Are Men Liars and Cheaters?

The two most common frustrations I get from women are these:

“Men are liars!”


“Men are cheaters!”

Sometimes, I get both…

“Men are liars and cheaters!”

Is this true?

Wood is hard. Water is wet. Men are liars and cheaters?

Well, maybe… But maybe not…

When I was growing up, I decided that I was going to marry my high school sweetheart. I bought her a promise ring, told her I loved her, and had plans of how we were going to get married and live happily ever after.

Things didn’t quite go as planned… it turns out she was cheating on me with a close friend of mine.


That incident completely smashed my heart. Yet she wasn’t the only woman cheater around town…

My brother’s girlfriend cheated on him WHILE she was pregnant with his child!

That’s weird for a number of reasons I won’t get into right now.

And my brother’s first wife (a different woman) and mother of his second child cheated on him as well… more than one time.

I could go on but I think you can get the point.

All the evidence when I was growing up pointed to me that women are cheaters and liars. I thought women ONLY want to hurt men.

Is it possible that both men AND women are cheaters and liars?

That would be a very sad perspective on humanity if you believed that. Here’s the truth…

There are lots of men who cheat and lie… in some cases they don’t mean to but we’ll talk about why that is another time.

You need to ask yourself this very important question:

What if every man you met ASSUMED that YOU are a cheater and a liar BEFORE he even met you, JUST because you’re a woman?

How would that make you feel?

I can tell you this much… it would probably be pretty difficult for him to win you over and get you to like him if he treated you like you’re just going to cheat on him and lie to him.

So how do you think it would be any different for a guy?

Quick answer: It isn’t any different.

If you have the belief that all men are liars and cheaters, no man is going to want to be in a relationship with you.

And not only that, you’re only going to find evidence for that point of view. In essence, you’re going to create the experience for yourself that lives up to the stereotype you’re projecting out into the world.

Maybe you’ve been cheated on and lied to by men in the past. I get it. I really do. In fact, it might happen again.

But your experiences don’t dictate that ALL men are liars and cheaters any more than my experiences dictate that all WOMEN are liars and cheaters.

Nobody would get into relationships with each other if we thought either of those statements were true.

Instead, look at each man as an individual. The last guy you dated isn’t the same person as the next guy you date.

No relationship is the same and no guy is the same. You’d want a guy to look at you as an individual and not just categorize you with all women, wouldn’t you?

It’s the same with men. It might be true that you’re attracted to and keep attracting the same type of man into your life… in that case, you need to start meeting different types of men and break those old patterns.

We’ll discuss more on the topic on breaking those patterns and how to bring a different class of man into your life another time.

For now, just treat each guy you meet as a unique individual. And get rid of your stereotypes that will only serve to push the quality men, the great guys you want in your life, away.

Because there is little that is less attractive than someone who already thinks that you’re a horrible person and is looking for any shred of evidence that shows that you are.

If you’re going into a date with this type of mindset, things aren’t going to go well for either of you. You’re likely going to turn something that’s harmless into evidence to support your view point and you’re never going to find the love you want with this attitude.

If you come to a healthy man with the attitude that you know he’s going to hurt you, he’ll run. Come to a healthy man confident and secure in your own value and he’ll want to win you over.

What do you think about this blog post? Leave a comment below and let me know what you think… are all men liars and cheaters?

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

Click here to watch the video now <<

My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

Click this link to watch my video right now <<

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  • karen andrews

    Reply Reply March 3, 2015

    I did think man are liars,,,but im going to start thinking differently from now on,,,Thankyou for this Matthew

    • Matthew Coast

      Reply Reply February 23, 2016

      Awesome, you’ll do much better if you change the way you think.

  • Debbie Robinson

    Reply Reply March 4, 2015

    Yes very interesting, but it worries me when men keep talking about how much money they have and what they have done in the past. Its like im listening to an invitation card to convince me to jump into bed with them.

    • Matthew Coast

      Reply Reply February 23, 2016

      They’re just trying to impress you. That’s natural. If you like him, be impressed by him. It doesn’t mean you have to sleep with him.

  • Linda Frick

    Reply Reply March 8, 2015

    I try not to think that all men are liars and cheaters. However, my recent experience with a man who I thought was very honest and forthright just informed me that he’s been having an online relationship with a woman who he now thinks he’s falling in love with and he’s leaving town to meet her, has thrown me for a loop. This is a lie by omission. He admits he was wrong not to tell me about this email relationship when he knew it was getting “serious”, but that doesn’t make it hurt less.

  • viv

    Reply Reply December 18, 2015

    I always think both gender cheat and lie at a 50/50 rate. However the fox theory makes a lot of sense. We do see things we are looking for and sometimes CREATE things that arent there. Thanks Matt. You are a breath of fresh air.

    • Matthew Coast

      Reply Reply February 23, 2016

      Thank you!

      • Jennifer

        Reply Reply July 24, 2016

        My husband and I have been married for 16 yrs.and he has cheated on me twice that I know of. The first was a best friend, this last one he fell in love and moved out last summer. I think if we had communication when our needs weren’t being met, it probably wouldn’t have happened. People tend to look else where for what they aren’t getting in their relationships.

  • Lowanna

    Reply Reply January 4, 2017

    Im trying not to think like that, but if thats the only thing you see, from father, brother,cousin,nephews and male friends. Yeah its hard,but im trying

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