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Signs He Pretends to Love You

The very idea of a man “pretending to love you” is shocking. We all like to think that love is something genuine, something emotional that can’t be faked. We even love the movie trope of a rich, handsome guy pretending to fall in love with an everyday woman as a dare – and then actually falling in love with her once he gets to know her!

But the reality is pretty harsh. There are some guys that fake love pretty well, and it sometimes DOES look and feel like the real thing.

I know a lot of people like to shrug this off too, figuring well boys will be boys and the girls should have been smarter. But I’ve known friends whose lives and marriages have been destroyed because they fell for the wrong guy, someone who tricked them for purely selfish reasons, and never bothered to apologize.

It can be rough. The best thing to do is to not let the heart make decisions for you, but to analyze the evidence and listen to what your mind says. If it’s real love then your heart and brain should agree on the guy.

Let’s consider some signs that reveal when a guy is pretending, and then the one sign that shows real love.

1. He sends mixed messages.

It’s not just your imagination. If your guy is trying not to lie (but still pretending to love you) he might try to play word games and hint at how he feels, but not come outright and say anything that implies commitment.

He might even be literally trying to use hypnotic techniques that make you feel close to him, but then follow it up by acting cool, distant, or unconvinced that he really wants you. You feel strongly attracted to him, and yet never really know how he feels because he avoids telling you. That’s not normal in a relationship.

2. He doesn’t chase you but tries to make you chase him.

A man in love with you wants to work for your approval. He invests in you. Mostly time, some money, and lots of physical “stakes” in this relationship. A guy that pretends doesn’t have to invest in you because he figures his romantic words can do all the talking.

3. He treats you like a princess in private and like a frog in public.

Sure, a guy can say anything and he might mean it. But the real issue is, does he back up his words in public? Does he say the same romantic things when he’s with his family or friends? Is he proud to be linked with you or does he seem ashamed to admit the relationship is real?

Men who pretend will treat their partner like a mistress and avoid changing their lifestyle to accommodate a girlfriend.

4. He is not really emotionally connected to you. It’s all physical or romantic, but not genuine connection.

You will notice, if you pay close attention, that he doesn’t actually try to connect with you on an emotional level. He may be afraid of what that will mean, and whether that will ruin his plan of conquest. He may change the subject, or try to change real conversation for more sex or empty talk. Only the best liars (Criminal Geniuses!) can actually fake emotional connection – most guys cannot handle it!

5. He is unusually curious about other things, besides sex and getting to know you.

Take special note of what ELSE he asks about, when it’s not about sex, or not about saying romantic things. Is he curious about your finances? Your family’s money? Anything else that might imply he’s fishing for information? This is something that player guys have in common with scammers. The desire to know specific information that is none of their business.

6. He doesn’t treat your family, or others, very well. It’s all about him finishing the mission.

It’s no coincidence that the family and friends of a woman will usually hate the guy who’s conning her. It’s usually not for the jealous or shallow reasons you think it first. It’s because they sense an arrogance about him, or something fake about him that he is projecting to everyone else – except you. Take the word of your loved ones seriously, especially if more than one loved one tells you the same thing.

7. He rarely ever takes blame for his mistakes.

This is a common trait for a narcissist who is so ego-driven, he can’t admit fault. Narcissists usually start off very charming and use love-bombing to deceive you. So be careful!

8. He is rarely ever emotionally available for you during crisis.

Real men are there for you when the going gets tough – even if it’s a stressful situation. Guys who are lying to you? They disappear. They don’t want anything too real with you, just the romantic highs of a fake and sex-based relationship.

9. He is satisfied spoiling you – NOT interested in helping you find your true purpose.

Finally, and this one is a kicker…ask yourself, does he want you to be happy? Or does he actually bring out your WORST traits? Does he help you sabotage your efforts to be successful? Does he spoil you with support and attention – when you know you’re making a mistake? Does he put your temporary comfort above your health?

That’s scary! That means he’s literally pushing you off the cliff, rather than stopping you and telling you that he’s worried about a fall. A guy who’s faking love will always do this, because “selling” the idea of a relationship with him is more important than being real and questioning your real feelings on the matter.

Conclusion

In closing, think about what real love feels like. When a man is faking love, very often it involves making you feel something for him. Forcing you, manipulating you, putting it into your head that he loves you and you desire him.

But love is different. When it’s real, it has a much more positive effect on you. Your life improves, you’re happier and more productive, and you have a very honest and communicative relationship that keeps you inspired.

Real love also benefits him. It’s not about trying making a miserable man happy. He’s already happy and hard-working and you can see that. He works hard to please you and to earn your respect over time – not just talk.

You are two equal partners who come together for a fruitful relationship full of happy memories and shared interests.

In the future, try to analyze your relationship or crush. Determine if you see real evidence that you’re both compatible, or if it seems more like a one-sided thing for him. If you’re truly in love you don’t need “love bombing” and that’s the truth!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

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