce and she has a simple request: that for 30 days he carry her every morning to the breakfast table. At first, it was awkward and then the intimacy did follow. Their son was excited to see the live between his parents again. The father broke up with the mistress and he no longer wanted to file for a divorce. Then she starts losing weight and passes on soon after. He realizes how much he had taken her for granted and truly loved her. Now I know it’s just a story. I feel there are things from this everyone can take to heart and implement in their relationship.
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