Ever heard that song “Let Her Go” by Passenger? It’s popular on YouTube and is all about heartbreak and letting someone go – only to realize it was a mistake later on.
That happens a lot in relationships and with both men and women. Men get so wrapped up in old heartache they oftentimes take for granted someone who genuinely likes them.
Women do the same thing. They pine after a guy who likes someone else, who lives in the past.
Before you know it, you lose a girl (or a guy) that really loves you, and you barely even realize you’ve made a mistake until it’s too late.
Maybe it’s about time we all wake up and start to notice the steps, the milestones, that foretell the end of a relationship.
1. As soon as you decide your partner isn’t a priority in your life, it’s over.
That doesn’t mean you have to worship your man or put your entire life on hold. No, a busy life is always a good life. You don’t want to give up your life for your partner. But if you never prioritize your partner and never give them the love and attention they deserve, the relationship cannot last.
2. If you constantly avoid intimacy, it’s going to fail.
Distancing yourself from your partner and never “letting them in” is a big deal. The entire basis for a relationship is a willingness to trust someone and make them part of your life. If you can’t do that and constantly push them away, you can’t expect love to grow. It will only fade over time.
3. If your partner never feels safe around you, how can you expect him to stay?
One reason why healthy and committed relationships work is because both partners find a “safe place” with each other. They find mutual interests and experience a feeling of comfort that fills their days and nights. If, however, the relationship always leaves him feeling insecure, or stressed, or picked on, then you haven’t given him that “safe place” that he wants. Men might be designed to “chase”, but they cannot be mistreated or taken for granted. Eventually, he will wise up.
4. The relationship does not feel like a team effort.
If you want to stay together for life, or “forever”, then it’s time to stop working together as a team, an equal partnership. Far too often, relationships coast along with one partner taking on most of the work. One sacrifices and gives. The other simply takes. These one-sided relationships rarely last until the very end. A man wants to feel that his partner gives just as much as he does. A team – a marriage built on mutual respect and effort from both partners.
5. If you have to lie to keep the peace, it’s not the real thing.
Lying is not simply a quirk. And the issue is not just that it’s morally wrong. Rather, it shows the fact that there is no trust in the relationship. One partner wants to keep the peace but feels the only way to do that is to lie or hide the truth.
Trust gradually erodes and before long, the whole relationship feels like a lie. How can you expect to keep living a lie? Eventually, all the dishonesty becomes impossible to deal with, making the relationship pointless.
6. You make too many threats and always enforce your way.
Relationships that are always on edge, with one partner demanding their way, are sure to dissolve. Whether you’re giving him ultimatums, using threats, or manipulating him to do what you want, all he really understands is that there is no compromise with you. You get your way all the time and he does not. Some guys can live with that but the majority of guys can’t. In the end, a guy wants his partner to compromise a little bit, at least as much as he does. Someone who loves him enough to negotiate and show empathy for his perspective.
7. You don’t support him or believe in him, even though he does the same for you.
Ambitions and dreams are important. While it might be realistic or honest to not encourage your man in all his endeavors, he will probably consider the non-support as a lack of love. Men are sensitive about this kind of thing. He wants to be appreciated for the man he is, not his potential, but his effort. It’s not enough to support him in words. Believing in him requires you taking the time to draw him out in conversation and find out what he wants, what he thinks, and what motivates him.
8. You disappoint your partner too often.
This doesn’t mean that you fall short of perfection or “greatness” – of course not. This has more to do with you not living up to the things you DO promise. He entered into this relationship based on what you said you could do and what your values were – values that matched his own. It was a good team, right?
But once you start failing your own promises, especially the very simple ones (like respecting him, being faithful to him, being affectionate, and so on), he starts to feel betrayed. You set the rules but you broke them. He starts to doubt that you will ever do anything besides talk, promise, and apologize.
Maybe it’s time to stop making promises that you know you can’t keep. Instead, focus on delivering the promises and the love that you can give him. Be honest and show respect to him by living up to your word…and knowing your limitations.
Wake Up and Listen to Your Partner’s Heart!
Whether you’re in a rocky relationship or are looking at the past, it’s time to start paying closer attention to the signs. More specifically, it’s about paying attention to your partner and what he’s saying to you. When we finally understand history, we can avoid making the same mistakes. That’s true in relationships too. Stop letting heartbreak, the wounds of the past, control your present. You can find happiness in the here and now!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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