There is something so terrifying and so resolute when a partner says, “I just can’t do this anymore.”
The mood is somber. The arguments loud and never-ending.
Logically, it seems like it’s over. This man doesn’t seem like the same person anymore. And maybe he says the same thing about you. And just maybe, you agree with him. So much has changed since the first year you were together.
But emotionally, you don’t want to give up. Do you? You feel something is there worth keeping. The love you once felt was real and is still there. Maybe it’s even worth fighting for.
But the question is where do you start? And that’s the point of Brad Browning’s “Mend the Marriage” program.
The author has a very interesting and comprehensive course that helps marriage mates – and particularly women – save their marriage. Sometimes men are the ones who back away first, or become distant, or start complaining about some other aspect of married life.
This is the perspective that Browning takes throughout the course, that sometimes a wife has to fight to keep the marriage going strong.
But what the reader will notice is that “fighting for your marriage” is probably not what you think it is. This really is a new perspective and a new way of thinking about marriage counseling, getting your husband back, and working out modern problems.
What is Mend the Marriage All About?
Brad Browning’s program, Mend the Marriage, is all about the mechanics of making a marriage work. If your relationship is characterized by fighting, quiet resentment, and you feel as if it’s too late…
Don’t act yet! This book really has some challenging and very positive ideas that could help both of you to change your perspective.
What I liked about the book was how comprehensive the material was. The author of the program goes into detail about the psychology of a marriage. Why we get married, what we expect, and why we are sometimes disappointed.
The end result is a book that is very specific and one that actually feels personalized. The author even goes through a few different scenarios so that many unique marriage situations are examined.
I admired Brad’s method of not only providing techniques for helping a troubled marriage, but even giving real world examples on how to apply what you’ve learned. Chapters cover all sorts of things you’re definitely going to encounter in marriage, from handling arguments, to resolving conflict, to letting go of resentment.
The program does have lots of catchphrases and a fun writing style. But the the techniques are thoroughly based on psychology and therapy standards. The techniques he recommends have been tested and researched for years.
It’s evident just from reading the introduction of the book that Brad speaks with an authoritative voice. He’s an experienced marriage coach and has helped many people who are facing divorce – that’s right, couples that are literally on the verge of giving up for good.
Can Any Marriage Be Saved?
It’s a bold statement to say that there can still be hope – even after you cross that line of no return.
Now I have to weigh in here. Heaven knows I’ve seen some marriages that were so damaged and so toxic, that I cannot be one of those people that say, “Any marriage can be saved!”
Of course not!
So I want to make it clear that Brad is not suggesting that any marriage is salvageable. No, not in cases of abuse or other severe problems like that. But his argument is that “most marriages” can be saved, even if they seem hopeless – provided both partners still have some love left for each other.
Brad does say things like “almost guaranteed”, which is not something I would do for a number of reasons. But that quibble aside, I do believe we are on the same page. If you still love your partner and you both still respect each other, you CAN work on this. You can study these techniques and find a way to better communicate with each other.
What Does This Program Include?
The program is about 240 pages, at least the main sections of it. There is also an audio version of the text, as well as a seven-part video series to explain some of the concepts in a more literal manner. Included in the program are three bonus ebooks and even some worksheets to help you both get started.
When you order the program you can download it from Brad’s website directly. You don’t want to wait for shipping, because the whole thing is online.
Some of my favorite parts of the book were where the author sort of steps out of the main structure of the program to do some “Ask the Counselor” boxes, where he offers his opinion on a number of complex topics that would only be of interest to some couples.
It’s a nice touch and really makes this course feel complete, with specific and relatable content for everyone – not just the “average couple.”
Final Thoughts
I know Brad Browning from a few networking meetings, so I read this course with eager anticipation. I was not disappointed. He really honed in on what goes wrong in marriages and how to approach it – even if your husband doesn’t seem like he’s on board at first.
Yes, as you might know by now, it’s hard to convince a man to go to marriage counseling with you. But this program is something along those lines, without the pressure or the continuing cost of having to pay for marriage counseling. It gives you a strategy and a lot of topics to bring up with your husband.
Best of all, it lets you go through these issues without conflict, or either of you getting defensive. It’s a smart approach to a common problem and it’s really going to help build your marriage from the ground up if you give it a chance.
Rating: I give this program five stars.
