Do you ever wonder if your crush sees you as a romantic possibility? Maybe…or maybe they just think of you as more of a friend. A lot of people don’t understand what “friend” means in a relationship. For example, there is a friend with benefits.
There’s the friend that you occasionally hop into bed with, because you know, you’re both kind of attracted to each other. But you don’t consider yourself FWB. It’s more like an accident or a one-time fling.
Then there’s that “friend” that doesn’t have a chance. The friend that’s a purely platonic friend. In fact, if this kind of friend were to ask out their crush, guess what the crush would say?
“Umm no. Sorry. I just don’t think of you in that way. You’re just a friend.”
“Well yeah but how about just one date?”
“No, sorry. We’re friends. Friends don’t date!”
Therein lies the problem. If your crush has friend-zoned you, then you’re probably not going to change their mind, especially not with a “Will you just take a chance?” speech.
It seems like an easy thing, but it’s not.
And contrary to popular belief, this doesn’t just happen to guys. It happens to women too.
In this discussion, we’re going to review some common signs that show your crush only sees you as a friend – and yes that means, you will probably be embarrassed if you ask them out.
Finally, at the end, we’ll discuss what you can do to get out of that friend-zone.
1. Your crush doesn’t get near you, like hardly ever!
People who like each other are very interested in getting closer, in proximity, and in thought. Someone is still far away from you, not to mention not on your wave-length at all, is not likely to be crushing on you.
2. Your crush doesn’t groom or dress up when you’re around.
It’s much more telling when we’re talking about a woman. But yes, even men do groom themselves and sometimes even dress to impress when they go to meet a woman they like. That means that if your crush shows up in plain clothes and doesn’t seem to care what he/she looks like, that’s a bad sign. People don’t “make themselves at home” around someone they’re attracted to.
3. You always make the plans, not them!
They are just not that into you – and you should know, since it’s always you coming up with plans on what to do together, never them. They’re just fine having you as a casual acquaintance. They’re not the one inviting you out or coming up with ideas.
If it’s all you then you’re the one with the crush…and they’re reacting to you. It’s time to think about what they actually want to do!
4. Your crush over-shares.
No, it’s never a good sign if your crush talks about stuff they would tell a friend and certainly NOT someone they’re crushing on. These are two distinct conversations. If you get the TMI conversation, then your crush doesn’t care about “grooming” or projecting anything to you.
They’re just chilling, treating you like a bro or a sister. Not a good place for you to be if you want to be more than friends.
5. Or they under-share.
On the other hand, if they never tell you anything or seem strangely unwilling to give you any information you request, that’s another bad sign. They feel no trust or intimacy with you whatsoever. That’s not the sign of a crush. A crush is more like, they’re shy but they ARE willing to gradually tell you what you want to know. Big difference.
6. They talk about other people they want to date.
Don’t assume that this tactic is just to make you jealous. While sometimes jealous lovers will do this occasionally, it’s usually bad news for shy or introverted people with a crush.
If your crush has never played mind games with you before, then it’s doubtful they will just begin toying with you for no apparent reason. It’s far more likely that your crush doesn’t see you, doesn’t even register you as a dating option.
7. They don’t talk about you to other people at all.
A good sign of a genuine crush? You can’t stop talking about the person! So that’s bad news – you know, if your crush never talks about you to anyone. That means you’re not even a blip on the radar.
8. They don’t remember the details about your life.
A very bad sign. While it’s true sometimes guys just don’t remember small details in general, very often a man will intentionally remember a small detail in order to impress a woman he likes.
If your crush is drawing a blank when talking about you, that’s a pretty telling sign. They just don’t think about you in that way.
9. You have un-sweet pet names for each other.
Calling each other “bro” or “sis” or anything that’s not sweet/sexy, well, that’s a sign of a platonic relationship! You can tell by their pet names for you (or lack of one) what they really think of you romantically.
10. Not only do they date other people, they try to encourage you to date other people.
Finally, don’t assume your crush is playing mind games if they encourage you to go out and date other people. They’re usually not toying with you. More like, wanting you to find someone to love. Or maybe they even sense you’re crushing on them, and are trying to tell you (in a nice way) to go find someone else.
In conclusion, keep in mind that when a person friend-zones you, it doesn’t mean that you can never change their mind. You can…but it will require a change in the way you interact with that person. Rather than continuing more of the same, and asking for a “chance”, it’s time to change the dynamic between you two.
It’s time to be more unpredictable. It’s time to be more interesting and well-read. It’s time to be more flirty and sensual with your voice rather than friendly and nice.
But hey, don’t make any sudden moves yet. We’re going to talk about how to break out of the friend-zone in another article on this site.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
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If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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