Here’s a point I think we can all agree on. Men don’t handle emotion as well as women do. Not only are men biologically different from women, but they’re also raised in a society that encourages “strong men” and “silent men.”
This means that many men will actually struggle to express themselves emotionally, especially in their relationships with women. Even in long-term relationships, some men struggle to express how they feel or if they want something from a partner. They might imply things, expect things, and yet frustrate their partners if they don’t communicate their needs.
Imagine then how difficult it must be for a man to express how he feels in early dating. It’s hard enough to express himself in an intimate relationship, so being emotionally honest with a woman he doesn’t entirely trust yet is challenging.
Studies have determined that men do experience the same level of emotion as women; they simply restrict expression of it, especially according to cultural norms. This means that a man may stifle showing emotions that he feels, as well as expressing what he feels. Emotional suppression can influence a man’s health and affect his confidence and his sense of personal identity.
And of course, it’s a frustrating experience for you too, when you can’t tell if a guy likes you or not. He seems to like you, but he never actually expresses his attraction to you.
Besides, “liking you” is far too general a statement. Does he “like” you as a friend? Like you as an acquaintance? Like you as a friend of a friend? Or does he like you sexually…and does he ONLY like you sexually but not romantically?
It’s all very confusing! That’s why the best thing to do is to look for the signs of true emotional attachment. Believe it or not, most men are not great poker players when it comes to dating. They give off obvious signs of sexual attraction and emotional attachment. If you see several of these signs, that’s promising, and that’s a guy worth hanging onto.
The next time you notice a likable guy in your presence look for these patterns in conversation and body language.
1. He devotes a lot of time, energy and thought into your interactions.
Men who are emotionally engaged are willing to invest more time in you, a far cry from men who are casually interested. He spends more time chatting, more time doing things for you, just to get an emotional reaction from you. In other words, he is focusing his energy on entertaining you. A man who’s interested always puts forth serious effort.
2. He gives you a different kind of look.
There are two “looks” that a man gives you when he’s interested. (1) The sexy come-hither look, when he feels attracted to you based on looks or other appearances; and (2) the look of love, or if that’s too premature, then the look of emotional attraction. This look is softer, more serious-minded than jovial. He’s looking at you, thinking about you, and realizing that he feels something genuine. It’s beyond attraction and it’s based on how well he knows you. There’s a difference between the look of WANT and the look of NEED. He wants sex but he needs emotional fulfillment. He looks almost teary-eyed and yet happy at the same time. It’s a sweet look, a vulnerable look. Once he feels it and sees you, even from a distance, he will give you that look.
3. He gets tired of flirting and actually wants to hear your opinions.
Men who aren’t emotionally engaged usually flirt first, think later. When he asks for your opinions, however, your stories, beliefs and ideas, that’s a sure sign of emotional engagement. He is impressed by your intellect and wants to learn more about you, your personal identity. He cares about what you think and he respects where you’re coming from.
Sex is not all he wants. He wants to get to know you and enjoy other dating activities together, like deep conversation and fun experiences.
4. He wants to bond and he’s not afraid of being vulnerable.
Most men avoid emotional intimacy, especially if they just want sex or just want friendship. A man who is emotionally attached to you wants to bond with you. He wants more intimacy and wants to feel even closer to you. He wants to spend more time with you and talk about things and ideas that matter to him. Don’t be surprised if he starts talking about his family, his memories, his passions and hobbies. He’s not only trying to impress you, he’s actually feeling vulnerable. He’s taking a chance and is and hoping that you might share something personal about yourself too.
5. He wants his family and your family to meet.
A family meeting is usually a great sign. Men only introduce people who “qualify” to their parents and closest friends. He’s attached to you and wants you to become a part of his daily life. This moment represents your two lifestyles coming together and building a relationship. He knows it’s a major lifestyle decision and is excited about it.
In contrast, men that are not emotionally attached will avoid family meetings. They’ll also abandon the relationship at first the sign of drama, conflict or negativity. Men who are family-oriented will care about you and your life. He’ll be there for you and so will his family! Men in love want to stay together in troubling times, not check out when things get bumpy.
The great thing about men is that whenever we DO feel confident and safe with a partner, that’s when we finally unleash all that pent up emotion. That’s when a man tends to make dramatic gestures of romance or even embarrass himself by doing something sweet and nerdy. Once his emotions are engaged, and most importantly when he feels valued and safe to express himself when he’s with a partner, that’s when he’s going to sweep you off your feet and become the Casanova of your dreams.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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My country Kenya is not on the list, it’s been difficult following you, is it possible it be added.
No, unfortunately Kenya is a high risk country
Good day. I have a dtr. Who got involved with a married man with two children 1yr and 6yr. I told her as others she is wasting her time. She in my opinion wasted 5 yrs of her life. The wife finally filed for a divorce.They were living apart. I have seen a pattern in my dtr. Choice she chooses men who are emotionally unavailable. Now after the divorce my dtr. Broke up with him. Your thoughts on dating a married man . Thankyou
Interested
I am also interested
How do you know when a guy is fed up and you should both walk away?
How do you get a controlling narcissist to fall in love with you
Why would you want a controlling narcissist to fall in love with you?
Exactly!! That’s possibly the weirdest question I’ve heard in a long in a very long time..The mind boggles…
On another note…I really love this article because I totally agree. People assume that guys will say when they are emotionally attached to someone but that’s not the case. It’s the little things he does that shows it. Like…when he’s seen you at your worst and sticks around, the way he looks at you, the way he hugs and kisses you, the good morning and good night messages, when he shares stuff that’s happened during the day, photos here and there…(of stuff other than his junk haha)
There are lots of little things he does that show it.
I think most people expect grand gestures nowadays and then get confused when a guy doesn’t do them.
Jessica May
I’m seeing this great guy for the past 2 years. We both had our partners leave the marriage at the same time. I have known him my whole life and l thought we were just going to be friends with benefits. However things keep going up then down. I have met all of his family and friends and he mine but lm confused about what’s happening between us. Sometimes he refers to me as a girl his seeing and other times he reminds me that were just friends and his not actively pursuing a relationship. I’m so confused, on nearly ready to walk away
Im so lost on this,i really dont know if he emotionally attached or just wants sex. I also just found out that he is married and gay too. P.S. wife don’t know that he loves bbc or bwc and dont know he out on lunch break doing ALL these things.
2020 very bad year.
Black,
He’s married and gay. Why would you want to be with someone who lies to everyone in his life?
It sounds like he wants to have his cake, ice cream, pie, and eat them all at once.
You deserve better than that.
Hi, I thought my guy was emotionally attached. I thought that when he said he loved me, and would do anything for me, and he was here to stay that he actually meant it! We used to talk for hours, and he always made a big effort to come out and see me. He drove once an 1.5 hours to come and give me a hug because I was very emotional. At first our communication was plenty and seemed very healthy, before 2 months had gone by, he teared up in front of me twice, first, when I had returned from a vacation and bought him small gifts, shortly after he told me loved me and began to tear up. As time went on, we had some disagreements, again he became emotional and broke down in tears. I haven’t had a grown man cry for me in over 25 years. I thought this was a very deep bond??? Of course, he became hot and cold after 3.5 months, and finally walked out after 5 months. He came back into my life after a 3 month break, made his argument quite convincing; he realized he was wrong, needed to change, grow up…Wanted to introduce me to his young kids immediately this time around, which he was hesitant before, just to protect them, but it never happened, he stuck around 1 month, said all the right things, talked a great deal about the future and broke my heart and left. I tried to contact him throughout the last 3 months to work it out, but He ignores me. I even mailed him a letter in hopes that we could work things out, but No response. So, what happened to this man who was sensitive, and emotional in front of me??? 🙁
As women we are very emotional and sometimes very intense so it is difficult to get what we want because we have to work long hours as well. Then this becomes pent up anger when you want something or in this case a man. I’ve been so tired that I have said things out of turn. Then just to I realize that I have to apologize profusely.